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2021.08.13 03:56 Volomon LostArkGuilds

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2015.04.14 00:54 Reeywhaar Art for artists

At some point i lost it on Art. Tired to watch amateur, low quality illustrations exposed as art. Here i want to show what art really is.

2009.09.11 14:40 csdthegreat HelpMeFind - Need something found? Maybe we can help!

Do you miss something that seems to have been wiped from existence, like a stuffed animal or an old candy? Does it seem impossible for search engines to help even with the correct name? Describe it here as much as possible, and hopefully someone can help you out!

2023.06.09 16:40 KabooshWasTaken Improving Counter-Strike.

This is the type of self-important post that typically turns into an overlong video essay, but I thought it'd be better to consolidate my thoughts somewhat and post it here to see how Reddit's sharpest minds assess my takes. I started playing CS:GO again after a long break; seeing how it wanes in quality of life features made me think about this and seeing how they changed the buy menu spurred me to write it up. For reference, the buy menu change was pretty much exactly what I would've hoped for: I think it's fantastic.
Because people will bring it up, I have gotten good enough at CS:GO to be better than 90% of people (on Reddit, probably 99% IRL) and good enough to know I wasn't good at all. Then I played a lot of Valorant, and got similarly good there. Some of my suggestions will resemble aspects of Valorant. I ask you to disagree with them on their merits, not because they may resemble Valorant.
I will organize them on levels of disagreeability. There are things I find to be objective, then there are things that I think should be objective. I will start with the former.
  1. Server browser. This will be changed in CS2, but yeah, it sucks. Everyone knows it sucks. Moving on.
  2. Demos are buggy. I'm pretty sure this will be changed in CS2 as well, as the demo vieweserver browser are archaic in similar ways.
  3. Radar is a mess. If you look at radar in Valorant, it looks like they actually thought about its importance -- radar in CS:GO feels haphazard, like an afterthought of design, and it makes the game even harder on new players (I will come back to this a lot). It is not a good sign that throughout the game's lifespan there have been very popular mods directed toward decluttering the radar (BananaGaming radaSimple RadaGolden Radar), and it's worse that every esports organizer has now rejected the default radars. They are a mess, especially on Nuke and Vertigo, and adopting Blast/ESL/whoever's minimaps would improve the playing experience.
  4. CZ-75. Just give it $300 kill reward, what the fuck. The pocket AK is a distant memory at this point and honestly it probably needs more than buffed kill reward, but $100 is blatantly stupid.
  5. Remakes. I was shocked that, in my time away from the game, Valve did something about people leaving (giving you a timeout and eliminating the heinous bot system) without allowing you the ability to remake. I would call it one of the most universally beloved options in League and Valorant: even if it's frustrating to waste time, playing a 4v5 is a larger waste of time. If someone leaves on pistol round, skip the timeout and give people a remake vote. It's been figured out in other games. On this note, adjust the three round period before giving bonus money for the shorter games.
  6. Allow people to give feedback on team damage. For the love of god. This has been requested forever, and the only reason it hasn't been added is (I assume) because it has relatively niche application. But after someone is teamkilled, allow them to tell the game whether the teamkill was intentional. It is possible -- unlikely, but possible -- to rack up three accidental teamkills and be kicked, and it shouldn't be. The technology is there.
  7. Incorporate the workshop essentials. I don't know if Valve would have to pay ulletical or what, but having Recoil MasteCrosshair GeneratoAim Botz as part of the base game would be a massive boon. While I'm actually a massive fan of the community back-and-forth that stems from the workshop/pro-modding framework, I think ideally the endgoal for these mods is incorporation. Having these maps as part of the vanilla game would make it much easier on new players.
Now I will move onto changes that I think should be objective, yet ones that I anticipate will generate controversy. If anyone even reads this shit, lol.
  1. Visibility sucks. It does! It's been an issue forever and I remember Inferno being changed for its sake. I would have understood some trepidation over giving players outlines before, but now that agent skins are here to stay, then it's really fucking time to offer enemy and ally outlines. I don't care that it's "lowering the skill ceiling," frankly I can't believe there wasn't more outcry for this during the new Cache/agent skin visibility controversy. It's absolutely braindead that you can die because someone has purchased and equipped the best CT agent for playing Ancient: there is really no justification for this in a competitive game. I don't even care if general visibility is being improved in CS2: I think player outlines are a feature of practicality. Also, if you disagree with me, you hate the colorblind.
  2. Visibility sucks, again. This is much less disagreeable (I think), but it's on the topic of visibility so I attached it here: the fact that you need the 'right' graphics settings to see through molotovs and, correct me if I'm wrong, but these differ from the right graphics settings to see through HE grenades, is absurd. But I'm pretty sure this will be changed.
  3. Buy phase. Time to eliminate RNG and allow people to roam around CT/T spawn during a buy phase that lasts some extra time. Like Valorant barriers, but confined to the spawn area. It may not be a perfect solution, as I worry this will slow down games a bit, but random spawns really need to go. The fact that RNG has such apparent, frustrating significance is not good. If barriers + extended buy time is too slow, then limit the RNG by reducing the polarity of spawns: have them relatively grouped up, and make each person carry the same spawn throughout a half. At least that way you don't have to guess past pistol round.
  4. Zeus. The Zeus is underrated, in that people don't take it seriously when it actually does serve a purpose, but please give it a $200 kill reward and let it pay for itself. It's not like we're seeing a glut of usage right now.
  5. Map rotations. CS:GO has really fumbled here, as I envy the timeline that had a more proactive Valve less afraid to force maps down people's throats. They didn't even have to be fully gung-ho about it; just putting Canals into Active Duty would have done so much... alas, this is something that has to be rectified now. My ideal is a StarCraft-esque system where there are Valve-sponsored community mapmaking competitions. As these maps get judged, the cream of the crop get added to the game, and Valve is a little more snappy with adding and removing maps from Active Duty. I think they're taking the right steps, but further encouraging community mapmaking would be the best way to reduce staleness while flexing on Riot, who have shunned it.
  6. Droppable kits. If utility is droppable, let's take the natural next step while also buffing CT economy/retakes a little. Someone better than me/with team experience can tell me if this sounds off, but right now it seems like saving is still too prevalent and CT economy is still too undertuned, and being able to drop kits is hardly a drastic change.
  7. More proactive community moderation. This will never happen, I understand, but the current state leaves a lot to be desired. While Valve may be responsive over email, what new player is going to be aware of [email protected]? And what would it matter, since their trust factor is going to be shit anyway and so Valve will leave them to the lions? I will go further and say that Valve's de facto policy of "if someone is harassing you, just mute and move on" is currently inadequate, for better or worse. Personally I have little issue just blocking someone who's harassing me... but then again, I get harassed very little (very good trust factor + standard male American accented voice), and I imagine that process is far more exhausting if harassment is frequent. Again, for new players, you need to ensure their first steps are relatively pleasant and that if something goes awry a solution can be promised. If a woman starts playing CS:GO and immediately gets harassed in their first game, or if a black guy starts playing CS:GO and immediately sees a racist steam name/steam PFP, you can't in good faith promise them that their reports will go anywhere. That sucks. Obviously it'd be great if everyone had kevlar-thick skin, but if you want new people to get into CS:GO, you can't carry that expectation.
As for some asides, the M249 doesn't need adjustment. Balancing a LMG for a tacshooter is hell and I'm perfectly content to leave it as a BM gun. The SMGs are a mess, but the issue is that there are too many and that they in turn feel redundant: there is no universe where any SMG is eliminated, just for the sake of skins.
My largest omission is matchmaking, which is itself a million separate issues manifesting together, but commenting on it feels like beating a dead horse. Yes, trust factor is an atrocity. Yes, 64/128 tick division is a joke. Yes, having to pay a third party for a remotely competitive experience is stupid.
Anyhow, be mean to me in the comments, I'll gladly fight if I disagree. Be warned though, "I'm not reading all that shit" is lazy.
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2023.06.09 16:39 Sneakayboi Advice on lifting the floor on an old barn

My fiance and I are in the process of purchasing an old farmhouse built-in the 1800s. The property will need a lot of work and one of the first projects I'd like to tackle is replacing a rotting sill beam at the back corner of the barn. The barn dimensions are approximately 23x30 and only a ~10 ft section of the sill needs replacement.
I would appreciate some advice on what jacks to use as well as lift points. On the interior of the barn there are relatively new floor joists and the sill on either side of the rotted one are in pretty good shape. So I was thinking of using bottle jacks and lifting partially from the floor joists on the inside and sill adjacent to the rotted portion lifting slowly. Anybody have any advice on how to attack the project?
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2023.06.09 16:39 Lamb_Shiftquantum Finished reply 1988,what next

So i finished my first proper kdrama, Befor this i have tried many kdramas but for some reason i lost interest in them for various reasons.Like goblin,itawon etc.One of the biggest reason was extra cheesy dialogues or you can say cringe acting.This also had some but cheese but in perfect amount.Also what i liked was that every character had their moments,and it was a journey.Bleave me after some episodes i didn't cared much about ending ,I just enjoyed spending time with my favourite set of character.When it was about to end i stretched last two episodes for about a month ,just so i could spend extra time with this.
So good peoples of this universe recommend me something which would again take me on a journey.
No extra cheese,only a little
Good acting.(this is the main reason i cried after allmost every episode)
A little bit lovy dovy stuff
Complete episodes (episode should feel complete) ,I think this was the main reason i was able to complete this.
My favourite characters:Bo-ra and her Father(Sung Dong-il) ,this man ruled
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2023.06.09 16:39 Frosty5520 TW : success after 10 FETs in a row ... keeping hope is SO hard but worth it

Just got back from an early ultrasound...
Baby A hb 139, Baby B hb 143, Measuring at 7w 3d which is 1 day ahead based on our transfer date.
Was told I had a 5cm SCH last Friday but the tech couldn't see it today...
I'm sharing this because even though we don't have our take home babies in our arms, this is a win.
This is a milestone and it's good news...
Thank you to everyone that has been so supportive so far!! This is the hardest thing we have ever done...
There is no guarantee on what the next 228 days will bring, and heck it will likely be less than that because what twins make it to 40 weeks, but we are grateful to get to this point!!
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2023.06.09 16:39 xvxCornbreadxvx What is on my cactus

What is on my cactus
Hello, I was just curious if anyone can help me identify this white residue on my cactus. I was told it was mealy bugs but I see no signs of life or movement or anything that resembles a bug when I look at it under a microscope. It is very fragile to the point of almost the consistency of confectioners sugar. (It is not that though, just for the revcord) Anyhow, it doesn't seem to be causing any damage. Just would like to know what it is, maybe mold, fungus or what not. I appreciate any help anyone can give.
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2023.06.09 16:39 Gutsifly Werewolf Build

for CoS i d like to build a Werewolf build. I checked with my DM, he has no problems with me being a Werewolf, but if i grapple someone, not only my movement speed, but also my jump distance is halved. I d still like to build this as a grappler, grabbing enemies and either shoving them prone or use my jump to knock us prone. If an enemy is unsusceptible to grapple, i can still go to town with claws and bites aplenty (both counting as magical even though Lv 6 feature would only apply to the claws).
Lv. 6, Point Buy
So i rage, grapple an enemy with Advantage and +7 to Athletics. Then i either standing high jump or running high jump (easier with Athlete): Depending, i ve go to throw either a 9 or a 7 ( (4STR+3)+Athletics + 7 divided by 2 needs to be more than 10ft.) on the Lv. 6 jump extender Effect, which sounds reasonable. Afterwards i stand up thx to athlete while the grabbed stays prone and i go to town with 2 claw attacks (or a Tail attack). In the later turns i shift to even get another attack as Bonus Action thx to shifter. It sounds fun and diversified, and not OP, as the athletics check can still fail (or i throw too high and use up my movement, leaving me prone as my victim).
Now i ve got 3 questions:
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2023.06.09 16:38 LadyHaley167 Trying to have different item drop when breaking ore with specific item

I am working on adding a fragments system to my datapack, to slow progression down just a little bit. I currently am having some difficulty getting it to work. Ill be honest, I dont really know what I am doing, I am looking at exsisting bits of code, and guessing how they work, and hoping for the best lol.
I have this loottable for sand working, flint drops from sand when broken by a bone, it does it 100% of the time which I dont understand why when im using the same loot drops setting at least in the loottable I got my hands on lol. here is the code for the working sand: https://hastebin.com/share/elubozevos.swift
Here is the code for the diamond ore drops: https://hastebin.com/share/ejutogetes.swift

I inserted the code from my sand example into here, and set the NBT modifyer to the paramaters I am looking for. I put \ in front of each quotation mark in the NBT data because it wasnt being accepted in a json parser and I saw a different example doing something similar.
I am no longer getting any errors in a parsor, and diamonds drop when broken by not golden picks, but when i break it with a golden pick, I get nothing at all, not even exp, which normally drops even if ive messed up the drop code.
If anyone could point out what ive done wrong here, that would be much appreciated. It could be that im trying to do this at 12:30am lol, im off to bed. Thanks to anyone who is able to point me in the right direction or help me out!!!
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2023.06.09 16:38 Nodicwallartcanvas How to Decorate a Large Wall Art in The Living Room

How to Decorate a Large Wall Art in The Living Room
Decorating a large wall art in the living room can be both exciting and challenging. It presents an opportunity to create a stunning focal point that sets the tone for the entire space. One option is to use oversized artwork or a large tapestry that commands attention. This can be a striking painting, a scenic photograph, or a vibrant abstract piece. Another idea is to create a wall of mirrors in different shapes and sizes.
For those who prefer a minimalist approach, consider a single, large-scale statement piece that captures the essence of your style. This could be a metal wall sculpture, a carved wooden panel, or even a decorative textile. Don’t forget the power of greenery. Install floating shelves or wall-mounted planters to bring nature indoors and add a touch of freshness to the space.
We’ve found great images to illustrate these ideas. Take a look and see if something sparks your interior imagination.

Decorating Your Large Living Room Wall

If you’re fortunate enough to have a living room that’s larger than 15′ x 20′, then chances are you’ve got at least one big wall. But what should you do with a large living room wall? We’ve brought together a whole bunch of ideas for you to consider as you plan your wall decor.

A Giant Painting

One thing about a large wall is it gives you the ability to showcase one fantastic painting. Whatever your style, whether it be abstract or representational, a large wall is almost like a blank canvas for the perfect large-scale art.
You may even choose to hang a large-scale painting that perfectly goes with all of the color tones you’ve selected for your interior. In this case, a large abstract in shades of sage and white is the perfect complement to this natural-toned room’s decor.
A giant painting serves as an awe-inspiring centerpiece for any living room. Its grand scale captivates the attention and adds a dramatic focal point to the space. Whether it’s an abstract masterpiece, a breathtaking landscape, or a vibrant contemporary piece, a giant painting injects personality and artistic flair into your living room. It commands attention and sparks conversation, creating a visually stunning atmosphere.

A Collection Of Plants

If you love indoor plants, why not hang a series of floating shelves on your wall and fill them with gorgeous succulents or tropical plants. Match your planters to your furniture decor for a truly cohesive look.
A set of floating shelves, like this one, bought in multiples will enable the perfect plant arrangement for the large living room wall.
Don’t limit vertical gardens to outdoors. This super cool vertically grown grass hangs in frames above the living room sofa.

An Eclectic Collection

An eclectic collection in your living room is an opportunity to showcase your unique style and personality. Curate a mix of art, decor, and personal mementos that speak to your interests and experiences. From vintage finds to modern accents, an eclectic collection adds visual interest and tells a story. Combine different textures, colors, and patterns to create a dynamic and vibrant display.

One way to showcase your style is to hang an assortment of items you love. Here two prints and a shelf arrangement with plants show off the homeowner’s natural vibe.
This urban space combines the use of bold graphics, and useful items turned art. Like the bicycle hanging in front of a large propped painting.

Mirrors On A Large Living Room Wall

Mirrors are a gorgeous way to reflect the room around you. This decadent, luxurious living room in sultry greys, silvers, and black utilizes a large-scale mirror above the mantel as decor. Matching trim on the wall repeats the mirror’s pattern as a design element. This creates comfort in such a large room.
This room, with its extraordinarily high vaulted ceiling, uses a sizeable black-framed mirror above the fireplace to draw the eye up while reflecting the nature outdoors. The mirror is a natural choice for this space.
Additionally, mirrors can visually expand the dimensions of a room, making it appear larger than it actually is. By selecting mirrors in different shapes and sizes, you can create a visually interesting arrangement that adds depth and dimension to the living room. Mirrors on a large living room wall are a stylish and practical choice that enhances the aesthetics and functionality of the space.

Get A Giant-Sized Television

If you love watching the game or your favorite movies on a larger-than-life screen, why not use your living room wall? This beautiful space fills an entire wall for entertainment. Large loft windows take up the adjacent wall.

Getting a giant-sized television is an exhilarating way to elevate your living room entertainment experience. With advancements in technology, larger televisions offer immersive visuals and a cinematic feel. Enjoy your favorite movies, TV shows, and sports events with exceptional clarity and vibrant colors. The expansive display creates a focal point, transforming your living room into a home theater. Gather friends and family for an unforgettable viewing experience. With a giant-sized television, you can bring the excitement of the big screen right into your living room, making it the ultimate entertainment hub.

Tree Branches As Wall Decor

Another super interesting idea utilizes the beauty of the tree branch as wall art. This piece is 80″ x 80,” which means it has the heft to command an entire wall.
Tree branches used as wall decor bring a touch of nature and rustic charm to any living space. These organic elements can be displayed as standalone pieces or creatively arranged to form unique wall installations. With their intricate patterns and natural textures, tree branches add visual interest and create a sense of connection with the outdoors.
They can be painted, adorned with fairy lights, or combined with other decorative items to create a personalized and whimsical display. Tree branches as wall decor offer an eco-friendly and budget-friendly option to infuse your living room with a natural and artistic vibe.
We hope these ideas have given you food for thought. Whether you want to buy something off the shelf, or cast about for something uniquely you, decorating a large wall is lucky. There are fun options. Decide on the style or vibe you want, then pick the right choice for that, and your budget. But most of all, have fun on the journey.
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2023.06.09 16:38 fulltimeidiota At my whits end

Hey everyone, Im completely lost for words at this stage. I never thought I would be coming here or asking for advice about this I’m general. I am terribly addicted to sports betting and slots. I don’t know what to do it’s every single time I get paid I think how can I double this? But I lose it all every time! I have lost so much money it’s beyond memory but easily over 150k which is mind blowing to me. My wife’s birthday is next week and I just went to the casino to try double my money to take her on a nice holiday and I’ve lost it all. I have no money left I genuinely don’t know what to do! I’m not looking for sympathy I just want to know some methods on how to control this and get my life back. I feel like I have a virus in me with this and it just will not go away. Please any help would be much appreciated. Note: I live in Australia where slot/pokie machines are everywhere and gambling ads are constantly bombarded on tv and social media everyday. I’m not blaming them or anyone else I just want some advice on how people overcome this. Thank you for your time
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2023.06.09 16:38 pheymann Dragon

is the beast of chaos living deep within. A beast that is married to hope and the fear that it may not sleep forever. But when you pushed yourself too hard and wore yourself too thin, you, this power that kept reign over it for so long, look at its rearing head. The dragon is breaking free. How magnificent its emergence out of order. So sudden, without a warning. It is breaking through understanding, ripping it apart, and before you realize what is happening you lost knowing altogether. It is swallowing you alive, flooding your world with chaos, and for that, you pay a bitter price.
Facing the dragon is the purest form of powerlessness, of being a victim of all the doubts and fears that you hoarded over a lifetime. Of being vulnerable to every part of nature and life.
Facing the dragon is the experience of never-ending anxiety. It is the realization that death is beckoning, that it already has you in its merciless grip.
Facing the dragon is anxiety in its distilled form. It is the fear of being pursued. It is the fear of being not strong enough to master the challenge of life. It is the fear of not being adequate as a father, nor of being the man, husband, and partner you are supposed to be. It is love turned sick, the incessant need to better the ones that are most valuable, most connected to you but mixed with the feeling of utter failure.
Facing the dragon lets you question the value of life. It opens the door to this perverse thought, always hidden but ever present. Is the end not better than this? Why continue? Why suffer? You know it is wrong, your whole being screams against this very idea, but chaos opens the door nonetheless.
Facing the dragon means lying on the ground of your living room in the middle of the night not knowing how to sleep. You can’t stand the idea of being in the same room as your family, because every move, every fleeting sound is grabbing the beast’s attention and frees up a new world of pain. And you just want to sleep and forget, get unconscious for an eternity before day announces that the torment begins anew. So you flee into solitude staring at the ceiling but chaos isn’t done yet. It fills your mind, your world, with pain and suffering and so goes the night, this intimate partner.
Facing the dragon is something you have to do every moment from now on. The night is not your savior because chaos pursues you into your dreams. It follows you even into the depths of a dreamless night. He makes your world his.
Facing the dragon will tear your body apart. He corrupts it and lets it decay while you are watching. The world of dreams is spilling into physical reality.
Facing the dragon forces you to the ground, laying on your back, breathing heavily while your pregnant wife is standing next to you, crying in the face of chaos.
Facing the dragon, that beast that mercilessly consumes all your life, so that there is no space left even for your own child, this spark of light that is showing you the way out of this storm. You cannot take his crying anymore, it is ripping at the very fabric of your mind. You are taken by the need to run away, to be alone, alone from any impression, and just so to end up in the very arms of your tormentor. But you run away nonetheless. Leave this externalization of your soul behind. You fail and anxiety is your punishment.
But you come back because you have to. For him. This spark has to prevail. You face the dragon. You enarmor yourself with discipline, openness, and a never-ending storm of self-destruction. You destruct yourself, take yourself apart to find the dragon’s hearts.
You torment your body until it breaks so that chaos has no place to hide anymore. You stand up every morning before the sun awakens to push yourself through the cold. You embrace the dragon’s kiss that didn’t let you sleep. You take the anxiety and fear and run. You run until every fiber of your material being screams: no more! You run even though you start to break. You take the dragon’s life. Let him bleed.
You step into the realm he occupies. You travel into your mind, into the deepest abyss, and face the dragon. You don’t wait for him to emerge, you chase him down with wisdom you fiercely collect. You meticulously study yourself, your past, present, and future to find each heart so you may shine the light of reason and compassion upon it. It might even wither. But be cautious. The heart is powerful. It is the very source of chaos. If you are not careful it might corrupt your reason, this last bulwark of your mind.
You, this being that fights against its hidden self, against this dark part of the soul, grow over time and with every victory. You grow closer. You become the dragon. You realize that it is the truth you never spoke, the truth you neglected, and denied its existence. This negligence the dragon remembers and its fury grows with every moment. You lied. You consciously denied the truth and in its place, hell emerged.
Speak the truth otherwise the dragon, chaos, and hell will start to grow within.

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2023.06.09 16:38 Pets_cute_puppies I'm afraid to visit my sister because of her husband.

Tw: domestic violence, child harm
He's become the most vile person. He tried so hard to isolate her from me. I wouldn't let him. He even assaulted me 20 years ago, but I still stayed close to her. They've been together since high school, so over 25 years.
She was so close. She left him for a little while but went back. Then covid happened and his dad closed his business and sold it. It was going to be passed on to him but he couldn't keep his hand out of the cash register. She worked in health care but burned out after the first year of covid. He also wasn't getting their kids to school to the point that child services was involved, so she couldn't work any more.
She was only back for a few months and she had enough video evidence of his physical and mental abuse that he was charged with several crimes including assault and stalking. She got a restraining order against him and he was out of the house.
That lasted a year, then, because nobody was paying the mortgage, she let him come back. He promised to take care of everything. He sold the house and now they live in a rental with their daughters.
Child services is still involved. Currently, neither of them work. She does all the chores, child care, everything. They're living on the money from the sale of the house. He lies in bed all day drinking and getting high, then gets up and starts fights with her. He's never sober. The last time he went to detox, he got the child services worker to pick him up 2 days early and she brought him to my sister's house. WTF! How is that part of her job? Just another person in his fog.
He thinks if they split up he's getting full custody. He's so delusional. It's a small town and he'll call himself the mayor because everybody loves him so much. If he only knew how many people laugh at him behind his back. But a lot of people are taken in by his whole show. It's unfortunate. He's dropped the mask to pick up alcohol and it's a dangerous combination.
He's been to rehab once and detox at least 5 times this year. He had a seizure last time and that child services lady thought it was a good idea to bring him home early? I really want to report her, and I probably will. Or my therapist will because when I talk about my sister she always tells me she has to report some of the things I tell her. Which is fine.
He still stalks her. If she goes to a friend's house he screams at her for not coming straight home. He's driving around a small town, drunk, looking for her car if she's gone more than a half hour. This happened last week so it's not getting any better.
She's in so much danger right now and she has no clue. He's ready to break and I don't want to lose my sister. She says she isn't worried because he's too weak from all the hard core drinking to really hurt her. Plus all the drugs he's getting from doctors to help him stop drinking. He's primed for a break from reality and doing some serious harm to her.
I only see my sister when we're not at her house. Last weekend we went out for lunch to celebrate my new promotion and things are so bad for her right now. She refuses to go to a lawyer, her oldest daughter will never forgive her. She could easily call his probation officer and ask for the restraining order back. I can't help her. I want to but it's not my life to control.
She wants me to visit her this weekend and bring my dogs. I miss hanging out with her but I know there's going to be an ugly confrontation if I go. There always is. And she gets the worst of it. So do I go? I'm not the type to sit back and take abuse from anyone. And at this point I think that there's nothing I can do for her. I just want her to be safe but I don't think that's ever going to happen. He'll kill her and the kids and then himself before he lets her go. Or I can go and just ignore him. It's really hard for me though.
My niece, she's 7, tells me things that hurt my heart. I've promised her I won't tell her mom, and I keep these promises. I do talk to the child services lady, and my sister has given me permission. I'm trying to be a safe person for her. She hates him and wishes he would go away. I don't blame her. I saw a couple of the videos my sister used to prosecute him and seeing my niece like that? My sister should be in a city 1000 miles away by now. I wish I could help her.
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2023.06.09 16:38 101100110110101 Autism and S brake (Si PoLR); leading E (Fe program) and obsession

So, I interpret the following things all as S brake, or Si PoLR. Still, I somehow think I could write as much about my personal experience with F brake, or Se PoLR. Framing it in Socionics jargon, it feels like my cognition abandoned Sensation in general, inflating Intuition to the maximum and balancing it out with strong E-L (FeTi), neglecting P-R (TeFi).
Before you think that I think this was something cool, like Intuition from MBTI or even ""16p"", lol, I want to emphasize that what this primarily means is that I hate facts and sources with disgust; instead, I need to think up everything in my own images, thoughts, words, metaphors or analogies from the bottom. This may sound like special unicorn energy, but in reality it just is inefficient, hated in academia, and generally gets you nowhere (especially according to Gamma values, lol). Everything has to be my idea, truly living inside of me; otherwise it's worthless external bs I ignore as a whole. Researching for my bachelor's thesis soon will mean horror for me, as you might imagine now.
My life is one big concatenation of random special interests on which my obsessive tunnel-vision focuses. (Typology is one of them.) My parents told me this behavior was already present at an early age with all kinds of weird eruptions. Only now, for about the last 5 years, this paradigm shows its downsides.
Currently, one phase can take up to 5-6 weeks, in which I sleep around 4 hours per night, dreaming of nothing but the current thing, and doing nothing else whenever possible while awake. It comes close to mania. In such phases I dissolve in my interests, neglecting everything from hygiene, sleep, food and social contact. However, from the outside I may seem functional: I don't miss work and keep a collected appearance; but everything which has no immediate negative consequences gets reduced to the bare minimum.
When focusing on sensations in a lighthearted way, I realize my general sensitivity:
I (unconsciously) am continuously fleeing from sensation in life by keeping a mentally over-active, even draining state. I always had a very good focus, making it possible to point all of my attention on one thing for a long period of time. This makes me forget my body about 95% of my life. Problems arise in these remaining 5%, leaving me with all kinds of hypochondriac phenomena, weird body sensations, excessive fears of dying and generally an over-reaction to the smallest signal from inside.
I don't like going to the doctor because I fear I will become a person who will run there every other day due to some worries that all turned out to be nothing serious anyway. However, the last time I was there I had to go as I felt pressure on my chest still days after a severe panic attack (, that I did not recognize as a panic attack back then). My doctor asked me if I ever thought about autism and my mind immediately was like: You wot mate? Don't you realize my Fe is strong af?!
However, I see now that me being somewhere on the spectrum is at least likely, and I'm just very experienced at what psychology calls "masking". After telling my parents, they researched autism themselves and now they regret that they didn't knew about it and how it generally plays out back when I was younger. They are both sure I "have it", while I myself am not fully convinced.
Seeing how large parts of the community portrait E (or Fe) sometimes is irritating from my perspective. I'm not that much of a people person. I can be - all my life I half-consciously worked on a system what makes people tick; something I like to envision as a mental mosaic of the general person in which every shard represents a single experience of mine, all connecting to one picture - but it's very exhausting for me. People tend to like me while naturally I'm more edgy in the not so cool way. I'm sure this community wouldn't type me as EIE if you knew me in real life, but after learning so much about myself with the help of typological framing, I don't care anymore about the label. (As the seriousness of my flair[s] suggests.) <:-)
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2023.06.09 16:38 N9149U My diet and my readings

I've been happily eating pretty much the same things for a few weeks now. Breakfast = eggs & ham with salsa, Lunch & Dinner = large salad (lettuce, cucumber, celery, radish, green pepper, black olives, egg & Olive Garden Italian dressing), homemade chicken salad, cottage cheese, gumbo (for some reason the rice doesn't seem to affect me) and finally strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, blueberries and an occasional apple. I don't snack much, but if I do it's been pistachios. Obviously, I have the occasional surprise meal, but I do a reasonably good job of steering clear of carbs, etc. I have started to drink scotch again recently. I hadn't drank for a few months until a week or so ago.
My blood sugar was 500+ 5 weeks ago.
I've been on Metformin ER 1000mg for years and am now on Lispro, Tresiba and Ozempic. The Lispro is 3X a day on a scale of 0-10 and lately I usually just need 2 units. The Tresiba is 25 units every night. And the Ozempic is 25 units once a week (one more @ 25 and then I go to 50).
My blood sugar first thing in the morning ranges between 110 and 125 (156 on one occasion). Before lunch is in the mid to high 120's (93 on one occasion). Before dinner is 110 to 130 (94 on one occasion).
I've begun to question why I'm eating any fruit at all? I've eaten somewhat carefully for a long time (30 years) and done Atkins, Keto (lazy), etc. so it's somewhat natural for me to go this direction - I've done it before. The fruit seems to be green lighted from what I read, but now I'm wondering if I should leave that out? We always have a supply of berries around, so I eat them in moderation, but regularly. I make a point to eat the berries before they go bad on me.
I don't see my doc until August. I can see progress, but from what I read, my numbers are still a little high (considering the drugs I'm taking?). My doc did tell me up front that it would be a gradual process, but I seem to be stalled in the 110 - 120 range.
My diet is pretty simple and I've weeded out things that seemed to have set me off (oatmeal & granola).
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I'm creating a TCG based around RPG-like mechanics which has been in development for over a year by now, but recently I started asking myself a question about the battle system. I'll give you a brief explanation on how it works.
The basic idea, which had been already established since the very beginning and won't change, is having a pool of 8 diverse characters per player always battling 2 vs 2 (kinda like a competitive Pokémon game, but with separate turns). Before the game starts, your characters are separated from the "spell" cards (which I named "action cards" and must be 25 according to the current rules); while the action cards deck is shuffled and your hand will be drawn from there, you can choose the order of the cards in your character deck, which won't change during the game unless you switch out one or an effect allows you to do so (even if there's like 3 of them at maximum between more than 340 cards). Once the order is decided, both players set their 2 lead characters face-down and draw 4 cards, then they are revealed and the game starts with the first draw.
After a main phase where you can play cards from your hand or switch out characters from the deck, you are forced into a battle phase where characters can use a huge variety of damaging, healing or status moves (even if the starting player can't use damaging moves on their first turn), which I implemented with a pretty unique method (at least I haven't seen it done by anyone else) that I won't spoil until the game's release because I'm kinda proud of this idea and I don't really want it to be stolen. If a character gets damaged over their max HP threshold it's knocked out and sent into a KO zone with 2 slots, which eventually leads to them moving to the bottom of the character deck again (if you played Pokémon Duel you can have a good enough comparison in mind), and they are replaced by the character on the top of the deck. You might notice that this way a player will never run out of characters to send out (and the action cards, which are pretty much all hard once per turn, are put under your deck after being used too, there's no graveyard or discard pile), and this is intentional as the game actually has a points system. You start with 50 points and you will use them to activate action cards and use moves, but you can also lose them if one of your characters is knocked out and you can gain them if you knock out one of the opponent's characters (each character has a "cost", which, a bit counterintuitively, is actually the amount of points you gain/lose when they're defeated, or can be paid for switching out, not a toll you pay for letting them in), with the obvious loss if you run out. And here's what made me think.
Since all of the points costs are drawn from the same pool (which loses you the game if it runs out), there are really few ways to gain extra points other than by knocking out characters and they are generally very restricted, the character costs are pretty low and due to a big health buff I gave to each character (nearly doubling the healthpools, due to a miscalculation by me in early development where I didn't consider the option of double targeting a character), knocking out an opponent without losing more points than what you will gain from defeating them is nearly impossible even by exploiting type weaknesses, status conditions (there's 10 of them in this game) and damage buffs. This actually works in its own way as is for now, putting a soft time limit to each game and encouraging the player to manage carefully their move choice, but what I fear is this turning a future competitive scene into either a stall slugfest (another reason why I limited point gain so much), where the meta is stacking damage reduction effects while healing off all the damage dealt and waiting for the opponent to run out of points to knock them out (if you don't have enough points to attack with a character, that character skips the attack and you gain 1 point), or a total bloodshed where the life expectancy of each character is half a turn at best.
As such, I had the idea of introducing a separate pool of points for move selection only. This idea, even if not implemented yet, turned in my mind into a mechanic like SMT Liberation Dx2, where each character has 10 MP per turn and they recover 3 at the start of your turn, but shared between the active characters (you have a maximum amount of 10 points to attack with both characters, maybe with various amounts of points recovered depending on the character). The idea looked interesting to me despite
Since that would imply recreating the card layout and there's quite a lot of stuff to fit into each card already (name, cost, artwork, HP, stats, ability, signature moves, type interactions), as well as having to rewrite a lot of already existing effects, I'm asking: what would you do if you were to design this game with me?
  1. Keep the current system where move costs are drawn from the same pool as points lost/gained for KOs and action card costs, encouraging resource management but with the potential risk of polarizing the game.
  2. Move to a system where move costs are drawn from a separate pool, with or without a consistent recovery, but with the need to rework tons of existing cards and potential for unclear interactions.
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2023.06.09 16:36 AlviseFalier How did it come to pass that a seemingly random aristocrat in Kiel named Peter was courted by the courts of Finland, Sweden, and Russia to become monarch?

My brain has been addled by Italian history, where powerful family dynasties bent institutions in a delicate dance with a multitude of other parties. I understand that the mechanism by which there was a tendency for a state to revert to some sort of "Republican" government if the local ruling dynasty extinguished itself is probably a wholly Italian phenomenon. But in the Early Modern Period, it was just as likely that there was a local aristocrat poised to step in. Where this didn't happen, it was usually because outside powers like France, Austria, and Spain intervened to usher in sympathetic monarchs at musket-point.
I just cannot fathom the mechanism by which in the early 18th century a seemingly random aristocrat in Kiel named Peter could be courted by the courts of Finland, Sweden, and Russia to become monarch without anyone forcing them to. What did Peter bring to the table? Why was he preferred over local, presumably better-connected aristocrats?
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Ley Lines in the Northern Wastes
Backstory: My group just finished Wakenreth. The book says that Dalamar finds ley lines, which leads him to figuring out where the City of Lost Names is located. I wanted to flesh it out a little, because it didn't really make sense that he all of a sudden knows the location. This has required me to move some of the locations slightly. It will also give me opportunity to put some interesting things on those ley lines as they explore the region. For instance, I'm thinking of using the hex between G and D as the place where the Red Dragon Army found the bronze dragon egg. It's no longer there, but tracks point towards the north to Camp Carrionclay, which no one knows about just yet.
In-Game Explanation: After studying Wakenreth, looking at maps, reading old Silvanesti texts, and consulting journals, he realizes that there are ley lines connecting Wakenreth to the Blue Phoenix Shrine and to the Sunward Fortress. He knows about the existence of Bluemaw Cave, Heart's Hollow, and Dread Wolf Cave, so he connects the dots and extrapolates that there might be ley lines connecting them too. Take it one step further, and they converge in the north at Point K. He bets that's where the City of Lost Names is located.
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2023.06.09 16:35 Responsible_Fox_5612 [ToTK] The sad, yet inspiring Story of Aster from Hateno Village.

So I was going around Hateno Village giving mushrooms to a bunch of people. I was a little bit lost, so I started going around, entering every house and talking to everyone. One night I discovered a colorful house on the outskirts of the village, populated by just a little girl, Aster, who was sleeping. I got a little bit sad, cause it was fairly cute, she was sleeping, dreaming of froggies, but she was all alone. On the next day I decided to go around town again and spotted the girl leaving school on her way for some snacks.
She was basically going to her father Medda, a farmer taking care of a tomato farm behind the main street. I was glad, she wasn't alone, cause I feared the worst, but decided for some reason to follow her through her day.
After some time she left her father and went for her house....

... or at least that's what I and SHE thought. She went to the house in front of the tomato farm and talked how this was her former house and she gets confused and goes back there by default. It seems she doesn't live there anymore for some reason. After that she went back to her real home to play with some frogs.

After talking to her during her frog "hunt", she says, she learnt hunting frogs from Zelda. She along the other children of the village misses Zelda a lot and seems to have formed a bond with her. Now that got me thinking again about the mother of the poor girl. It does seems like Zelda plays a mother role in her life (I am not implying Zelda is her mother) and she has developed this connection. I went digging into the wiki and it seemed as in BoTW, while sleeping, Aster will talk about her mother. In this game however...
... she talks about froggies in her sleep. It feels like her mother figure was found in Zelda. After some time outside in the evening, she goes inside and falls asleep. After a few more hours, her father arrives tired and just stands there watching her, while she is asleep. This was definitely sad to see, as when you ask him, he says this is the only time he can spend with her daughter. Medda doesn't seem to talk about his wife and as she has been missing for both games now, I would assume the worst happened... :(

The drawings of her father and her near her bed, don't make it easier. I would guess, something bad happened to her mother and the two are now living alone, getting help from maybe Zelda and the other townfolk.

However ending it on a hopeful note, the girl wakes up early and sprints to school screaming "Gotta get there first!". She overtakes the old folk, including her father and indeed arrives at school earlier then all the other kids. :)
I can't believe I actually got emotional, about a random NPC in a random village, that has 0 IMPACT on the game whatsoever (or at least for now). It felt so lifelike and sad for some reason, yet her inspiring sprint to school and her determination seem to give me a lot of hope for some reason. I don't know what happens with the school quest for now, so I couldn't say, if there is more concerning her mother or no. Now I do have a small theory, about the other house neighbouring theirs, which seems to be abanndoned. Could it be, that the owner of the house was Zelda herself?
Thanks for reading!
TLDR; a random small girl in Hateno village has more character, then some major protagonists from AAA games.
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After a while, I realized that some of the things they told me during the interview process didn't match up with the actual offerings and availability within the company. I tried reaching out to their support and even one of the co-founders, but guess what? No response. It was only after multiple attempts that I finally got in touch with another founder who acknowledged the problem and after multiple attempts asking for a refund, they refused, claiming that their digital product is non-refundable.
To be honest, it was a struggle to make the most out of the experience. The course material they provided was a letdown - long, boring videos with no proper visuals, constant interruptions, bad audio quality, and tons of irrelevant images. And don't get me started on the meeting scheduling. It was a nightmare trying to fit them into my already busy work schedule, even though I thought I had accepted that as part of the deal.
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Oh, and one more thing. I tried posting about my experience in the community to let others know, but my post has been stuck in review for hours without any progress. It seems they only allow posts that highlight the good stuff while filtering out anything that might tarnish their image. This just further supports what I've been saying.
I wanted to share all this with you so you have a clear picture about this company.
Before anyone says that I shouldn't have done this in the first place. I already know that and it's not the point. This post is simply for others who could be in my place.
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2023.06.09 16:35 Cinnamon-rose1213 House maintenance when living with boyfriend

I had a breakdown today because I got triggered when my boyfriend puts my newly washed clothes on top of my sister’s really really smelly clothes. The resentment has been piling up for a while now.
A little bit of my background: I am about to start college in September. Right now I have a lot of things on my plate. Me and my boyfriend are almost 9 months into dating and we live back-and-forth in each others’ house.
However, I’m starting to notice that he doesn’t care about house maintenance and organizing as much as I do.
Not only him, when I’m staying at my own house, my younger sister is the worst. She would pile up unclean laundry in the bathroom to the point it collapses and fills the floor; she would also never washes the dishes no matter how many days they’re left in the sink and wait until I do it for her. She claims herself to be a perfectionist and gets mad whenever I said I don’t think she is one. I don’t know maybe it’s some 16-year-old’s common issues during puberty. So when I am in my own house I’m always cleaning already, I would also use my own part-time salary to buy different items for the house to look tidier. Yet my stepmom (I’d rather call her my dad’s wife) would still complain that I am messy and a germ to this family. It kinda explains why I’ve been building that resentment in me.
One day I heard my boyfriend arguing with his mom about clearing the clutter in the house. Apparently he doesn’t care about house maintenance as much / prioritise it at the moment, I do always notice that he doesn’t mind if the room is messy or if anywhere is not tidy in the house, he can just live with it. This fact bothers me.
Maybe it is because I have always been taking care of my sister’s mess while still being complained as a messy person. I tried my best to maintain the house already and even prioritise it over all my studies and sleeping schedule, and people still can’t see it.
I want things to work out between me and my boyfriend. I’m scared I can’t handle it if it’s going to be like this in the future. Today’s breakdown really make me realize how heavy this has been on me and I feel like people around me doesn’t understand how messy the house is and how hard I’ve been trying to maintain it.
I tried meditation, I tried effective communication (with my boyfriend, cannot with my sister cause she thinks the whole world is against her), I tried gratefulness, I tried breaking down tasks and divide workload (he always leaves mess or things undone behind). Please tell me what I can do anymore, before I have another breakdown again.
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