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I am curious, especially to those who do audit and are constantly on the go.
who sets up your travel accommodations?
when you fly do you fly first class? If not what seats?
does your job allow you to collect your miles?
personally, I hate layovers to the point I’m rethinking audit so hoping to hear other opinions!

His last marriage ended in ultimatum that he gets counseling or they divorce and he wouldn’t go. I’m pretty sure she was also an alcoholic since all their photos on Facebook are in alcohol related activities and holding alcohol so the counseling must have been unrelated.
Our son is now 3 months old and I had a straw that broke my back moment when he went on two trips 5 days each where he drank Super excessively I’m sure since that’s what usually happens but when he returned he went to the bar instead of spending time with his son or me. Then when he came back and I started “complaining about it” it turned into another episode of emotional abuse him Leaving back to the bar and the next day not responding and going to a hockey game.
Then he left to go to a friends wedding for another 4 days where he got drunk im sure. I called his best friend and told them everything and that I’m planning to actually try to get a small house and make my escape. Which is just a lot harder now with insane interest rate and I can’t afford anything. I also told his sister but she just basically wouldn’t talk to him either since no one in their family speaks about anything at all.
So when he came back I said I scheduled counseling, he can either go with me or not go; but I can’t do it anymore and that both of us know he’s an alcoholic.
I’m exhausted and all I can think of dream about is him being an alcoholic. I live in a constant state of anxiety about it. I couldn’t sleep all night. Over the weekend I moved all 100 bottles of liquor into the garage and all his beers etc bc I can’t look at this shit anymore. And if he wants to separate there ready for him to pack up. Most prized possessions during our move.
Recently during a rage I told him that if he doesn’t get help I’ll be taking our son with me and leaving and he basically told me “good luck” in a threatening way since he already knows that I’ve been through a horrible divorce with kids in the past and he’s make this awful for me or worse.
At the very least my ex wasn’t an alcoholic and I didn’t have to fear for my other 2 kids safety.
He said he’ll go to counselling and signed consent forms. It’s today and virtual at 6.
I’m just getting to work and have cold sweats and nausea and just feeling that he’ll make some shit up about how he’s late from work that he doesn’t even work past 3pm ever to and just goes to the bar instead.
I don’t know what I’m afraid of. Has therapy ever worked for anyone? Because all they do is just pretend they don’t have a problem to anyone but I warned the therapist and she understands and I have no idea what to expect. I feel so sad and exhausted. I guess “at least” he agreed to try it for the first time in 50 years. But he’s been an alcoholic for 30, functioning and in denial so I don’t know what to expect.

Our son will be 4 this October, and he is in a routine of wetting the bed almost every night at the moment.
For a bit of context, he started using his potty properly from around last summer, he was still wearing nappies day and night, but when he needed the toilet he would pull them down and do his business in there, if he made it in time.
He was starting to be dry through the day most of the time so we decided to start letting him wear pants, and other than the odd accident, he's done very well.
Then we were noticing that he was always waking up dry in the mornings, and one day it just so happened that we had no nappies left. We decided to try him without, and then for the next 3 or 4 months he got by with only the very occasional accident.
We have now removed his potty, and he is quite happy to do all of his business in the big toilet, but at night he has started to wet the bed most nights, I'd say 75-80% of the time.
We have cut back on drinks before bed, and we have started to ask him to tell us the 3 things we must do before bed which is brush his teeth, go to the toilet, and help to tidy his room. He thinks this "game" is hilarious.
I have read on other posts here that this can be related to hormones so I have a few questions.
Could this still be related to hormones even though he was dry for months?
Should we put his potty back in his room or will this be a step backwards with regards to the toilet?
Should we put him in pull ups for the night as a precaution or is this also a step backwards?

I’m all in and down 29% bought at 45.30. Should I sell or hold for next few days/ weeks? Willing to sell at a loss around 40-42 if it doesn’t get back up all the way to 45. Do you think price might jump back above 40 soon? Or is the hype over and it’s gonna crash? Really don’t want to lose 50% if it goes back down to $20 range

tl;dr at the bottom, but I’ll try to keep it concise.
My fiancé and I have always wanted to elope secretly for the intimacy and memories, but still do at least a reception, if not also share less intimate vows in ceremony style for family. We’ve always discussed eloping on our bachelobachelorette trip with our friends in Colorado (where he proposed!) and having them be sworn to secrecy until the at-home reception.
Basically, we wanted to do an elopement and a “wedding”, which is how I’ll distinguish the two below.
Currently, we’ve been talking to a venue that we’d love to hold a wedding at, but they’re the tippy top of our budget, if even possible.
My mother has been saying that she will “help out” financially since we got engaged, but hasn’t given a number. I don’t want to be rude so I haven’t asked for a number. However, the venue is only holding our date for 30 days and we need to know if we can ask them to draw up a contract. Basically, we need to know how much to expect for help because it will make or break if we sign the contract. (Note: We would never have asked for money, but she has been saying “well I’m going to help” whenever I talk about the ridiculous quotes we’ve gotten. We also have the money, but we’re saving for a house/moving and don’t want to eat 75%+ of our savings irresponsibly, so we are acting as if we don’t have all the money right now and will need to save more on top of our current rate.)
Fast forward to last night, my brother comes over and needs to vent about our mother. I’m listening, on his side about things as I know she can be generally unreasonable when he starts telling me all the things she’s been saying about me.

1. That my fiancé and I are “always” spending money going out (She doesn’t know anything about my money, but at 26, I’m financially stable, invested, and growing. She sees us go out for a glass of wine on Fridays and thinks we’re acting rich.)
   
2. That when a family-friend visited recently, I only came “to brag and show off about getting married” (I was asked questions and answered them?)
   
3. That I don’t want to help out with her yard projects since we decided not to do the wedding at her house (She started them this weekend when we were away celebrating my fiancé’s birthday, and didn’t ask for help?)
   

At this point, I’m so uncomfortable with talking to her about the wedding. She’s done this thing with most of the major events in my life where she minimizes them to “it’s not a big deal”, and this is the one thing I’ve been holding onto through all of them. Wanting this day to be my one big deal.
Sidebar, but she always comments on my body and how I spend money on the gym/fitness classes. I’m thin, active, and work out and she has struggled to keep off weight, I think due to her relationship with food. I have always wanted to go wedding dress shopping with my friends and mom, but not sure I can handle many more comments about my body…
Anyway, at this point, I’m feeling motivated to just start our Colorado paperwork and book the flights. I get sad about missing out on dress shopping, and not having my grandpa walk me down the aisle, but I’m feeling pretty bullied.
I don’t want to elope out of spite and defeat, but I don’t want to go forward with planning the wedding with how she’s made me feel talking about me behind my back.
We wanted to elope for the intimate exchange of vows, the memories, adventure, and how fun would it be to have two anniversaries? Life is too short not to celebrate everything we can! It’s all feeling tainted right now so any thoughts or input would be very appreciated.
tl;dr: We wanted to secretly elope on an adventure with friends but also have a wedding-style reception after. My mom has offered to help pay for the wedding portion with no specifics. We found a spot and now we need to talk specifics, but my brother told me about all the things she’s been saying about me behind my back and I’m uncomfortable. It feels like if we only elope now, it will be out of spite and defeat and I’m worried we will regret it.

Yesterday my girlfriend/fiancé/everything told me that she feels we are just holding each other back and are not growing and she is leaving. I know over the course of the relationship she was the stable one, but looking back at it...I never was stable..even before we met.
1 month after we first started dating my mother passed from cancer. This was my last living family member. My time coping with this caused me to recluse from my friends and focus my world on her. She gave me comfort in my pain. And I never wanted to lose that.
But I would have substance issues (I realize I have an addictive personality and use weed to treat what may be a different condition).
These issues caused us to lose homes, my inner issues would come out with venting with anger after work. And all this rage kept being built up. Through the last 10 years of economic issues, I went thru a lot of jobs. This didn't help us either.
At one point after 5 years we separated for 3 months. We both were better people and then rushed right back in. We never coped we just didn't want to hurt I guess.
My issues didn't really change once she was back and by having her support I slipped into old habits again. I became very sedentary and angry. By now I have pushed away what friends I have made again and my world is her and work.
Things I think kinda catalysts to this point when in Feb 2023 I had multiple seizures. The doctor due to a previous seizure in Nov, diagnosed me with epilepsy. The meds they prescribed messed me up mentally. I was very emotionally unstable and brought I think issues to more of a head.
While I wanted to believe she would stay to help care for me, I knew inside that she wouldn't. She offered to cover bills while I adjusted and recovered, but after 1 month I could tell the stress of me not working built resentment.
I went back to work and am trying to adjust, but I don't trust my own brain any more and it feels like at this point I know how badly I ruined the best thing in my life. My true partner.
I know life moves on and I have plenty of time to love again, but deep down I hope we can be better people again and this time learn from this and build a life together again.
I am trying to look at this as a chance to grow, but the meds from before and now this...I just want to end it all. I can't though because of the pain it would cause her.

So recently my husband and I compromised that I would be the project manager of what food us and the baby eat, but that would mean he has to cook what ever I tell him to.
So I decided at the beginning of the week he was making: chicken meatballs, sauce, green beans, boiled apples (for the baby). He's going to ease into it by making one family meal a week, but he's going to get to 2-3 eventually.
How did it go? So over the weekend I listed the things he would make and he said "that sounds like a lot." And then dropped it when I reminded him this was the deal. Two nights ago he reminded me he has a business dinner Thursday, ie the night he was supposed to cook, so I asked him to cook on Wednesday instead.
We got home Wednesday and I took the baby and played with her in the living room next to the kitchen. He went and got dried fruit to munch on from the kitchen table no less than four times before he actually started cooking. I said something. He said "can you reach the steering wheel from over there?" Mid way through him making the meatballs I said "when you make the apples make a few, they're small and I want some for tomorrow too." He said "I thought I was just making meatballs?" I said "look at the instructions I wrote, you're making green beans and apples too." So then he did that with out complaint, and only asked how large the apple slices were supposed to be. He even added a cinnamon stick to the apples because he knows I do that sometimes for flavosmell. My one regret is I didn't buy enough ground chicken so there wasn't very much.
I'm gonna say my husband is great at a lot of things. He has a hang up about cooking and on a broader scale I'm finding I'm the overall project manager of the house hold. However, we have to fill out some forms for daycare and all I said was "can you project manage getting this done?" And this morning he's filling them out.
I'm gonna lean into being the overall manager because I'm a little type A but that means he has to consent to being managed. That's the trade off.

Today I wanted to go shop for some clothes but on the way there I accidentally rode my bike too far on the middle of the road and the car behind me honked at me and yelled at me when they drove past me. I felt so stupid and incapable that I ended up crying. I had to go back home asap so people wouldn't see me. I don't know why random people hold this much power over my emotions but it's happened before when people got mad at me in traffic or even when my manager is dissapointed in me for working too slow. I feel embarassed and pathetic for crying so easily especially since I'm a 20 year old man. It just feels unfair because I never try to bother or be a nuisance to people but it happens anyway.
I am diagnosed with autism but never thought much of it. Would my experience be caused by autism? Are there poeple with similair experiences here?

I got hired at an engineering firm in January, and was only there for three months. I was bullied repeatedly by older employees to the point of spending my lunch in the toilet crying. I left not long after. I told one of my friends in school about this, and she was nice about it at first. She comforted me that day, and the next day she asked me right away how I got the job. I told her that I just emailed them. Fast forward 1.5 months later, another friend told me that she started working there this month and took over my role. Please note that I told her exactly what my role was.
I feel so betrayed as she did not even wait at least a month to let it heal. Instead of seeing a friend hurt while I was telling her about happened, she saw an opportunity for herself.
I brought it up with her, and she just brushed it off.
I haven’t stopped thinking about this since our friends told me today, and honestly I’m just very hurt because she had bouts of depression while we were in school and I would always send her notes when she disappeared for weeks.

As the title suggests, should I go back to therapy? I was last discharged around November last year, and have an open date for about a year after my last discharge, after which if I decide to go back, I’ll have to redo the whole procedure.
Now, the thing is the entire procedure takes a good 6 months to a year, just to get you hooked with a therapist (public healthcare). During my time there, I was placed on antidepressants and regular (and sometimes irregular) therapy sessions. Truth be told, I never really found the therapy helpful because A. Despite having an appointment, I sometimes would have to wait an extra half an hour because the client before took extra time, by which I would be very tired and not feel like talking B. My therapist never really pressed for my emotions, more of strategies. If anything, I found the antidepressants far more helpful.
Present time: I’ve gone back to school, and I’m extremely stressed to the point where I can’t sleep well and my period’s been delayed. I’m not happy, and I’ve reverted back to self harm.
Now, the issue would be bringing it up to my parents. while they were supportive when I was in therapy, they did fight at the start over anti depressants because they didn’t want me to use them as they were afraid that I would end up being too reliant on it. I’m scared on how to bring it up, and how to talk about it.
At the same time, I fear that going back might not mean it’s necessarily helpful/by the time I get back to therapy everything might be better. I also do Not wish to burden my parents. At the same time, I fear for myself that while I’m holding back from suicide, I fear that I might make a rash decision one day.
All comments/pms are appreciated, and I thank you in advance.

Early Life & Founding Of The Empire
Two thousand years ago on the planet Alexandria Primus, atop the hill that would come to be known as Isha's Rest, the one who become the first Emperor of the Aurelian Empire was born to humanoid parents named Isha (mother) and Tarrick (father). Named Aurelian after the hero of an ancient folk tale of Alexandria Primus, he lived a peaceful life in his village as a farmer alongside his parents and friends for twenty-six years, and occasionaly travelled to the nearby space station in a barely functioning starship to sell their goods. It was on these increasingly less rare journeys off-planet that Aurelian would practice his piloting skills, including evasive manoeuvres through asteroid fields at high speed, formation flying with fellow travellers he'd befriended, and bounty hunting. Through his efforts bounty hunting, he was able to afford a new starship for himself, a top of the line fighter he chose to name Bucephalas. The day he purchased the new starship was the day he also received a vision. Before he could even buckle himself into his new pilot seat, he was struck by immense pain, radiating from his head down into his neck and back, his face was contorted in a rictus of pain, his mouth open in a silent, agonised scream, and his knuckles pressed white as he dug his fingers into the arms of the seat, the vision bore deep into mind, into his very soul. An unknown darkness descended upon his world, bringing with it, fire, and ruination, and death. All were powerless to stop its onslaught, all but one. In the darkness, a single iota of light remained, stood perfectly upright in a rock atop the hill of his home, a long blade gleamed in the darkness, reflecting some unknown source of light, or emanating its own. He reached for the blade as he began to drown in the darkness, and as he sank it came to him, expelling the darkness from around him. There the vision ended, as did his pain. He knew from then that his world needed a protector, and every other world for that matter. Before he began to rally the many he would to his cause, he set out to forge a sword like the one in his vision. Aurelian travelled to the nearest blue stellar system, doing so to harvest the very rare indium from the stellar body in order to refine it into high-purity chromatic metal to forge his blade. After enduring many trials and tribulations, the blade was forged, perfectly balanced and having a sharpness like no other before it, sharpness on a molecular level. He sheathed it in its scabbard, fastened it to his waist, and set out on his cause. The next several months he spent travelling his world of Alexandria Primus, rallying many thousands to his cause, then tens of thousands, then they began to come to him to join.
Over the following few years they trained, they drilled, they recruited and they expanded. The first to join him he named the Hetaeroi (or Hetaera in the singular) and announced the appointment of the Concilium Ferrum (the Council Of Iron), an inner circle of fourteen of his most trusted and loyal brothers and sisters in arms. First they united their own world of Alexandria Primus, then their entire home system of Regnum Solis (previously named Solis, but adding the prefix Regnum to this and every other "realm" that would come under their direct protection and eventually, rule). Then, in a few short months, they compensated for their losses, built new infrastructure throughout the system, set up monitored and protected trade routes across the system and built various fortifications on the different worlds of Regnum Solis. After a short meeting of the Concilium Ferrum, it was unanimously agreed to take their cause out into the stars, to unite all under a single banner, and to protect all from the darkness that lay beyond the stars. It was during this meeting that his Hetaeroi suggested that he take the title of Imperator, or Emperor. While initially reluctant to bare this title, not wishing to appear as a tyrant, he agreed after their collective insistence, seeing the logic behind their argument that an Empire needed a single ruler to look up to and follow. The Council ended, and so the Aurelian Empire was born. And with a new determination, Aurelian set out into the galaxy aboard his newly constructed flagship, the Invictus Imperator.

In the months leading up to my job at a Private Equity fund, I was gripped with a sense of frustration and anxiety. I had to learn financial modelling, and it felt like all the resources I found were either ineffective or overwhelming. They boiled down to watching videos and downloading pre-made spreadsheets. That was when the idea for ModelMaster was born - an in-browser emulator for learning Excel, a kind of Codecademy for the financial world.
My dream was to sell ModelMaster to consulting firms and investment banks, helping them train their analysts more efficiently. It was a great idea, but after two years of blood, sweat, and tears, I had to shut it down. We had managed to drive over 3,200 visitors and 464 learners with an NPS score of 52 during our pilot launch. But that wasn't enough to convince investors of the potential ModelMaster had. Through this journey, I stumbled, made blunders, and learned lessons that I'd like to share, hoping they will be useful to other entrepreneurs.
Lesson 1: Building a Business, Not Just a Cool Product
I have a technical background. That means I often find myself obsessing over the bells and whistles of a product. But here's the thing: I focused so much on making ModelMaster interactive and engaging for learners that I lost sight of what decision-makers at professional services firms actually needed.
Talk to users, they said. And I did, I had about 50 conversations in the early months. But here's where I goofed up: I was talking to learners when I should have been talking to buyers. Sure, the feedback from learners helped us refine the user experience (we even removed a distracting home bar from the Excel lesson page), but it didn't get us any closer to revenue. The decision-makers, the ones holding the purse strings, couldn't see the value in ModelMaster. And I couldn't convince them otherwise.
Lesson 2: Importance of Data in Decision-Making
Trust your gut, but verify with data. That's a lesson I learned the hard way. A handful of user feedback and intuition wasn't enough to accurately gauge the potential of ModelMaster. I ended up using tools like Mixpanel, Customer.io, Full Story, and Segment to collect and analyze user data. One interesting insight was that users had about a 20-minute focus window and the completion rate for longer lessons was low. So, we broke down lessons into bite-sized modules - and voila, there was a significant increase in lessons completed and total time spent by learners.
Lesson 3: Importance of Qualified Vendors
I learned the hard way that choosing the right development team is crucial. I didn't vet my first team enough, and the result was a waste of four months and thousands of dollars. When I went hunting for a second team, I made a checklist: expertise, price, responsiveness, and communication. The difference was night and day. The second team took my drawings and descriptions and quickly built a working prototype. They were partners, not just vendors, and that made a world of difference.
Lesson 4: Emotional Runway and Burnout
When you're a founder, you're more invested in your startup than anyone else. The company felt like an extension of myself, and every setback felt like a personal failure. This was even more challenging because I was dealing with depression during much of this time. Going forward, I'll be more conscious of my emotional runway. I've realized the importance of therapy, of talking through problems and feelings. I've also learned that leaning on my
support network of friends and family is invaluable. And don't forget to destress - for me, it's board games and D&D.
Sharing My Story
I'm sharing my experiences and lessons in the hope that they can be valuable to other entrepreneurs. After ModelMaster, I spent a lot of time blaming others, but eventually, I arrived at a place where I could reflect on my experiences and learn from them. Much of what I share has been said before, but it's framed through my unique experience. If I can help one person avoid a mistake I made, that would be a win for me. If you have any questions about my journey, don't hesitate to reach out. I wish you the best of luck on your entrepreneurial journey!

Compared to other people anyway.. I am always picking up on things I shouldn’t be able to smell. And it’s always something disgusting.
For example, earlier I got up to get a snack from the kitchen. To get there, I walk through the hallway from my room, pass the bathroom, enter the living room, and continue into the kitchen.
When I got to the end of the hallway though, I suddenly picked up on this really intense odor that smelled a lot like pee. I have two cats, so I eyeballed them for a minute trying to figure out if one of them peed somewhere they weren’t supposed too - but that wasn’t possible because they were in my room with me all night.
Walk into the living room, and the smell gets even stronger. But I see no pee anywhere. I got to the kitchen, and it’s even stronger.
All of my attention is now focused on this odor. I have completely forgotten about the snack. Where is it coming from? Why is it so strong? Why do I smell pee but yet cannot find any visible pee anywhere?
Finally, decided to check the bathroom - which the door was completely closed shut by the way, and when I opened the door I was hit with this horrendous smell of decaying pee. As it turns out, my uncle simply didn’t flush the toilet.
And see, our toilet has been broken for the last few months, and my grandparents have been neglecting to get it fixed. There’s a really dumb reason for that, but that is besides the point.
But since the toilet is broken, we’ve been using a bucket we will with water from the tub to flush our waste. So I was sitting there gagging and holding my nose while I filled the bucket, it was very uncomfortable.
And honestly, this isn’t the first time I’ve experienced something like this - just never with pee before?!!!
I threw up once at work because the entire place smelled like sweaty armpits and burnt rubber. But NOBODY else could smell it, only me. I have picked up on peoples cologne/perfume while walking past them in a store - and will smell it until they leave the store(assuming it’s a small store like dollar general or dollar tree - I have limits obviously).
I thought about telling my uncle to see a doctor, however I quickly realized a little while later that I could even smell my own pee from the kitchen after not flushing. So - does this have something to do with ADHD or do I just have a keen sense of smell?(which is also a curse, btw)

Has anybody had trouble with this? I signed up in March, and it worked like it was supposed to for the month of April. It automatically gave me a $10 credit. May I got nothing… it just never redeemed. I tried contacting Microsoft but could never get an answer. I was on chat with someone for 25 minutes one day, and she eventually just punted and said I need to contact Microsoft support. I was on Microsoft support. I felt like it was the twilight zone.
All month long in the auto redeem section it said “June goal met”, but nothing about May.
Well, now it’s June and nothing has redeemed again. I have over 43k points…
I don’t get it. I emailed them again but I’m not holding my breath.

Hi everyone,
I’m in the lucky position to hold an offer for a 5-year course starting this September. I’m a mature student and am having second thoughts if my financial planning has been sound.
Part of the difficulty is that I will be in London and I have never lived there before. While I can look up average rent I am unsure about the cost of things that ‘creep in’ (brunch with friends, nights out, theatre or comedy shows etc).
I do know what financial support I do vs don’t qualify for so my question is purely if my below estimates are about right so I can work backwards from there.
My estimate is £157k in total for all five years:

• 37k for tuition fees (=4x£9250, 5th year covered by NHS student bursary fee)
  
• 60k for rent for five years (=£1000 pcm, including all bills)
  
• 60k for remaining expenses for five years (=£1000 pcm, food, holidays, clothes, leisure, miscellaneous)
  

I have considered posting this in the London Subreddit but decided to go here because I have a feeling there will be unique costs associated with studying medicine, e.g getting to hospital placements.
Does this sound about right?

hi everyone! i will be flying from france to croatia with EasyJet in about a month and i will be able to get my boarding pass in a few days. that said, i’ve heard that when you sign up early, they give you bad seats. Thing is, i don’t want to spend money on premium seats and i often get sick so i don’t want to be stuck at the back of the plane. Does anyone know when it’s the best time to claim your boarding pass?
Thank you!!:)
Edit: i am also flying with my little sister and though it’s only a 1:30 flight, i’d like to be sitting next to/close to her

Never had a cat and dog problem before so don't really know what to do. I got a new dog about three weeks ago and it hasn't stopped attacking my cats. Whenever he sees any of them he chases them through the house. I'm writing this because this is the second time my dog has physically grabbed my cat. I had to literally pull my dog of my cat and hold him down to give my cat time to run away. I seriously think he will kill my cats if I'm not there to break them up. My cats are scared of being anywhere in the house apart from my room (which the dog doesn't come into). How can I stop him from attacking them? Thanks in advance.

So this past week I’ve been feeding the murder of crows outside my apartment in Japan. On the way to the bus stop I usually go find where they are and drop some hard boiled eggs or unsalted cashews for them. The first time I tried to feed them I just tossed the eggs near them but they cawed like crazy and flew away in alarm. However I realized that if I showed them the food first and just set it down then they come get it when I step back. I’m shocked by how smart these guys are. If I hold up a hard boiled egg to the crows or shake the cashews in my hand they tilt their heads to examine the contents and then I swear they look at me and observe me. Apparently my assumptions were correct and now no matter what I wear they recognize me. They no longer run away when I set down the food and will come for it even before I walk away and it’s only been a week. Then, this morning they were waiting outside my apartment door. They knew that I come out to go to the bus every morning at this time and even though I fed them in different locations they knew that I would come out from here. It’s clear they have been watching me. And when I came out of the apartment they began making beautiful almost speech like sounds instead of their usual caws. And one of them swooped my head but not close enough to be intimidating just like a reminder for snacks before landing in front of me and tilting its head at me. I’m absolutely fascinated by these birds and I’m so curious to see how things will go!

Title is the Tldr I guess.
I will try to keep it short but I'm not used to making posts here, some context is necessary, and English is not my first language, so I apologize for anything written weirdly. I'm sorry for how long it is, but I really need others' opinions.
My girlfriend is K, our common friend is T, and his girlfriend is H.
Almost a month ago, K and T went back to his place where their group was going to discuss the model and work on it for the presentation next day. We are in the same university so I know T and H and wee have been over to his place several times. We are rather the only couple T and H like to hang out with and so despite me being socially awkward, we became pretty good friends.
A few weeks ago, K was acting weird, like a little spaced out and lost in thought. Now she has suffered from PTSD because of several events, one of which happened a year ago, right before we met and started dating, so I try to make sure to ask her how she is feeling and be there for her, so it worried me. She had been doing much better but the flashes can come back at any time in some cases, hers used to be one of them too. So when I asked her about it, she told me that something had happened with her that is making her rethink a lot of things in her life. I just gave her the space she asked for until yesterday, when she told me what happened in the order of events.
When K and T were going to his place, there were many chart papers and stuff so the taxi's seat was full. They had to sit pretty close and she was dozing off but when she did, her head fell on his shoulder and he held her hand. When she was at T's place, she was pretty tired so she decided to rest before starting the project since they would have to stay up till late at night to finish it anyway. She went to one of the two bedrooms and laid down on the double bed and he came there and laid down beside her too. She was dozing off and he laid down beside her, close enough to fit on a single bed(her words), and she asked him "Why are you acting like this? What about H?" and he said "Oh yeah? Then what about your boyfriend?" She was pretty tired but she got up in a bit and left. Then they had pizza that they fed each other. They discussed the project with their group on a video call and then started working on it, during which he told her that he had a crush on her when our course started, and I already know that she did too, so she said the same. She then mentioned that she moved on pretty quick and then I came along. He mentioned that it was the same with him and H, but he feels closer to K than H and that he wishes that he was with K instead. She said that she feels closer to T than she does to me too, though she claims that she meant only as friends.
Now here are a few inconsistencies. At first, she said that on the bed, he tried to lean in and she asked him what he's doing, so he apologized and backed off. But when later that day, I asked her to tell me everything in proper details, she explained the aforementioned scenario.
The next few days, she asked him if he's ever going to tell H what happened and T denied and then said that he needs to put everything in the right way before doing so. Then yesterday, K told me about it. Apparently, what was on her mind all this time was that conversation. At first, she was thinking of "what if I was dating T instead" for a day or so, and then the rest of the time until yesterday, she was wondering why that thought ever crossed her mind. She felt guilty and wanted to wait for the exams to be over (which started right after the project) so it doesn't affect my scores, but couldn't hold it back anymore and told me yesterday.
For fair reasons, I believe that she has not lied to me. We have had a very healthy year of dating. It is the most healthy relationship I have ever been in and all, but I am split. I deserve someone who instantly chooses me over some old crush, especially after everything we have been through. I have helped her through her PTSD, have fought her extremely toxic family for her, was there for her when she was suicidal, went out of my way almost everytime I could in general to make her feel secure, helped her develop a better self-image, and she has told me that this is the deepest and the best relationship she has ever had. But if a guy she had a crush on a year ago for a short while can make her question our relationship, I'm not sure if I should give her a second chance. One side of me says no, but the other believes that she would not do this again- one that I actually believe in. The only problem is that my judgement is pretty much clouded at this point. I may be overreacting, we all get confused about things at this age, but I am not sure if this is one of them.