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2023.05.31 04:54 i-Sybil DIY lash extensions
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I’ve been getting into DIY cluster lash extensions at home. what do we think? also if you guys have any glue suggestions please let me know! submitted by i-Sybil to eyelashextensions [link] [comments]
2023.05.31 04:54 IAmMySelf04 Response from Schlatt Co for the Schlanket
2023.05.31 04:54 ChosesEtranges01 Renter facing cockroaches, found ammunition, feral cats, and an unclean guest home
Hi friends! This is my first time using AirBnb and my expectations were far from met. To give some background, I am interning at a major company this summer post-graduating from college. I found this AirBnb for a fair price and was very affordable, so I booked it 3-4 weeks in advance. I have already paid half of the amount on the AirBnb. Upon arriving, the lock where I put in a code was not there and was only showing a keyhole. It was about 5-6 minutes after the check-in time and I did not hear from my host, so I asked how I should get into the unit. The host responded right away, apologized, and told me to grab the key from the electrical box. When I came into the guest house, I noticed right away a strong, chemical cleaning scent, like a bunch of febreze. The cupboards in the kitchen was filled with food, some even open. I picked up a box of instant mashed potatoes to throw away, and the bottom opened, making it spill all over the floor. I noticed a dead cockroach near the door, but I assumed it might have gotten in when I brought my belongings in.
After moving my things in, I noticed my feet were black from dirt. Thats when I realized the floors were dirty and I had to mop them. I asked where the mop was to the host since the floors were dirty, and he told me they were in the closet and thanked me for letting him know. I have mopped them twice (and bought a new mop rag) and my feet are still coming up black the next day. In the bathroom, there were 2-3 long strands of brown hair on the wall and 3-4 tiny bugs in the shower. I also noticed all of the water comes up slightly cloudy. This makes me extremely worried about the cleanliness of the unit as a whole. I didn't get the best sleep since the bed was rock hard and made my back hurt throughout the night. This morning, I heard cats crying outside. I ignored it for a while, but upon looking outside, I have noticed 4-5 feral cats and 1 kitten, all of which hang out by my door and under my car. At one point while I was leaving, I saw two of the cats "doing the deed" by my car. I also checked the door this morning and have found it to be a really weak door that could easily be kicked down.
Today, I came across 6-7 shotgun bullets in a glass jar. I also found a living cockroach in the kitchen. I told the owner about the cockroach and he offered to come out the next day to spray and set traps. I told him that was ok and asked him about the ammunition. He said he had no idea about the ammunition and told me the cleaning lady found a 9mm under the mattress 3 months ago. I found a receipt in the jar from 1-8-22, which means it has been there for a long time. This makes me concerned for my safety.
This is my first time with AirBnb and it makes me wish I just got a hotel for my internship. I booked my reservation through July 30th, but I already want to leave. I have been extremely polite with the host up to this point, and made it clear to them I want to treat their guest home like my home and keep it clean, but I am very uncomfortable with the situation at hand. Any advice, comments, or feedback would be greatly appreciated and welcomed. Thank you for listening to my rant. :)
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2023.05.31 04:53 sasukeathooters_ Am I delusional for holding out hope?
I've been unable to land a job in my field for 18 months and counting out of graduate school. Before you all ask, the field is psychological research. I thought it was a decent major. Hard to pick something you like and also something that has potential. I tried, but letting a 17 year old make a decision on a major and then letting a 21 year old decide to pursue it further is just 🤷♀️ a roll of the dice?
So, I finally find THE job. Remote, but fun travel opportunities, good pay, great prestigious organization, nice team members, impressive growth, benefits, interesting and powerful research - the works! I go through 3 rounds of interviewing. The HR woman implied that though they'd need a couple weeks to finish up, but was implying she didn't want me to go anywhere during that time so I thought oh wow, have I bagged it? So, the time comes (May 1st) and she says unfortunately while we intended to hire two candidates we decided to only hire one at the time with the possibility of hiring another in the future and that she'd contact me if they do. I sent a nice thank you and she kept replying to me saying "we're VERY reluctant not to extend an offer", "the team likes you", "you were our second pick and we fully intended to hire you", "we're hoping to hire another member in a month", etc. I'm hopeful, but then a little bit later she says a director "unexpectedly resigned" so many roles are up in the air but "internal restructuring is nearly complete" - whatever that means. She ended it by saying she hopes to be in touch soon. I replied saying the same. That was May 17th. I've, of course, been applying elsewhere, but with way less motivation than usual because none of these jobs are even half-way as good as this one was plus I'm devastated. I'm just so tired. Before this, I had a lot of times where I'd gone to multiple interviews and getting rejected still hurt, but this time it feels so painful because they were GOING TO HIRE ME. And to boot - I haven't gotten one interview offer since May 1st - before all this I was getting at least 1 - 3 a week. Should I just forget about it and try to move on completely...or do you think a miracle could still happen?
TLDR: a company said they wanted to hire me but couldn't and now I'm in limbo with them
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2023.05.31 04:53 the1131 RTK take this lesson as a blessing and stop while y’all ahead your Cuz almost got his head taken off and he got manhandled and thrown in a pool. He Blessed.
2023.05.31 04:53 RenaissanceGiant Next step in paining a wall formerly knockdown -> skim coat (no prime) -> wallpaper
Trying to figure out the next step in remediating our walls.
As near as I can tell, the current walls had a knockdown texture, then someone came along and skim-coated and applied glue and wall paper straight over the skim coat.
As we take up the wall paper, there's of course left over glue. As we try to clean up the glue, the skim coat starts coming up and we eventually get back to the knock down... It feels like it'd be a huge mess to try to remove the glue/skim coat from everything.
I think I'd prefer a light orange peel texture at the end of the day...
One painter said to skim coat again right over the glue, texture, and paint. Another gave a very expensive quote to clean everything back to the knockdown, skim, texture, and paint. Yet another said to leave the existing wall paper as a base layer and texture/paint over that. One threw out a very mildly compelling suggestion to tear out all the dry-wall, update the insulation, and start over... No idea what *that* would cost, though.
I'm hoping to find a consensus opinion for what to do and something concrete for why not to go with the other options.
Help me, Obi-Paint, you're my only hope!
(and thank you in advance.)
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2023.05.31 04:52 thatsmeegirl Face rash should I switch from Oz?
-I began with a low-dose of Ozempic: 0.08 mg 5/18. -Was taking it slow because I generally have bad sides from other medication's. - 5/24, I took 0.12 mg - 5/25 I took the other 0.12 mg total 0.24 mg for the week. - 5/29 Morning my face both sides -near jawline started itching, later red hives came out. By the end of the evening my face skin was hot. I took an antihistamine didn’t get better. - 5/29 evening had a video Telehealth Dr visit, doc said he was not concerned & said Ozempic causes photo sensitivity to the sun and my skin reacted to it. He said “if it was an allergic reaction the hives would be present everywhere”. He wouldn’t prescribe anything despite my appearance. I was out in the sun a lot the day before this happened bit it seems like a severe reaction?! - 5/30 (today) Was very swollen this morning still with hives. - Mid-morning Had a 2nd Telehealth with a diff Doc who said, “contact dermatitis” not true as nothing was different from my routine- no new face products etc… - Finally, I dug through my medication drawer & found an old script for prednisone which helped me in the past when I got stung by a bee a bad allergic reaction. Skin finally cleared up a few hrs after taking the prednisone. I have no more heat, hives and swelling is down. - Called Ozempic to report this and they couldn’t confirm if a delayed allergic reaction is a possibility. - Should I trust the Dr and believe it was a photo sensitivity reaction? And why on my face only? Please share thoughts, this drug is really helping me and I don’t want to quit.
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2023.05.31 04:52 mineralssmarie I’m terrified of you guys
I’m a suboxone patient. You would never guess by looking at me. I’m a preschool teacher. I don’t look like a “typical addict.” Not that appearance should matter.
I’m a nervous wreck every time my prescription gets sent in. I’ve had my prescription forgotten about. I’ve been told I can’t pick up until I’m completely out of my medicine all because I picked up my prescription a day late due to my car not starting.
I’m always very polite and kind. I can’t imagine what you all must deal with. But a lot of times, I feel like I’m being judged or like filling my prescription doesn’t matter. It nearly gives me a panic attack every time I get a prescription sent in because I feel like something will go wrong.
I’m a single mother to a small child. I’m terrified to go into withdrawal. And soon, I will have to travel and I’m so worried about whether or not I will get my prescription.
So please go easy on us. Be kind to us if we are kind to you. Understand how terrified most of us are of you guys because we depend on you for our life saving medication. Try to be empathetic.
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2023.05.31 04:52 S0re_Loser A question about boot priority and Windows
Hey guys. I recently had a PC assembled for me and I sadly installed Windows onto a SATA drive instead of a M.2 drive. I intend on doing a fresh install soon since Fortnite takes 5 minutes to boot up.
Here’s the issue: when I’m asked where I’d like Windows to go, I don’t get the drive names but they’re listed as Disk 0, 01, 02 et cetera.
My question: if I set my M.2 drive as #1 boot priority in BIOS, and I reinstall Windows — will the first disk option be my M.2 drive?
PS: I hope this works. I have no clue how building a PC works. I’m visually disabled and physically handicapped — I seriously can’t be trusted near a motherboard. ):
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2023.05.31 04:52 azanator- Half layed over bike and had first near miss in the same day (advice?)
On the “lay over”… the bike was in neutral and I was technically parked and scooted forward accidentally popping the kickstand up and we gently laid down together as I realized kickstand was no longer down. No damage or scuffs thankfully. 🥺
Near miss, I saw it coming as the car next to me was turning and the car that would’ve hit me didn’t see me on the other side of him. But despite seeing it, while I didn’t react wrong or almost wreck or anything, I did hit the brakes a bit too hard instead of a light brake and swerve which would’ve been the ideal reaction.
My emergency braking ability isn’t bad, I’ve made myself use the front brake majority as I’ve started riding to make sure I had the ability to properly use full braking force safely. But I don’t like how I reacted a bit too panicky even when I saw it coming.
What are tips to practice that mental reaction? I have the braking but in the moment I didn’t have that smooth reaction I’ve practiced.
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2023.05.31 04:51 throwaway284918 For anyone visiting this sub looking to start as a delivery driver: this job is dead. Don't bother.
I deliver on an electric bike so my experience may not be representative. I just want to post for people who think delivering for uber sounds like a good idea. It's gotten so bad that I wouldn't even recommend it as a secondary job.
I've been delivering less and less over the past year or so. I hardly get any pings at all anymore, and the pings I get are almost all garbage. There have been multiple times that I go out for lunch and all I get are shop and pay orders for 4 hours. When considering earnings on an hourly basis, they have been cut basically in half even when I don't accept shop and pay. Today was the point at which I just have to accept that this gig isn't viable at all. Why did I conclude this? Because I live in one of the largest cities in the US and went out to work for lunch (12-2). I got exactly 3 pings over the course of 2 hours. Two of them were for less than 3 dollars. I don't know what Uber is doing or what I'm doing wrong, but only getting 3 pings in 2 hours in a city of millions of people during lunch seems deliberate. I was near a college, then downtown.
Part of me thinks its some weird social engineering to lower the number of drivers, maybe cyclists aren't fast enough for their algorithm, maybe I have been too selective in the past. Who knows. Uber certainly won't tell you. But it sure seems to me that the days of being able to do this as a your main job, even in a well populated area, are over. The only thing this job is good for is maybe making a few dollars to blow on gambling or something.
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2023.05.31 04:51 ChiaraStellata I made 100% accurate subtitles for the French dub of BoJack Horseman season 1. Here's how to watch them and how I made them using Whisper.
BoJack Horseman on Netflix is one of my favorite shows of all time and it has a great French dub (which I spent a lot of time with while learning French), but it's quite challenging for learners because of its extensive use of slang and informal language, spoken very quickly. The French subtitles on Netflix do not at all match the audio and aren't very helpful. These subtitles, on the other hand, do match the audio, 100% of the time (except for some occasional small errors). How to watch:
Install NekoCap: Chrome Firefox
(this is not my plugin but I'm using it to share these subtitles)
Watch any of the episodes on Netflix, and just click the NekoCap icon on the timeline, then "Select caption (1 available)", then "French by chiaracoetzee". Or use these direct links:
Episodes: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12
Set Audio to "French" and Subtitles to "Off". There is an annoying issue where if you pause the player, the player will cover the subtitle, which you can avoid by using the Language Reactor plugin (Chrome
) at the same time, which has a "Hide playback bar" feature which is on by default.
If you want to use a different subtitle player, like e.g. animebook.github.io, you can download my SRT files here: Season 1 SRT files How I made them:
I fed each of the episodes through the Whisper deep learning speech recognition engine
to generate an initial srt file, using the large-v2 model and language=fr. Whisper generates great results, but sometimes its timecodes are messed up or it injects random lines that were not actually said, and sometimes it misinterprets a word here and there. So I edited them by hand in Happy Scribe to fix them up. Then I loaded them into NekoCap on Netflix, and submitted them to NekoCap's database. Boom, that's it.
If anyone finds these useful or wants to see more of these for the subsequent seasons, please let me know!
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2023.05.31 04:50 SetimentalMelancholy Should my new puppy sleep with me or in a kennel?
I just got an 8 week old puppy and I have her in a crate near my bed. I heard you should let them sleep in a crate but she keeps whining (I got her a day ago). Should I let her sleep with me, is that fine?
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2023.05.31 04:50 ImaginativeFigment [No Spoilers] Moving Overseas - Looking for Good Home for Collection
Hello critters! I'm moving overseas this summer and need to GREATLY downsize my pop culture collection, including a number of Critical Role items. Rather than trying to see what I can get for things on eBay, I'd rather find a good home for the Critical Role merch amongst the critter community.
Having received permission from the moderators, I wished to make this post and see if any critters are interested in buying some books and pins. Please see below for photos and prices (without shipping, as that . I'm not looking to make any money, but rather would like to see everything go to critters who will appreciate it all. So all the prices are either at or below cost, depending on if the item is brand new in packaging or lightly used. Shipping not included, as it would depend on location. If you happen to live near Columbus, OH, I could potentially deliver the item(s) for free. :)
- "Critical Role: Vox Machina Origins Volume 1" Standard Edition Hardcover (new in shrink-wrap) - $30 + shipping
- "Critical Role: Vox Machina Origins Volume 2" paperback (used) - $5 + shipping
- "Critical Role: Tal'Dorei Campaign Setting" sourcebook (original printing, used) - $20 + shipping
- "The Chronicles of Exandria Vol. II: The Legend of Vox Machina" Art Book Standard Edition (used) - $30 + shipping
- "The Chronicles of Exandria - The Mighty Nein" Deluxe Edition Art Book (new in shrink-wrap) - $50 + shipping
- Vox Machina Funko Pops - $10 + shipping each or all 8 for $75 + shipping
- Mighty Nein Chibi Pins - $10 + shipping each or all 8 for $75 + shipping
I willing to make a deal for people buying multiple items (similar to what I have listed for the Funko pops and Chibi pins). If someone is interested in everything, I would be willing to accept $250 + shipping, but would also be willing to hear offers.
If you're interested in any of these items, please send me a direct message!
Thanks for helping me find a good Critter home for everything! Critical Role: Vox Machina Origins Volume 1 Standard Edition Hardcover (new in shrink-wrap) - $30 + shipping Critical Role: Vox Machina Origins Volume 2 paperback (used) - $5 + shipping Critical Role: Tal'Dorei Campaign Setting sourcebook (original printing, used) - $20 + shipping The Chronicles of Exandria Vol. II: The Legend of Vox Machina Art Book Standard Edition (used) - $30 + shipping The Chronicles of Exandria - The Mighty Nein Deluxe Edition Art Book (new in shrink-wrap) - $50 + shipping Vox Machina Funko Pops - $10 + shipping each, or all 8 for $75 + shipping Mighty Nein Chibi Pins - $10 + shipping each, or all 8 for $75 + shipping
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2023.05.31 04:50 Lower-Reward-1462 34 / PC / Central Time -- Really miss having a friend to game with
I dream of one day having a good close friend that I play video games with everyday. I've slowly lost all my gaming friends through the years and I seriously miss it. I don't really know how to go about finding a friend to play with. I've tried playing with random people in Last Epoch, for example, but it's just not working out. I don't want to play some random game that is boring alone, like, say, New World, just to look for a friend. It sounds a bit much.
So I'm looking for people here, though it doesn't seem to be working that well either. People keep ghosting me with no explanation why. But who knows, maybe one day the perfect person will come along and read this. And it only takes one person, right?
Gaming alone is not nearly as fun. I don't really care what game we play, as long as we're having fun. That said, here's some games I like:
I just got Age of Wonders 4 and have been playing it a lot in my free time. I have never played an AoW game before. I also just got Darkest Dungeon 2.
Just before that, I had gotten back into Last Epoch, with the 0.9 patch that released not long ago, and now multiplayer is a thing! I mostly played my offline necromancer by myself, but let's make new toons together and play together!
I also like Old World some, but have never played it with another person. Maybe we could, if you want?
Aside from that, I used to play Hearthstone a lot. But not anymore. I would love to find a new TCG/CCG type game to play. Not Marvel SNAP or Legends of Runeterra.
Would also like to find someone to play Slay the Spire with too where we watch each other. I'm not sure about the co-op mod as I hear it sucks, but maybe. I've played it a lot and have beat Ascension 20 and then some with the Silent, been getting into the Defect some but don't play the other 2 classes at all. Would love to have someone to play this game with or show them the ropes.
And I play some other obscure titles like Thea 2. Would be nice to find somebody to play that with.
I would really love to find someone to introduce a new game to me in a genre I like. TCG, MMO, ARPG mainly. Really, I'm just looking for a friend to play with that is fun and we get along. That's all that really matters. Sucks playing alone every night.
MMORPG's I have played and enjoyed include Elder Scrolls Online, ArcheAge, Bless Unleashed, New World, and Wakfu. I would love to get back into one of those with someone! I'm NOT interested in playing FFXIV, WoW, GW2, or Lost Ark! Don't ask! If you know of any other good MMO's, though, let me know and maybe we can play it together. Though I could definitely have fun playing one of those MMO's I've played before if I was playing with the right person.
ARPG's I have played and liked in the past include Path of Exile, Last Epoch, Diablo 3, Undecember, and Grim Dawn. I think I might be permanently done with playing PoE alone, but would like to try playing it with someone else, especially someone knew who I could teach everything to. Diablo 4 looks lame.
A little about me: I'm 34 years old, live in the US in central time zone, and live alone with my 2 cats. I'm looking for friends to game with because I don't really have many. I'm online every night and usually gaming! I'm super friendly and talkative and looking for the same, and someone who has time to talk and to play. I'm also LGBTQ+ friendly in case that needs to be said. Also looking for people who have a sense of humor. I don't care about your age as long as we get along. Voice chat is mandatory (sorry!).
I pretty much game 24/7 when I'm not working or sleeping. I usually get home around 5 or 6 PM central time (sometimes earlier or later) and usually go to bed around 3 or 4 AM. You can add me on Discord: MeltedWater#9972 (Please don't message me here on Reddit, the messages aren't going through for some reason.)
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2023.05.31 04:50 Screaming_Mosquito Why does no one acknowledge the hinge?
So... how do I bring this up exactly? I mean honestly how does one bring up what I'm about to bring up? If you're from outside the United States and you have zero idea what I'm even talking about don't worry, the reason I feel compelled to make this thread in the first place is due to the fact that Americans seem hellbent on not talking about how commonly we have to deal with this problem. Or as far as social media goes, that seems to be the case. I've searched and searched, used nearly every search engine, and crawled across the vast array of social media apps and multiple subreddits and made this same thread dozens of times as well. Still, I have come up with zero good faith responses to my inquiry. So I'll just bring it up again and ask nicely like I've been doing in the hopes that I break through to one of you so that you'll actually be willing to talk about it.
So here it goes. Why does everyone act like the continental hinge that exists at the shore-side border of Virginia and North Carolina isn't there? Please, for the love of God, you have to know what I'm talking about. I'm sure there's at least ONE, at LEAST ONE of you who's watched that thing swing open for a few minutes and swallow a smorgasbord of trees, street lamps, street signs, wild animals, or God forbid, a car full of people whole only to close up just as quickly.
I swear I'm going to lose my mind if the responses in this thread act like I'm speaking gibberish again. The hinge, it's located at the apex of where North Carolina and Virginia meet the Atlantic sea as I said, and from that pivot point the split in the continent it causes runs along the NC/VA state line down the NC/TN border eventually ending up at the frontier between Louisiana and Texas. I've made a crude map of it that I pinned to the top of my timeline, so none of you should have any excuse this time to pretend like you don't know what I'm talking about.
I'm no geologist or anything, but this has at least been going on since 98 given that's the first time I remember it happening. It doesn't seem to happen at any sort of regular, predictable interval so I'm wondering if tectonic plates don't relate to what's going on here??? No clue. If you are a geologist yourself, please, I'm begging you chime in. What's been causing this? Do any of you like... ever talk about what's going on? What to do about it? Anything??? Is the government going to do anything? The scientific community? Literally anyone? I'm sorry if I sound desperate I just don't understand why a lot of people I've brought this up to pretend like they've never heard of it or (and this is actually the most common response) just shrug it off like it's not somehow a big deal that a vast chunk of the continent swings out wildly on a hinge into the ocean every now and then, throwing everything laying along its boundary into a dark murky abyss of black water never to be seen again.
This isn't a problem to people? Maybe I'm bitter, or screw it. I am bitter. I am very bitter that everyone has ignored this. I've been bitter since I first learned about this thing when my dog fell into the abyss it created all those years ago. I've gotten bitterer since I've seen people driving right in front of me on the highway get swallowed up because of it. I've grown irate watching all the construction work being done (at least where I am) just to repair the damage to the roads its caused over and over again, only for the people working on it to be seemingly oblivious to what caused it. And worst of all, I've grown paranoid, freaked out, and mentally scarred since the very last time the hinge swung the lower southeast out into the ocean.
That was about a month ago. There's no way none of you don't remember that. There was a blackout and after that an internet outage where I was and everything. The area of North Carolina I live in, we've had a small homeless encampment problem in our rinky dink downtown for about two years now. And then suddenly around the time April rolled over to May, we didn't. I mean I'm sure a lot of you have heard of cities busing the homeless to other cities or locales before, but... Let me just say, in regards to what I ran into and watched happen last month driving down the rural back roads outside of civilization when this last swing happened, I know now that there are indeed people who know damn well that the hinge is there. They know enough to bus all of our town's homeless population to where the continent splits open and wait long enough for it to happen in order to... I think you catch my drift. What I'm still completely thrown by is the fact that the people hired by the city seem to know enough about it to reliably predict when it will occur.
That's why I'd appreciate a geologist's input, or anyone's really. Please for the love of God, tell me you at least know what I'm talking about so I can stop rambling.
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2023.05.31 04:50 OkProtection427 You could not pay me to go near this. This place needs to be pressure washed.. with bleach. Why is it so dirty 🤢
2023.05.31 04:49 aguhon I (25F) left my fiance (27M) for going somewhere he didn't tell me about for the nth time, now I'm second-guessing myself
My fiance and I have lived together the past 2.5 years. Early on, I communicated to him that whenever he leaves the house, I want him to inform me where he goes, who he will be with, and around what time he gets back. And if he will be changing plans while he's out, to let me know. He agreed that it's reasonable and he can do it.
I used to get frustrated at least 2-3 times a week about his failure to inform me when he changes plans. Sometimes he tells me he will buy at Store A a few blocks away, then goes to a friend's house 3km away afterwards. Or he will go instead to Store B that's farther away, then hang out at a nearby friend's place. Other times, he tells me he will hang out at Friend C's place, then when I call, I will find out that they went together to Friend D.
Some of these friends are actively using substances. And the past year, he sneaked out at least twice to smoke weed or meth.
Nevertheless, I give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him when he says he's staying clean. To me, it's not about me not trusting him, but subverting expectations. He tells me he will go out to do one thing, but does another. And it made me crazy frustrated. Especially when he tells me that it JUST SLIPPED HIS MIND to inform me of the change in plans.
I didn't want to break it off, so I sucked it up. As a compromise, I told him that I will call him regularly to check up on him, so he could inform me then if there has been a change in plans. There have been times when he exploded at me for calling and making him explain what he's up to, but after a good talk, he's reminded that it's the best compromise we could come up with.
However, last night, he left his phone. He went out to buy cigs, which should only take 10mins tops. I told him to buy at nearby Store E, instead of going to the farther store near his Friend F's house and possibly hanging out there. My purpose was to minimize the time he would stay out late at night. Half an hour later, I call him, but I find his phone ringing inside the house. I was extra sensitive during this time, as he had been cold to me the past few hours; he acknowledged this, but we didn't have the time to talk it out due to my work meeting. Since I could not contact him, I decided to leave my work meeting online and went to the store only to find out he's not there. I was fuming.
On the way to Friend F's house, I pass by our house and see that he has arrived. I confront him, and he admits that his Friend F passed by so they went around together. I didn't bother to ask where they went, he will probably just say that they hung out at his friend's house. I told him I'm leaving the next day because this behavior is a deal breaker for me.
I slept alone in our room. After lunch, as I was almost done packing things, I find out that he was not at home. I hung around for more than 2 hours, then decided to leave.
He texts me later, telling me that he was staying at his Friend F's house with another friend. I should not have replied, but I was not strong enough to resist. I eventually stopped replying and cut off contact.
Today is the 2nd day, and regret is creeping in. I doubt myself, maybe it was not a deal breaker for me since I still love him? I'm trying to recall if I had been frustrated by this kind of behavior in my past relationships, but I never cohabited with my exes so I can't tell if it matters.
I'm trying hard to convince myself that we have a mismatch of values, but truth be told, I'm really lost. Maybe I should have just lived with it, since there are likely some couples out there who don't mind if their partners go somewhere different from what they initially claimed. He doesn't have a history of meeting up with a girl and hiding it from me, so maybe I'm too strict? I don't really know, any advice or stories to share?
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2023.05.31 04:49 Ace_acidfunguy1222 Hair raising “puckwudgie” story
I live in Massachusetts. In a town within the Bridgewater triangle. There is a lot of folklore about things that dwell in the forests within the triangle.
Puckwudgies are little people that once lived among the Wampanoag Native Americans that once called the area home. They’re described as short shape shifting pranksters, usually around 2-4 feet tall, that mess with people who enter the forest at certain times and have features of doglike goblins usually with bright red eyes. It is said that when you lock eyes with the creature you are cursed & it will follow you and taunt you.
I worked maintenance with an older man who was seeing a woman who was part Native American. One day I went by his house and we all sat at his table smoking and talking. The forest was brought up and we began sharing stories.
She was a tough woman with a no bullshit personality. She worked the paper route delivering news papers so she would have to be out around 2:30AM.
Halfway through her shift she pulled up to a house that she always pulls up to with the same giant pine tree in the front yard off to the side near the wood line. She said when she looked up she glanced at the tree. But when she looked she noticed something standing Next to it.
It was a short creature. She described it as having the legs of a kangaroo & the face of a wolf with red glowing eyes.
Now usually if I were to hear this story from anyone I would probably laugh and not believe it. But there was something in the way she said it, her facial expression and the way she swore to me that she saw this creature. Not to mention her serious personality.
I told her a believed her, and I really did. I found my hairs raising on my arms and behind my neck. I was spooked.
Fast forward a 6 or 7 months. I’m at the coffee shop my girlfriend works at. I was having a conversation with a few of the “regulars” a couple of old men in their 70’s that visit daily and talk among each other while enjoying some coffee. We were taking about hunting & the forest was brought up. The man became serious and told me to make sure I’m armed when I go in there.
I asked if he had any experiences In the forest. He had many and shared a few hair raising stories. But there was one that stuck out and made me feel sick.
He said a few weeks back he was heading to Maine to meet up with a friend for hunting. He was on the highway that runs along the forest early in the morning before the sun came up. He told me he saw two small creatures run across the highway. The first was going to fast but he caught a glimpse of the second one.
He said it had short arms and feet like Jack rabbit. With hair sticking up on its back . And last second it turned and looked at him. It had a dog like face & it’s eyes reflected a bright red.
I was in shock. I believed the Native American woman before but this really solidified it for me. I shared the story with him and he wasn’t surprised he just warned me to be careful whenever I go in there.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I listen to your content all the time & I really enjoy it, keep it coming!
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2023.05.31 04:48 bunnyjuless I just wish it was all over
I always think about if there was a button to press that would immediately end my life, I would press it instantly.
my partner said if I really wanted to kms I would have done it by now. am I a coward. I can’t even off myself correctly. long story short, I hung myself the other day, in my closet, I passed out but at some point my graduation sash broke. I started throwing up after that.
my partner says I owe it to him to be alive bc he will be sad forever, but truth is I wish we never met. I am so depressed. There’s been so much trauma. I’m just over it. I fantasize about jumping off every high building and bridge I see, I live near La. I don’t want to do this anymore. I’m pregnant but the symptoms are so severe where I’m throwing up multiple times at work at home, everywhere. my partner says it’ll be too stressful etc. I don’t want to go through with an abortion. But I’m struggling at work because I throw up like once an hour. Im not noticeably pregnant yet, especially because of the uniform apron and such. I just look like a hungover mess to some coworkers and the customers. I’ve heard customers make fun of me, saying I look like I’m from prison, laughing because I look upset etc.
When I was 7 I wrote my first suicide note. I thought it would get better when I was 14, now I’m 23, 24 June 13th.
There’s just been more trauma in my life. I can’t do it anymore.
I just want it all to end. I don’t want to think. I’ve tried therapy, medication, etc. my partner just tells me I don’t try.
I don’t know what I’m living for anymore, I don’t want to be here. I haven’t for as long as I remember, and it doesn’t get better.
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2023.05.31 04:48 Ok-Quality-772 CBT Therapy has limits for CPTSD
I’ve been with my current CBT therapist for the last five years and she has definitely helped me by offering reassurance, validation, healthy limitation, and forward-focused and me-centered personal development. However, due to serious toxic family situations I’ve been exposed to in the last three months, I’ve slid into nearly continuous states of disregulation that have legit been concerning me. Lots of dissociation and derealization as new awareness of past traumas have flooded my nervous system. My inner little girl has been very upset, to say the least.
Today during a session, I was talking about how I felt that my inner little girl was really hurting and how visceral it was when she flooded me with fear and loneliness. I also expressed concern about how frequently I’ve been dissociating and that I would like to figure how to manage my nervous system better. My therapist’s response was to tell me that my little girl part is actually grown up and that I should try to just react like an adult. She also told me that I have a choice about dissociating and that when I feel myself “going away” as I call it, I can just breathe and think my way out of it…and that I should give yoga a try. Yoga. sigh
I felt so frustrated and even angry. I know that I’m going through an extremely difficult period of retraumitization so to dismiss that part of myself by saying she was grown up was ignorant and potentially destructive. Much of my trauma comes from a complete disregard and contempt for my personhood so that statement alone was traumatizing, and then for her to say that I can just think and breathe my way out of a dissociative state was just mind-blowing. I mean, heck, why didn’t I think of that?
It was so clear that my therapist was out of her depth and really didn’t understand that higher brain processes like rational thought aren’t possible when the nervous system has been activated that way so later, after some thought, I texted her that I think I need to take a break from therapy. She called, we chatted for a bit, and she agreed that exploring other modalities beyond her training could be helpful, so she’s continuing to be supportive, which I appreciate. But even so, her responses today were legit damaging and I left her office in tears. It made me lose some of the established sense of security I’d always felt with her, which made me sad. Everyone is human and she made a mistake, yet it’s not the first time this sort of thing has happened. Either way, I’m ready to try something new, so I’m looking into IFS, psychodynamic, and relational trauma-trained therapists and hoping for the best.
My therapist is a “trauma-focused CBT practitioner” but obviously her capabilities reached their limit insofar as being able to mitigate my emotional flashbacks and somatic reactions during this during this period of acute setbacks.
What have been your experiences with CBT and has it been beneficial for you? Why or why not? What other modalities have been more helpful, particularly with, nervous system deregulation, inner child work, and dissociation/derealization?
FYI: I’ve also done schema work during an intensive group therapy program that I found to be extremely helpful.
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