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I could use your help on how to approach one particular employees, 25 years old and has been employed over a year.
Employee: Good worker, high-anxiety, first "real" job out of college. She is 1 of 2 receptionists for our company. The second receptionist quit a couple months ago and a new one is being onboarded. During this time, she took on a lot of additional clerical work, understandably.
She recently said she was burning out but didn't want to take a day off in case she misses anything (is this from anxiety? A holdover from college? Unsure.) I offered to give her a comp day as a token of my appreciation for her taking on extra slack. I found out later that she has over two weeks of PTO saved up that she just never uses, so I feel like I was taken advantage of in this way as we always recommend that PTO be used first, but I understand that perhaps I didn't ask that off the bat and made an assumption about her not having any PTO.
She also said that she didn't like that some tasks were delegated away from her (which was done to give her more bandwidth during this time) as they were helpful for her to learn. She said she wanted those tasks to be re-assigned to her. I'm having trouble understanding how to reconcile her being "burnt out from too much work" with "give me back this additional work." I think what she's saying underneath it all is that she doesn't like the work that's currently assigned to her and she wants it to be re-delegated, but this is not an option as she is the only one who is able to do the work currently assigned to her. It seems to me that she wants to pick and choose her assignments.
She is also quite negative. She is always complaining about the office and senior management openly, which is contributing to negativity around the office. She thinks her workload (in general) is too heavy, but I honestly think these are "you" problems. For example, she is a slow typist and there are a lot of meeting notes to transcribe. She gets tired after spending half the day in meetings (taking notes) and then says that she cannot take on "any tasks that require a lot of brainpower."
I would appreciate your advice on how to respond or approach these situations. I know now to enforce usage of PTO first and foremost more strongly. Shame on me. But what else do you advise I do?

24 F, TX. I started going to college when I was 16 because my high school paid for it. By the time I graduated my basics were done. I picked my major after the 2016 election, poltical science with a minor in history and I will say this is what I’m passionate about. I mean, I know it’s what all young people are passionate about. But I absolutely eat this shit up. Unfortunately I realized pretty quickly that I fucked myself. I do not want to be a lawyer. I don’t have the money or the GPA (I think I’m riding at a 2.5 and I blame that on not taking it seriously as a teenager) I just turned 24. I still don’t have a degree. I changed my major to computer science at one point, did a semester, then to social work for a semester. I fucking hate computer science. I’m great with computers and the go to IT girl at my job. I’ve had a computer and internet access since I was like 5 so it all comes second nature to me but computer science. I’ve tried to take the coding boot camps, I HATE them. I’m not good at following along at home or WFH. I fail miserably at both. I need someone to report to and to be afraid of lmao. I also have even less interest in healthcare, ANYTHING related to it. It’s literally what every woman down here does and they make stupid good money but it’s just..not for me. I don’t want to. I have a weak stomach on top of not having great customer service skills. I’ve been doing admin/office work for most of my twenties and I do enjoy it. I currently work at a nonprofit and it’s been a great place for me. My title is receptionist but I also do write their grants/all social media post and I think that’s my issue. None of my skills are high paying ones. I’m not interested in sales. Not to sound like a typical gen z’er, but it sounds stressful. I don’t want to have to meet certain quotas and be stressed over that. I would like something simple just 40-50 hours a week and the same paycheck every time. I have loved the non profit world and my personality type fits in perfect for it but I also know they pay caps out around $50,000 and that’s the high end unless you’re an ED or an actual grant writer. Money isn’t everything to me which is why I don’t want to leave my current job right now. I make $35,000 in a LCOL area and I have no student loans. I’m also just not an expensive person so I manage pretty well. I manage to read about a book a week at work, got a grant writing certificate while working, and when I was still taking classes, I could do all my HW/readings at work. My boss is an amazing person and I feel valued/cared for at my job. I started at $10 hr in October but have gotten 2 small raises since then on top of a $2k christmas bonus. I have no intention of leaving right now but i know the time will eventually come and I want to be prepared. I don’t want to just be a receptionist for the rest of my life (even though this is the job that keeps every buisness together and is highly important) Also, I have bipolar disorder. I manage well with a therapist but currently don’t take medication. I have disability accommodations with my school, when I go. I really do feel like this impacts my choices as well since it’s not something that’s going away. I never report this to any job and don’t plan to because of the stigma.

Hi everyone, I'm looking for advice from anyone who has overcome similar challenges with struggling to find your footing as a young adult after university, struggling to find a job even with a degree, or feeling overwhelmed and afraid of the responsibilities and pressures of life.
Who I am: 23 F, Australian, graduated with a bachelor degree at the end of last year. Have been saving up the past 2 years, doing waitressing, nannying, bar work, and as a research assistant while studying, because I wanted to travel this year in 2023. I have a degree in International Security, major in Criminology, and I had aspirations of working as an intelligence analyst in the future.
I moved back to my family home in December 2022, and started looking for work immediately. I completed a hotel reception online course to try to improve my skills and hopefully get a job as a receptionist - after working in a restaurant throughout 2022 I was physically and mentally exhausted, my daily routine, sleep, lifestyle, and mental health were f**ked. I've been selling my belongings online for extra cash. After searching for work unsuccessfully for a few months I got a nannying job. I was continually searching for work, registering with countless recruitment and temp agencies, and applying for many jobs. I recieved an interview at one hotel and didn't get the job. My savings are not where they should be, and this is a problem because I leave to live in the Netherlands on a working holiday visa in August so time has run out and now it won't be possible to get a job in anything other than hospitality. I will have to renew my RSA and hopefully find somewhere I can work on the weekends. At the same time I have been applying for as many graduate programs for 2024 as I can. So far I have been rejected by all of them, including the one I was really hoping for.
This has had an impact on how I feel about myself and my mental health. I feel incapable and of low worth, experiencing constant rejection since I started looking for employment. I feel somewhat scammed with my degree, I feel that it is only valuable as a way into a graduate program and its not really applicable or desirable outside of that - it gave me no real skills combined with the fact that I am 23 and have only had many back-to-back short-term jobs in the hospitality industry, with one research job.
I am really afraid that I won't be able to find sustainable work while in the Netherlands, but it's too late to back out, so here is my plan and I am hoping that someone can tell me what they think of it:
I'm going to talk-up my past hospitality roles to a more of an admin-front-desk orientated role, fake a receptionist job at my friend's mum's company, and provide references that will back me up and know what to say. Whilst looking for this I will work in a bar or a restaurant, and consider nannying if things get bad, but I need to avoid that for many reasons, not limited to a) makes me feel like I am a failure at life, and b) it does not contribute to building my future. I will look for opportunities to upskill, and maybe change paths towards something more creative where my interests naturally are.
Looking back I wish that I had committed to one job in an industry with greater transferable skills whilst studying. To be fair on myself I had no guidance, I thought I was doing the right thing focusing on getting an education, and when I started university I had just emerged from a very turbulent and traumatic time of my life that took years before it stopped heavily affecting my behaviour - to cope with the memories from the past I was drinking, in a toxic situation-ship where I was being used for years, being unable to identify my own needs or look after myself, etc.
Right now I just feel incredibly lost and afraid of the future. Any opinions, tips, or ideas that anyone has would be greatly appreciated.

Recently, my mom came home with a game console she won from a raffle. She said people told her to sell it and I agreed. She asked me if I wanted it and I said yes. I like video games but I only use PC. This is a console I’d been planning to get my boyfriend since he doesn’t use PC. I wanted to use it as something to bond over with him.
My mom is now upset because I didn’t tell her what I was going to do with the gift after I said yes. She’d said that she told my dad otw home that she hopes I don’t give it to my boyfriend but didnt tell that to me until Id said it was a surprise for my boyfriend.
Several times I’ve spoken to her about her lack of communication but she has argued against it. Instead of avoiding conflict, I’m supposed to read her mind. She has gotten to the point where she understands I can’t tell what she’s thinking, but now its a lack of communication on my part for not telling her what I was going to do with the gift she gave me.
Now she wants me to pay for it if my boyfriend is going to have it, which I have said no to. Imo, it is a gift that was free. I didn’t ask for it. I’ve never had a console or a TV, nor do I have space in my room for any extra accessories. She has now brought both my sister and boyfriend into this.
My mom often does kind things to either be held over you, praised for, or taken away. - “Let’s celebrate your new job! Lunch is on me.” changes her mind when im walking back home because she has to get her nails done at a walkin salon - Screaming over small things, being petty afterward - Holds rides, trips to the grocery above your head - Doing kind things to hold over your head
I have been trying to repair the relationship between my mom and I internally because I feel like I view her too harshly. But every time I feel ready to accept her, things like this happen. She will start issues then act like she didn’t. She doesn’t see the issue in bringing in my sister and boyfriend in an issue between she and I. It hurts hearing she regretted doing something nice for me.
Give me different perspectives. I understand her intentions with the gift was for me to have it and use it, but I’m not responsible for her choices.

I (25f) moved out with my boyfriend, now husband, two years ago when I got a full time job. I enjoy the freedom so much and I finally feel like I can be myself.
I went from crying, missing mum so much, every time after I visited, to avoiding visits as much as possible. Now I visit her around twice a month only out of obligation.
Mum tried her best to raise me and we were close when we lived together. We always have enough food and warmth and she make sure I got my grades and qualifications, like learning piano, for a more promising future (Yes, I’m Asian). Well, never not enough but also not too much. My father was always not around because of work, he will expresses that he loves us with words but not much actions. It also feels like he is not present even he is physically here. It’s like he’s a robot, he say what he needs to say ‘I’m happy seeing you guys happy’ and then shuts off to either watching TV, listening to audiobooks out loud or playing games on phones.
After I moved out, I explored a lot about myself. I went to therapy because of my anxiety (which my mum also has but she is ignoring it) and found out a lot about my childhood traumas and the ways I was brought up. I don’t hold a grudge against my parents because I know they did what they thought was best to raise me.
When I am around them now, I don’t feel accepted as an adult. I feel like there’s still a lot of judgement around what I do and how I do things when I was just simply answering my parents questions on how is life lately. So I gave up on answering sincerely and just gave short answers when they ask about my life. My mum starts to peer into my life by asking staff at a beauty salon that we both go to about me. It feels weird to me. We also don’t have similar interests, so we usually just talk about the weather and news when we have dinner. I hate going to pointless social events (which I usually just won’t go) and I enjoy my time alone. Having dinner with parents just become one of those boring things now that I’m starting to go less. Oh and we have very different values, like on political issues, racism, world view, life goals… etc.
I’m also very occupied with my life, going to work, keeping my home clean, going to yoga class, play dnd and video games with friends. My weekends are very precious to me and I want to spend it the way I want.
The less I spend time with them the happier I am. Sometimes I imagine if they are sick in hospital, I still can’t find the motivation to care for them (My mum had a history of hypochondria, maybe that’s affecting how I feel about them being sick). It sounds really heartless not wanting to take care of your parents and not being grateful and giving back.
Am I weird? How do you genuinely care for your parents? Do you think of the happy moments you had together? When people whine about how annoying their parents are how do they see it through?

I’m gonna try and keep this short, no promises. with some context ofc.
So I (19m) have been friends with this girl (20f) for about 4 years now, it’s really like we are siblings, and recently I’ve felt a change.
I work a lot, overtime too, retail manager. my Saturday and Sunday is sometimes Wednesday and Friday, so I’m really tired on my days off, I work a really stressful job. My friend works 12 hour days every two days sitting in a tanning salon basically doing nothing.
She and I both keep our circle small, but her friends are really problematic. One in particular, they always block each other, so it’s on and off, and when they are off, oh boy, that’s all I hear, talking behind each others back. I’ve suggested to her multiple times to just drop her it’s a pointless friendship. I guess I’m just better off talking to the wall.
Recently we haven’t been talking or seeing each other as much, we live close to each other, about 10 miles. A lot of her free time is spent going to that other girls house, mostly because of her baby.
For two days straight I’ve been at home, and as tired as I am, I suggested we go out to eat lunch for two days in a row, my treat, and she wouldn’t need to get on a bus, because I told her I’ll pick her up. Well she said she isn’t in the mood to go out today, or the day before. I said okay no problem, and then I see her Snapchat, she’s at the girls house.
So I texted her saying, you said were not in the mood to go out when I offered twice in two days but you’re in the mood to go out with her. She replied with, I just came over. I left her on read.
Knowing her, she is basically a passenger Princess, she would rather die, then sit on a bus, which she did today for an hour straight. She would never get on a bus to come over to mine. The only time we basically meet up is when she’s working and she’s bored because all she does is sit in a chair and then work the cash register.
Other than that any other time I suggest we go out I just get blown off because she’s not in the mood or she’s tired. She expects me to drive over to her workplace just so that she wouldn’t be bored, and then when I’m over there, she gives me money get her some food, and then Can you go over here or get me this get me that.
Three weeks ago when I went over there on a Saturday I was starving plus I didn’t have any money on me because I left it at home and she wouldn’t order any food because she didn’t have any money but the next day she was telling me how she ordered a mcDonald’s and they left out the fries. This was after I ordered her a few lunches. And she has a good wage.
So right now I feel like I’m wasting effort on this. I’m being blown off, we don’t speak, I just think this friendship has run it’s course, I’m not going to continue putting a 100% into it when the only thing she does is use me, and it feels like shit saying it out loud but I’m only good for her when she’s in need of a driver or food, or when she’s bored.
It hurts to say but there really isn’t any point to this anymore. It honestly puts me down the way she has changed, a year ago she was someone I could always rely on, now I don’t think I can.

I did my interview with social security for disability and they said it’ll take 9-12 months to get approved. I’m kind of fucked.
Ideally, I could just work from home.. but the jobs I’ve found on indeed never reached back to me or were a pyramid scheme. Also, the vocational rehabilitation program never helped me after reaching out multiple times and filling out an application.
The job I had pre-injury was being a receptionist, but it came with a couple other physical tasks I can’t do now (T12 complete). So that’s what I’m worried about.
Anything I’m capable of doing, I will do. I will work full time even. I just need tips for jobs in person/how to phrase it in a resume without automatically being dismissed because of paraplegia. I cannot lose my housing simply due to the fact disability benefits take forever.

Originally posted by u/kitchen_earth7954 in AmItheAsshole on May 18, '23 updated on June 2, '23.
 
Trigger Warning: Hints of possible domestic violence, hints of possible financial abuse, possible divorce
Mood Spoiler: Progress in the end
 
Original
May 18, '23
 
AITA for telling my wife I’m tired of raising a kid that is not mine
I (31m) am married to my wife Amber (30f) we have a daughter Emma(7f) the problem is my wife’s best friend Jennifer (30f) has a daughter as well Harper (7f) well Harpers dad is a lazy sack of crap and refuses to do anything with his daughter. He is the type of guy that brags about how he never changed a diaper.
Jennifer and Harper are usually at Amber and my house on the weekends because Harper’s dad is drinking and watching sports all weekend. On Saturdays I normally sped all day with my daughter because I don’t see her as much as i want to during the week. However with Harper being there every Saturday anything I do with Emma I have to do with Harper. Take Emma to the zoo it’s Emma, Harper and I. Taught them both how to ride bikes, takes them both to dance class, take them both to the kids salon, and so on.
Mother’s Day was the last draw, I took them both to dance class Saturday morning ( Amber and I also pay for both dance classes because dead beet won’t) on the way home Emma asked if we could stop to get something for mom for Mother’s Day, I said sure but then it ended up I had to buy something for Harper to her her mom as well. On the way home I just kept thinking why am I buying someone else’s wife a Mother’s Day gift, that’s his job.
A few days later (because I did not want to ruin Mother’s Day) I told my wife that I am tired of raising Harper, her real father needs to step up. I tired of it taking away time I get to spend with Emma. She said that Jennifer is her best friend and we need to be there for Harper.
Now she is not speaking to me and sleeping in the guest bedroom. So AITA?
Just wanted to add some updates to questions I see.
Emma and Harper are best friends.
It was my idea to spend Saturday with Emma, I work more during the week so I wanted to spend Saturday with Emma and to give my wife a bit of a break.
We pay for things be Jennifer’s husband thinks it’s a waste on money to pay for dance class and Jennifer can’t afford to pay by herself.
Jennifer and Harper do things with Amber and Emma 1 or 2 times a week together during the weeknights.
 
In the comments:

where’s Harper’s mom in all this?

OP: Just hanging out at our place, Harper started to come along because I thought it would be mean to take her friend and not her. At the start it was not all the time like it is now

So your wife probably enjoys hanging out childfree with her friend every weekend. If your wife doesn’t agree to friend free days maybe the moms should start needing to attend the outings too? I don’t understand why Harpers mom isn’t at least driving kids to dance since you pay it etc?

OP: Our house is on the way to Dance, so she comes here first. I also like going to Dance, it’s kind of fun being the only dad there, and after class we have our routine of going to the local bakery and getting a croissant and smoothie for breakfast.

are the gift and things you spend on her getting paid back to you?

OP: The short answer is no, the longer version is Amber and I make a decent amount more money than Jennifer and her husband and her husband dose not like to waste his money on the kid. Jennifer can not afford to pay us back, So any money I spend on her kid I know we are not getting back.

7 years in, you've set the expectation and Harper is NOT going to understand your withdrawing. So hmm.... for taking 7 years to decide this was an issue.

OP: I see what your saying, but it’s gradually gotten to this point over 7 years. Part of it is she is here more now than when she was younger, part of it is as Emma has gotten older we do more involved things, when they were three we just went to the playground down the street now it’s trips to the science center.

you should definitely have a talk with this sorry excuse of a father, if anything just to tell him what you think of him

OP: I would but he is not the civil discourse type of guy, but more of the Alpha male beat you up type of person

Why do you pay for her dance classes? Why can’t either of Harper’s parents do it?

OP: I pay for the classes because Emma wanted Harper in class with her. Harpers father is they type of who is my money is my money and Jennifer’s money is their money and he does not want to waste money on classes.
 
Judgement: Not the Asshole
 
Update
June 2, '23
 
So quite a few people has asked for an update on this situation, sorry it’s taken so long but it’s been a hectic few weeks.
As for the updates the Amber and I are fine. Her reaction was based on poor word choices by me, poor communication by both of us, and some things I was unaware of at the time.
The short version is:
Things at home were much worse than I was aware of for Jennifer, and my wife had only recently found out how bad things were.
Mother’s Day was the straw that broke the camel’s back for Jennifer as well, she was raised in a you must stay together for the kids family, when Harper came to me for a gift she realized that her daughter did not see her sperm donor as a father so it was time to get out.
Jennifer came to my wife to ask for help leaving because she had no family in the area and Jennifer does not have the financial resources to leave on her own.
So the night my wife was going to ask me if we could help her is when I told her I was tired of raising someone else’s kid. That’s what caused her reaction.
The Saturday after out initial argument Jennifer did not come over and Emma went to her grandparents, so the wife and I had a long discussion about what was going on, that’s when I found out all the stuff going on with Jennifer.
The wife and I decided the Jennifer and Harper can stay with us for the time being. My problem was never with those 2 it was that I had to take over for the deadbeat ( or dead beet if you prefer).
When we told Emma about this she was super happy her friend was staying with her. We had a conversation with her that if she wants to have time with either parent with out Harper just let us know, and we do not want her to feel left out of anything.
Last weekend with the help of a Uhaul and some friends of mine we got all of Jennifer’s and Harper’s stuff and moved it into our house. The good thing is we have a 4 bedroom house so everyone gets a bedroom, the bad news is my wife’s office got moved to the basement.
Wish me luck we shall see how this goes.
 
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I know this is gonna sound terrible but hear me out. I am 27 turning 28 in September 💀. I am currently unemployed but going in a walk-in interview at Office Depot later today because i desperately need some sort of job at this point. So i quit my last job 2 years ago it was a retail job i was sick of during pandemic times and i still haven't stayed at a job ever since. And during those times i would get hired at different jobs but i would quit them either after orientation or the first day because for some reason idk if it was my social anxiety or something that prevented me from coming back to work. I would just feel anxious thinking of coming bqck to work. Idk why i am like this. It might be part of the reason why i cannot land any office or receptionist type jobs even if i have 4 years of customer service experience. Whenever i would apply for call center, receptionist or office jobs they would either not offer me the job or never schedule an interview. If i hadn't quit those jobs i would've landed a job that i wanted by now. I have no money at the bank now because of my poor money management.

I know this is gonna sound terrible but hear me out. I am 27 turning 28 in September 💀. I am currently unemployed but going in a walk-in interview at Office Depot later today because i desperately need some sort of job at this point. So i quit my last job 2 years ago it was a retail job i was sick of during pandemic times and i still haven't stayed at a job ever since. And during those times i would get hired at different jobs but i would quit them either after orientation or the first day because for some reason idk if it was my anxiety or something that prevented me to come back to work. It might be part of the reason why i cannot land any office or receptionist type jobs even if i have 4 years of customer service experience. Whenever i would apply for call center, receptionist or office jobs they would either not offer me the job or schedule an interview. If i hadn't quit those jobs i would've landed a job that i wanted by now. Is it the way i interview or is it just my outdated resume? Do these companies care about gaps? I've heard that don't but they probably do.

So I’m a psych student wanting to eventually become a clinical psychologist. I’ve been working part time as a receptionist at a psych clinic. Accepted another job as a mental health support worker (MHSW) so I’m working 2 jobs over the holidays until uni starts again.
Before uni starts I’m going to have to put in my 4 weeks notice for one of the jobs and not sure which one.
Pay is same for both. Reception job is very stable. Really chill, and I enjoy working there. Feel like MHSW will look better for my future master’s applications, but work is casual and I don’t have guaranteed hours. So I’m worried about not getting work and not being able to pay bills.
Any advice/opinions could be greatly appreciated.

I (25f) have the summer for myself since I won't start working on my dream job until (At least) September, so I am having drawing classes in order to entertain myself.
I want to make clear that drawing has always been a way of relaxing for me. I am slightly better than average people, but I'm definitely not great at it. That's why I want to take classes, I want to know my true potential and see if I can be like some of my relatives who are great amateur painters.
My mom is against it and suggest that I should drop the classes and "take better care of myself", which for her means: have my nails done more often, spending hours at the hair salon, apply moisturizing lotion everyday, going to the gym, etc.
I just won't do that. Having this classes is my dream since I was a teen and I had never had time for it until now. I won't drop just I can "look better".

I (25f) have the summer for myself since I won't start working on my dream job until (At least) September, so I am having drawing classes in order to entertain myself.
I want to make clear that drawing has always been a way of relaxing for me. I am slightly better than average people, but I'm definitely not great at it. That's why I want to take classes, I want to know my true potential and see if I can be like some of my relatives who are great amateur painters.
My mom is against it and suggest that I should drop the classes and "take better care of myself", which for her means: have my nails done more often, spending hours at the hair salon, apply moisturizing lotion everyday, going to the gym, etc.
I just won't do that. Having this classes is my dream since I was a teen and I had never had time for it until now. I won't drop just I can "look better".

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Guy at my new job is giving me signals but don’t know how to approach it. Potentially wanting relationship.

• Checking me out after I leave to go up the stairs… he glances up at me. Even looking back when he leaves a conversation with me smiling, says “bye j****” and usually winking.
  
• opens the door for me when I’m walking with him/holds the elevator open with his hand blocking it for me to get on. Think people can sense it as he’s not like that with other people….
  
• when his coworkers made a mess for me to clean up the following morning, he was the only one who apologies for the mess. Further in that day, after his meeting he proceeded to stay back to clean while his coworkers were going to leave it for me. He then proceeded to say “don’t worry, I cleaned up” with a wink. I’m a receptionist so do a lot of cleaning after meetings….
  
• smiles mutually back at each other passing each other and hi’s, followed by him looking back at me smiling.
  
• winks bye to me when getting off the elevator (almost like a subtle sign when other people got off and he was last to get off) or when he’s with someone and their talking so he can’t talk -waves hi from across the street with his lunch friends and smiles walking past each other
  
• seems nervous just as much as me, almost like he gets awkward when I walk in the room and stares at me and can’t stop looking at me
  
• Followed me on our work platform
  

Almost like we have this connection without much talking as he’s always with other people.
I’m having mixed signals as I don’t know if he’s just being friendly… or secretly likes me but doesn’t want to move forward past this subtle flirting? Should I risk it and ask him to go out for lunch or coffee?
Help!

Hello, I am moving to the city in a few months from California and trying to figure out how to secure a job before getting there.
Ideally, there would be no gap between moving and starting work.
My questions are:

• how early is too early to apply
• how to address the fact that I’m not yet in the city during interviews
• how to get approved for an apartment without the pay stubs from the new job (I can get pay stubs of my current job in CA but not sure that matters)

I’m looking for a corporate job as a receptionist, arts administrator, etc.

Guy at my new job is giving me signals but don’t know how to approach it

• Checking me out after I leave to go up the stairs… he glances up at me. Even looking back when he leaves a conversation with me smiling, says “bye j****” and usually winking.
  
• opens the door for me when I’m walking with him/holds the elevator open with his hand blocking it for me to get on. Think people can sense it as he’s not like that with other people….
  
• when his coworkers made a mess for me to clean up the following morning, he was the only one who apologies for the mess. Further in that day, after his meeting he proceeded to stay back to clean while his coworkers were going to leave it for me. He then proceeded to say “don’t worry, I cleaned up” with a wink. I’m a receptionist so do a lot of cleaning after meetings….
  
• smiles mutually back at each other passing each other and hi’s, followed by him looking back at me smiling.
  
• winks bye to me when getting off the elevator (almost like a subtle sign when other people got off and he was last to get off) or when he’s with someone and their talking so he can’t talk -waves hi from across the street with his lunch friends and smiles walking past each other
  
• seems nervous just as much as me, almost like he gets awkward when I walk in the room and stares at me and can’t stop looking at me
  
• Followed me on our work platform
  

Almost like we have this connection without much talking as he’s always with other people.
I’m having mixed signals as I don’t know if he’s just being friendly… or secretly likes me but doesn’t want to move forward past this subtle flirting? Should I risk it and ask him to go out for lunch or coffee?
Help!

Guy at my new job is giving me signals but don’t know how to approach it

• Checking me out after I leave to go up the stairs… he glances up at me. Even looking back when he leaves a conversation with me smiling, says “bye j****” and usually winking.
  
• opens the door for me when I’m walking with him/holds the elevator open with his hand blocking it for me to get on. Think people can sense it as he’s not like that with other people….
  
• when his coworkers made a mess for me to clean up the following morning, he was the only one who apologies for the mess. Further in that day, after his meeting he proceeded to stay back to clean while his coworkers were going to leave it for me. He then proceeded to say “don’t worry, I cleaned up” with a wink. I’m a receptionist so do a lot of cleaning after meetings….
  
• smiles mutually back at each other passing each other and hi’s, followed by him looking back at me smiling.
  
• winks bye to me when getting off the elevator (almost like a subtle sign when other people got off and he was last to get off) or when he’s with someone and their talking so he can’t talk -waves hi from across the street with his lunch friends and smiles walking past each other
  
• seems nervous just as much as me, almost like he gets awkward when I walk in the room and stares at me and can’t stop looking at me
  
• Followed me on our work platform
  

Almost like we have this connection without much talking as he’s always with other people.
I’m having mixed signals as I don’t know if he’s just being friendly… or secretly likes me but doesn’t want to move forward past this subtle flirting? Should I risk it and ask him to go out for lunch or coffee?
Help!

I am 30F and have seven years of corporate customer service and supply chain support. I also have experience being a receptionist, as I covered for one during breaks, lunches, outside hours for four years while working customer service. I also have a BA in Communications, 2020.
My favorite subjects were always English and Psychology. I am an INFP 4w5. My strongest personality traits are being sensitive, compassionate, and quiet.
My strongest work traits are being highly dependable, organized, and accurate. I am a very fast learner and dedicated worker. I don’t really desire to manage people. I’m not very interested in technical things (coding, engineering, etc.)
At work, I enjoy completing accurate work (order entry is what I’m used to) and writing succinct and professional emails. I mostly don’t enjoy feeling expected to make forced small talk, or the overall social aspect of work, unless it feels genuine and kind. I mostly keep to myself but sometimes I do feel social and want to chat a little. Being in an office is good for my motivation levels and to keep me on track on a schedule. I don’t like the bright lights and being overstimulated, though.
In my free time I love to watch psychology and personal improvement content on youtube.
I mostly just want a job where I am valued and needed and respected.
Could I be a good EA?

I started a new job as a receptionist and they are making me feel very uncomfortable and pushing me around. Like making me do the work fast and efficient. Might me “this week”will be my official first week. They’re a bunch of men. Should I quit or keep pushing through it? “Help please”

I started a new job as a receptionist and they are making me feel very uncomfortable and pushing me around. Like making me do the work fast and efficient. Might me “this week”will be my official first week. They’re a bunch of men. Should I quit or keep pushing through it? “Help please”