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So Iv usually been the quiet shy type, the one that tends to sit in the back of class and hope i don't get noticed. People tend to judge you before they get to actually know you so its always been kinda hard making new friends for me. I am trying to work on being less introvert and more social plus lately iv been feeling kinda lonely so I would like to find a chat buddy. Short term chat is fine but preferably id like a long term friend. I would like someone that wants to talk about both serious topics and silly topics. Also if you have anything on your mind and need to vent i dont mind listening.
So a bit about me im about 5'10 with brown eyes and long dark brown hair. I have 2 cats with plenty of pictures! Im a pretty big geek, I love comic books some of my favorites would be The walking dead, Spawn, Invincible, Batman, HellblazeConstantine, Spiderman, Old man logan to name a few. I also enjoy reading books like The expanse, ready player one, Lord of the rings. I am currently reading The witcher series. i also enjoy hiking, sleeping, going to the movies,mall,bars, concerts.
I Also enjoy video games and I usually just play on my xbox. Some of my favorites would be Red dead redemption 1&2, Fallout New Vegas&4, Assassins creed 2 and origins, Pubg, skyrim, Bioshock, mass effect, i have plenty of more
If you would like to know my music tastes i am very much a punk,metal, classic rock type of guy but that doesn't mean I won't listen to other stuff. If you enjoy bands like Greenday, The adicts, The misfits, Ramones, Weezer, Foo fighters will get along.
For Movies and Tv i like scifi fantasy but ill watch anything. Some of my likes would be Futurama, Lord of the rings, Harry potter, Back to the future, Rick and morty, The office and parks and Rec, King of the hill, family guy, Final space, star wars, star trek, a good amount of marvel and dc shows and movies.
As for who im looking for age, ethnicity,location dont matter just be fun and nice! Of course it would be great to find someone with common interests but its not a deal breaker im willing and want to learn about new hobbies. So if you think we might make great friends lets chat, we can chat on reddit or whatever app you might use.

So Iv usually been the quiet shy type, the one that tends to sit in the back of class and hope i don't get noticed. People tend to judge you before they get to actually know you so its always been kinda hard making new friends for me. I am trying to work on being less introvert and more social plus lately iv been feeling kinda lonely so I would like to find a chat buddy. Short term chat is fine but preferably id like a long term friend. I would like someone that wants to talk about both serious topics and silly topics. Also if you have anything on your mind and need to vent i dont mind listening.
So a bit about me im about 5'10 with brown eyes and long dark brown hair. I have 2 cats with plenty of pictures! Im a pretty big geek, I love comic books some of my favorites would be The walking dead, Spawn, Invincible, Batman, HellblazeConstantine, Spiderman, Old man logan to name a few. I also enjoy reading books like The expanse, ready player one, Lord of the rings. I am currently reading The witcher series. i also enjoy hiking, sleeping, going to the movies,mall,bars, concerts.
I Also enjoy video games and I usually just play on my xbox. Some of my favorites would be Red dead redemption 1&2, Fallout New Vegas&4, Assassins creed 2 and origins, Pubg, skyrim, Bioshock, mass effect, i have plenty of more
If you would like to know my music tastes i am very much a punk,metal, classic rock type of guy but that doesn't mean I won't listen to other stuff. If you enjoy bands like Greenday, The adicts, The misfits, Ramones, Weezer, Foo fighters will get along.
For Movies and Tv i like scifi fantasy but ill watch anything. Some of my likes would be Futurama, Lord of the rings, Harry potter, Back to the future, Rick and morty, The office and parks and Rec, King of the hill, America dad, family guy, Final space, star wars, star trek, a good amount of marvel and dc shows and movies.
As for who im looking for age, ethnicity,location dont matter just be fun and nice! Of course it would be great to find someone with common interests but its not a deal breaker im willing and want to learn about new hobbies. So if you think we might make great friends lets chat, we can chat on reddit or whatever app you might use.

So Iv usually been the quiet shy type, the one that tends to sit in the back of class and hope i don't get noticed. People tend to judge you before they get to actually know you so its always been kinda hard making new friends for me. I am trying to work on being less introvert and more social plus lately iv been feeling kinda lonely so I would like to find a chat buddy. Short term chat is fine but preferably id like a long term friend. I would like someone that wants to talk about both serious topics and silly topics. Also if you have anything on your mind and need to vent i dont mind listening.
So a bit about me im about 5'10 with brown eyes and long dark brown hair. I have 2 cats with plenty of pictures! Im a pretty big geek, I love comic books some of my favorites would be The walking dead, Spawn, Invincible, Batman, HellblazeConstantine, Spiderman, Old man logan to name a few. I also enjoy reading books like The expanse, ready player one, Lord of the rings. I am currently reading The witcher series. i also enjoy hiking, sleeping, going to the movies,mall,bars, concerts.
I Also enjoy video games and I usually just play on my xbox. Some of my favorites would be Red dead redemption 1&2, Fallout New Vegas&4, Assassins creed 2 and origins, Pubg, skyrim, Bioshock, mass effect, i have plenty of more
If you would like to know my music tastes i am very much a punk,metal, classic rock type of guy but that doesn't mean I won't listen to other stuff. If you enjoy bands like Greenday, The adicts, The misfits, Ramones, Weezer, Foo fighters will get along.
For Movies and Tv i like scifi fantasy but ill watch anything. Some of my likes would be Futurama, Lord of the rings, Harry potter, Back to the future, Rick and morty, The office and parks and Rec, King of the hill, America dad, family guy, Final space, star wars, star trek, a good amount of marvel and dc shows and movies.
As for who im looking for age, ethnicity,location dont matter just be fun and nice! Of course it would be great to find someone with common interests but its not a deal breaker im willing and want to learn about new hobbies. So if you think we might make great friends lets chat, we can chat on reddit or whatever app you might use.

So Iv usually been the quiet shy type, the one that tends to sit in the back of class and hope i don't get noticed. People tend to judge you before they get to actually know you so its always been kinda hard making new friends for me. I am trying to work on being less introvert and more social plus lately iv been feeling kinda lonely so I would like to find a chat buddy. Short term chat is fine but preferably id like a long term friend. I would like someone that wants to talk about both serious topics and silly topics. Also if you have anything on your mind and need to vent i dont mind listening.
So a bit about me im about 5'10 with brown eyes and long dark brown hair. I have 2 cats with plenty of pictures! Im a pretty big geek, I love comic books some of my favorites would be The walking dead, Spawn, Invincible, Batman, HellblazeConstantine, Spiderman, Old man logan to name a few. I also enjoy reading books like The expanse, ready player one, Lord of the rings. I am currently reading The witcher series. i also enjoy hiking, sleeping, going to the movies,mall,bars, concerts.
I Also enjoy video games and I usually just play on my xbox. Some of my favorites would be Red dead redemption 1&2, Fallout New Vegas&4, Assassins creed 2 and origins, Pubg, skyrim, Bioshock, mass effect, i have plenty of more
If you would like to know my music tastes i am very much a punk,metal, classic rock type of guy but that doesn't mean I won't listen to other stuff. If you enjoy bands like Greenday, The adicts, The misfits, Ramones, Weezer, Foo fighters will get along.
For Movies and Tv i like scifi fantasy but ill watch anything. Some of my likes would be Futurama, Lord of the rings, Harry potter, Back to the future, Rick and morty, The office and parks and Rec, King of the hill, America dad, family guy, Final space, star wars, star trek, a good amount of marvel and dc shows and movies.
As for who im looking for age, ethnicity,location dont matter just be fun and nice! Of course it would be great to find someone with common interests but its not a deal breaker im willing and want to learn about new hobbies. So if you think we might make great friends lets chat, we can chat on reddit or whatever app you might use.

last year, when we got him back from the groomevet he had red little wounds on his body, when we asked about them, they told us that he most likely had them already but when they shaved him, they became visible. then he started licking those wounds, the one on his back specifically. He got the wound so big and deep, we used antibiotic creams and bepanthol accompanied by the cone. that took a looong time to heal and we visited the vet countless times, he got allergy injections. which only helped about 2-3 days time passed and when fur grew longer it slowly stopped. we got him shaved again a few times since then, and a few days ago we did again. (different groomer,had no problems till now) He is miserable. he created a penny sized wound on his back, where the old one used to be, (it was completely healed” he cannot stop scratching, he slept in my closet for two days then,we put the cone on him which made him move around the house more. Last night he wouldn’t stop moving, i couldnt sleep a bit and was worried, he was meowing, clearly uncomfortable, moving around the room since he couldnt scratch himself. and his back was twitching constantly. then he threw up on my bed twice in 30mins. and he looks like he shakes when he breathes out. we will of course take him to the vet but we already went to several vets and no one can solve this issue. They think its allergic but we switched to special food etc there is nothing we can find that could causw allergies.And i guess the second flare up started after my sister mopped the house, but we clean the house very often so idk if that is related.

I’ve worked at said restaurant for (about to be) 5 years. Started as a host, then became a server, then became a bartender.
There is a lot of drama constantly, which, for the most part, is easy to ignore.
Management tends to suck, but they try. Higher ups don’t give any guidance or help and it trickles down all the way through the business.
I work 6 days a week currently (and have done so for the past two/three years. Used to have two days off.) I don’t mind it. I don’t work long shifts and if I ever need a day off the request is always approved. I can take many tables at once and bartend at the same time and very rarely, if ever, do I get overwhelmed. I make decent money. I’m happy with what I bring in every week and never feel like I need to worry about bills being paid or going negative. My coworkers are decent people, but I find myself getting irritated with how they act. I always feel as though I am doing more for them and they do nothing for me. I show up on time or early, they show up late.
I always make sure the person I’m relieving gets to leave on time, (or close to) whether that means they transfer their tables to me or I help them by getting their trash etc while they get their drawer counted.
When it comes my time to go I find my relief always shows up anywhere between 10-45 minutes late and on some occasions it can hit an hour! If this was a here or there thing, I wouldn’t care. Things happen. But I work 5 mornings and 1 night so I always have to wait for a relief on my mornings and this happens every single day. I can’t remember the last time a coworker has shown up on time. Truly. It’s been at least 4 months. I find this incredibly frustrating as I know I’m just being taken advantage of and am always being told “sorry, you! Thanks for always being so nice/cool about it! You’re the best!”
I’ve brought this up to management and was treated as though I was whining about it and that it wasn’t a big deal. After that I found it hard to trust management, (especially after hearing from two or three of my coworkers that said management mentioned I was complaining about getting stuck at work an extra half hour to an hour every day.)
Also, to top it off, we’ve had managers come and go recently and I have been offered the manager job at a sister store (that is not worth the drive and the store is in disarray) I have brought up multiple times that I wouldn’t mind the pay cut and would be willing to do the work at our current store and now have been told twice that I could take the sister location job instead. I was given three different reasons why I wasn’t being considered for this job at this store.
1). (And two combined) I don’t have management experience and we’re not hiring from within anymore. (I was told from our general manager this and the second our district manager) Three weeks later they hire someone from within our store with no manager experience. I bring this up and that brings reason number 3). I am too friendly to the staff…. Too friendly? For a hospitality manager? I have never had issues telling my coworkers what needs to get done. They don’t show backlash and they listen. The only issues is coworkers taking advantage of my time and managers showing little to no interest in anything I have to say (I swear over the years it’s become personal) I never ask off work. Maybe once every two months. I don’t complain. I joke around and have no beef. I don’t see where the issues arise from and why they are happening. Especially with how much time and effort I’ve put into this company to move up, only to be told now that we don’t move up in the company anymore. I know it’s not my performance, they have gone on many occasions telling me I would be great for our company and that I should be a manager (slap in the face much?) I even won bartender of the year and the company shared my photo across all our stores in the region. I guess it’s possible they don’t want to lost my 45 hours a week as a bartender, but there is absolutely no communication in our management. All my department managers keep saying to me “I don’t know why you haven’t gotten the job yet” don’t know if they’re hiding something from me or not.
Bring all of this into now:
My ex coworker from this same restaurant job offered me a job at the office she works for. It’s less than I’d be making now, but I’d get benefits and two days off a week. Either Mon-Fri or alternating days with possibility for an extra day off every two weeks. Paid vacation sick leave the whole works. She has worked her way up this company and makes triple what I’m making currently. She encourages me that I can easily move up through this new place and that they give raises every six months. (Current job: forgot to mention I never once received a raise only to find out everyone around me had because they complained. I was new to the working world and didn’t know you had to beg for and or give ultimatums for them. Which I had to do to move from host to server.) and if I ever had trouble moving up she said she’d help. She always helps with hiring and has a lot of power in her position.
Should I take this new job that comes with many new opportunities? I’m simply scared because I’d have to start all over and I’d be taking a $5,000-$8,000 dollar pay cut a year. Also it’s a 45-50 minute commute instead of 15.
Thoughts? Questions? Advice? I’m willing to hear anything.

After almost 15 years KM for a big chain restaurant doing 60+ hour weeks, working late nights, every weekend and every holiday and having my soul crushed by corporate mediocrity, I think I've bagged a unicorn.
Chef over three venues in a big office building downtown, one of which is a bistro where I will have almost total control over the menu. Monday through Friday, breakfast and lunch only, all office holidays paid off.
Shout out to KitchenConfidential for keeping my passion alive through the dark times, inspiring me to keep doing what I love.

I’ve known this girl for two years in college. I just graduated she’s got another year. We are both single for the first time at the same time. Both recently got out of relationships but they were both kinda expected and I’m healed from mine that was 7 months ago and she’s a bit behind me.
We always flirted in college in subtle ways. Never felt like it was totally platonic but could never fully read her. Never made a move or planned to cause I would never have cheated on my gf at the time. She was the same. Had morals and wasn’t like that. Just ended up kinda always being in contact as “friends” but never went further, until now. Never got together often, but often enough to foster a friendly relationship where we know each other quite well.
She started taking initiative to get together to hangout after her breakup recently, since she’s alone much of the time now that our college town is in summer mode. Rebound or not, I don’t think it is based on what I saw from her relationship it was dead for awhile, she offered to just hang if I was up to it.
I ask if she wants to get dinner a few days later, she’s down, I like to be fancy and generous with any girl I feel I have a genuine shot with, so I tell her a nice place we can go to. She can’t really afford it, I insist on paying until she stops fighting me about taking care of the bill. She doesn’t like to be treated to free stuff by anyone at all.
Her birthday is this weekend and I know she isn’t always very excited about her bday, just like me, so I decide to celebrate it for her and do a little surprise. Neither of us called this a date, but with the fancy restaurant and the fact that she got the picture and dressed way better than I expected her to, makeup and perfume and all that, we still never said it was a date, but it totally was and we both knew it. Had a great time, did a little surprise dessert, took care of the bill without it ever making it to the table, paid for everything and she got her surprise gift in the car. She was very receptive and didn’t seem uncomfortable at all, a bit surprised by it all since she’s not used to that level of treatment from guys. Not bragging more so I just like to really have nice dates so I make sure I have the means to afford that stuff. Leaves an impression.
She stays way later at my place than she originally planned. Her body language was not extremely obvious but I know she wasn’t uncomfortable. I wouldn’t know if she’s the type willing to make a move or if she prefers the man to. I didn’t wanna be too fast or disrespectful since, again we didn’t officially categorize the entire thing as a date, so I didn’t make any kind of move and looking back I think it’s more than obvious she would’ve been receptive.
I dropped her off later that night, she texts me right away thanking me for the whole night. I wanted to be clear with some kind of words and not confuse her with my actions (really nice date but not even an attempt at the simplest affection) so I just told her I wanted to be respectful cause I know she just got out a relationship but I really enjoy spending time with her. She says she really enjoys spending time with me and says thank you again. We talked about plans for after her busy upcoming weekend and it ends all good, I wasn’t worried that much since I think I made it more than clear with my actions and the text response about respecting the recent enough breakup that I was interested but didn’t wanna pressure her or be overbearing or anything. I have played it very cool, not overly eager but not nonchalant either.
Everything was fine for like two days. Wasn’t weird, had plans in the works that I was sure would work out. We texted the usual amount over this past week since she started talking to me more than before. Felt I should take a bit more initiative, without being pushy and just texted her this morning a quick “you wanna do dinner on Monday?” We had talked about Wednesday plans but never got confirmed since her schedule is legitimately packed this weekend due to birthday and some siblings graduations.
As soon as I sent that question today for Monday night, didn’t hear from her for 8 hours until the day was over. Usually I don’t read into this type of thing and in the end it isn’t a big deal but you can get the vibe when something is different. She responded basically at the end of the day with a “I have to check I’ll lyk cause I have a busy weekend” first time she’s done this since we started talking more recently. We aren’t the type to chat back and forth all day every hour but we had at least some kind of communication so over 8 hours no response is more than enough of a hint to just back off.
I’ll give it a day or so to see if she actually wants to see me again in that kind of manner, if so she’ll lmk and try to make plans. Ball’s in her court. I haven’t been overbearing or annoying. Never changed how I ever interacted in the last two years even till now. Never double texted, matched her energy, never gassed her up or gave more than I received from our “friendship”. Was always respectful and we know each other well. I’ll never beg someone to wanna talk to me or wanna see me so she’s never gotten free, one sided validation/attention/adoration or compliments from me. This time is the first time I’ve upped the ante in a pretty smooth way without expecting anything from her, just wanted to peak her interest and show her I’m not 100% platonic for her. Only did this cause she was sending some different signals than before and we are both single at the same time for the first time ever since we met. This is the first girl in a long time that’s got me to tangled like this man. Throws me off balance which I never allow to happen. I truly think I might’ve confused her that night when I wasn’t receptive to her less than normally obvious hints and maybe I just blew the one shot she was gonna give me? Not upset, just always trying to learn from things like this.
TLDR: been “friends/acquaintances” since we met two years ago. I’m 24 she’s 21. Age gap isn’t super obvious. We always kinda flirted, never felt like we were truly platonic but we have never been both single at the same time till now. She asks to hang, I offer to go to take her to dinner at a fancy place and she agrees. I take her on a really nice fancy expensive date, just my style, but we never called it a date. She was all dressed up and so was I. Yet we never explicitly say to each other that we are obviously on a very non platonic date. Have a great time. She gave me some signals back at my place after dinner but I didn’t make a move. Still hade a great night, I made it clear I was interested in my actions. All good for two days, nothing was any different other than more frequent texting, asked if she wanted to do dinner on Monday, she took all day to respond and said she would let me know. Literally the only thing I can think that I could’ve done better was at least kissed her but I didn’t wanna blow it since we hadn’t called it a date. Maybe I confused her. Might be overthinking but usually my gut is right.

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Chers membres de la communauté et de la direction de Reddit,
En tant que membres actifs, utilisateurs et modérateurs de nombreuses communautés au sein de Reddit, nous vous faisons part de nos inquiétudes concernant les récents changements apportés à la tarification de l'API de la plateforme, en particulier en ce qui concerne les applications Reddit tierces.
La situation
Récemment, Reddit a considérablement augmenté le prix de son API, rendant de plus en plus inabordable pour les développeurs d'applications tierces de poursuivre leurs services. Ce coût prohibitif menace de rendre difficile la modélisation à partir du mobile, d'étouffer l'innovation, de limiter le choix des utilisateurs et de mettre fin à une partie importante de la culture que nous avons appris à apprécier. En effet, le 31 mai 2023, lorsque ces changements ont été annoncés, tous les développeurs d'applications tierces sur Reddit ont fait essentiellement la même déclaration : "Je vais devoir fermer l'application". Les applications ne peuvent plus afficher de publicités, ce qui constituait leur principale source de revenus. Ainsi, non seulement elles doivent payer des frais exorbitants, mais elles ne peuvent même pas atténuer ces frais avec des publicités.

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L'impact sur les modérateurs et les communautés
En tant que modérateurs, nous nous trouvons à l'intersection de la gestion de Reddit et de sa base d'utilisateurs, et nous nous efforçons de faciliter des dialogues respectueux et significatifs dans nos communautés. Le récent changement de tarification de l'API est préjudiciable à nos efforts à plusieurs égards.
Beaucoup d'entre nous s'appuient sur des applications tierces pour gérer efficacement leurs communautés. Enlevons tout de suite le pansement : dans de nombreux cas, ces applications offrent des outils de modélisation supérieurs, une personnalisation, des interfaces simplifiées et d'autres améliorations de la qualité de vie que l'application officielle n'offre pas. La perte potentielle de ces services en raison du changement de prix aurait un impact significatif sur notre capacité à modérer efficacement, ce qui affecterait négativement l'expérience des utilisateurs de nos communautés et la nôtre en tant que mods et utilisateurs.
Inquiétudes concernant le contenu NSFW et la nouvelle politique
Les contenus matures (NSFW) ou les contenus 18+ et les subreddits sont soumis à de nouvelles restrictions qui rendent ce type de contenu indisponible via l'API. Cela signifie que si les autres restrictions imposées aux applications tierces n'existaient pas, elles ne pourraient toujours pas afficher ce contenu.
Ces changements rendent nulle et non avenue la modération des communautés nsfw par des processus automatisés ou par une application tierce. Si un robot de modération n'a pas accès à ce contenu, il ne peut pas fonctionner. Les modérateurs de ces communautés ne peuvent plus utiliser une application tierce pour modérer, même s'il était encore possible de les gérer financièrement. Le fait de n'avoir accès qu'au contenu du subreddit que le bot modère n'est pas suffisant pour empêcher le spam, le karma farming, le link-dumping et les autres types de comportements qui ruinent les subreddits et séparent parfois les utilisateurs de leur argent. Le contenu mature est depuis longtemps un sujet dont nous ne parlons pas vraiment, comme s'il s'agissait d'un citoyen de seconde zone ou d'un sujet dont on ne doit pas discuter en société polie. Pourtant, nous savons tous que les contenus matures sont un important moteur de trafic, sinon les spambots et les promoteurs de onlyfans n'essaieraient pas si fort de les monétiser. Le spam dans ces communautés va monter en flèche avec ces changements, ce qui nécessitera soit une augmentation exponentielle de la modération humaine par la force brute, soit une attitude de renoncement de la part des modérateurs qui laisseront les communautés envahies par le spam.
Ces changements ont également un impact sur les communautés autres que celles à contenu mature. Les communautés artistiques, les communautés de chat pour mineurs et les communautés de nudistes sont des exemples d'espaces non "à contenu mature" qui ont besoin que leurs robots et modérateurs puissent voir quand un utilisateur publie dans des communautés à contenu mature.
Les raisons invoquées pour justifier cette restriction sont le respect des exigences légales ou le fait d'aider les créateurs de contenu à mieux contrôler leur contenu. Mais nous ne voyons pas pourquoi les applications tierces ne pourraient pas incorporer un processus similaire à celui utilisé par Reddit pour afficher le contenu dans leurs propres applications. L'absence de discussion, combinée au niveau élevé des restrictions, indique qu'une autre raison pourrait être en jeu. En effet, l'interaction et la communication passées avec les administrateurs le garantissent.
Problèmes de communication
L'une des préoccupations de longue date concernant la gestion de Reddit est le manque de communication transparente et cohérente, en particulier avec ceux d'entre nous qui contribuent de manière significative à la fonctionnalité et à la croissance de la plateforme : les modérateurs. Au fil des ans, nous avons connu des changements abrupts avec un préavis minimal ou nul, car Reddit a apporté des modifications ou lancé de nouvelles fonctionnalités ou de nouveaux outils avec un préavis minimal ou nul, ce qui a eu des répercussions et des conséquences imprévues sur la gestion des subreddits. Des subreddits entiers et des initiatives ont été créés au fil des ans pour répondre à ces préoccupations. Et bien qu'il y ait eu quelques améliorations, le manque de communication reste important et nous laisse souvent, en tant que modérateurs non rémunérés, dans l'obligation de nous adapter et de nous assurer que nos subreddits restent des endroits où chaque utilisateur se sent suffisamment à l'aise pour commenter sans craindre d'être attaqué ou de subir d'autres engagements négatifs.
En outre, les incohérences entre ce qui est communiqué par la direction de Reddit et les résultats réels contribuent à accroître les problèmes de confiance entre les mods et les administrateurs. Les promesses de notification préalable des changements n'ont pas été tenues à plusieurs reprises, ce qui ne fait qu'exacerber notre inquiétude quant à cette récente modification de la tarification de l'API.
Notre plaidoyer
Nous comprenons que Reddit, comme toute entreprise, doive équilibrer ses obligations financières. Cependant, nous pensons que la longévité et le succès de cette plateforme reposent sur la préservation du riche écosystème qui s'est développé autour d'elle. Nous demandons instamment à la direction de Reddit de reconsidérer le récent changement de tarification de l'API et de trouver un compromis qui permette aux développeurs d'applications tierces de continuer à contribuer au succès de cette plateforme.
Nous demandons une solution qui reconnaisse le rôle vital joué par ces applications tierces et qui prenne en compte les impacts négatifs que cette décision pourrait avoir sur les utilisateurs et les modérateurs. Un modèle de tarification durable qui encourage la croissance et l'innovation de ces applications au lieu de les décourager ne fera que renforcer la communauté Reddit.
Conclusion
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Malheureusement, les récentes actions entreprises par Reddit semblent incohérentes par rapport aux engagements précédents, ce qui rend difficile le maintien de la confiance entre les mods et les admins. Nous demandons sincèrement une réponse honnête et directe à cette lettre avec des actions tangibles qui atténuent les problèmes soulevés ici.
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As noted, I have a new client giving me red flags and I'm conflicted with how to proceed. I'd love to hear any feedback or insights from folks who faced something similar.
More details below, but as a quick TLDR:
Demanding new client, refuses to use Rover website or app to modify or approve bookings - calls support for anything & everything & declined my assistance to walk through it together. Wants to lock down reoccurring weekly walks ASAP. Lights a cigarette as they tell me they are recovering from a heart attack, pending scheduling of major heart surgery with ICU time. They want me to walk their dogs that week too. Owner appears to live alone, and is a self-described hermit. I have no idea if they have any family or friends around.
Primary concerns:

• Client refuses to use website or app. If we set up reoccurring walks and a modification is needed, will I still get paid if they don't take action?
  
• I'm planning to relo in the near future. If I cancel a reoccurring walk series, will this put the naughty badge on my profile, when I end the weekly series? If I'm reading the policy correctly, I think I would be okay so long as I make the changes >5 days in advance.
  
• Worst case scenario happens and the owner doesn't make it out of surgery, or isn't able to return home. They want me to walk them on their days in the hospital, and didn't mention anyone staying with the dogs. I'm left wondering if there is someone who could take possession of the dogs if needed. How can I broach this subject tactfully and without offending them?
  
• How can I protect myself from this going south? I don't have a client contract at this time - although this might be the client that drives me to change that. Realistically, I'm unlikely get one executed before the bookings they want to start next week.
  

Challenges and owner concerns aside, this would be a good gig for me in theory. 3X week extended walks for two dogs, beautiful location by the water to walk that I would enjoy, and the owner is flexible on timing of walks. Although they are challenging to work with, I would like to help them and their pups out if I can.
More fun context:
This week I received a weekly reoccurring walk request for 3 days per week, beginning that day, with two dogs names listed on one profile. I laughed to myself before asking the requester to update the request to include both dogs on separate profiles. Standard stuff.
They replied, "Rover already has the profiles. X is a small dog and X is a big dog." I reiterated that the booking request had both dogs on one profile and Rover requires each pet to have its own profile.
"I don't know how to do that! Please just come to my house to walk them."
I assumed (correctly) that this was a senior citizen who was not comfortable with tech, so I looked up and shared rover's customer service number with them and encouraged them to reach out for assistance. They did so, but it was a shitshow. They called me several times throughout the day and left voicemails asking me to call them back and to let them know when I would be coming to their house. I didn't pick up or return their call, but sent messages coaching them through the process. I explained that I would like to have our walks this week, then if we're both comfortable we can get on a reoccurring schedule next week. They agreed, and hours later and after dozens of messages and calls made to me and Rover, the profiles and booking request was updated and we agreed on a schedule for the walk the next morning. I updated the booking request and asked them to approve. "Rover already has my credit card information." I explained they still have to approve any changes and the charges and they said they were exhausted and had been waiting for a return call from them for a couple hours. They were going to bed and would call in the morning. The next day when I never received an acceptance of the booking request, I cancelled and asked them to reschedule for the afternoon and prepay for the booking with Rover to avoid further challenges. After some more shenanigans, we get a walk on the books for later that day.
When we met it all made more sense. They asked what they were paying and for my pricing, and instructed me to return the dogs to their back porch afterwards, where they would be waiting (they weren't).
They asked me to drive down the road to an area waterway for our walks, which was fine, but the senior dog didn't want to get in the car with me and required I lift them in and out (not a small dog). This poor baby didn't want to walk on the trail with me, and was trying to turn back towards the car, with a busy roadway in between. I slowly coaxed them forward, but it was challenging. When I messaged the owner to let them know how things were going, they told me to let them off leash. I declined, noting my safety concerns.
After the walk and back on their porch - they reiterated their desire to book me on weekly basis as they lit a cigarette and told me again about the heart attack they had a month ago, and the congenital issue that will soon require an open heart surgery. I still don't know how I managed to keep my face together.

Pokemon is an RPG, a genre that is big on storytelling. Despite this, you'll rarely, if ever, see people bring up a pokemon game as an example of a good story. There are gamed in the series that everyone agrees were bad on story and writing (sword/shield and red/blue), but even the games with the best story and writing (gen 5 and 7, for example) are considered good "for pokemon standards." Do you think the games generally tell a good narrative through story and writing, is it dependent on the game, or is pokemon just bad at writing and story overall?

I wrote this in reply to someone asking about their first stage, but I kinda got into it. Hope you do too, chef.
My first stage, fresh out of cooking school (but with about 12 years of kitchen experience already under my belt) was under an accomplished master chef at a restaurant I would call home for a bit over five years. Usually they start their stages on GM, but for some reason, possibly my experience, he threw me onto Rotiss, the coal-powered grill station with a wood-burning rotisserie attached, both keeping the coals alive and cooking whole chickens and prime ribs above.
This night, I would be cooking in-house-cut ribeyes, striploins, lamb sirloins, flatirons, bison flanks, salmon, halibut, the occasional burger, grilled romaine, and naan bread on that grill, keeping the coals from getting too low (failing which would mean refilling during a rush, a big no-no when there's food on the grill because igniting coal crackles and spits black particles in all directions, including at the food) or too high, which would char the fucking lamb sirloins, ribeyes, and striploins, in the bad way, chef.
I later learned that I hadn't burned my body with fire until I burned it with coal, but I didn't know that yet, chef.
I started out confident in my skills, impressed that he expected I use the same 3-turn for grilling I learned about in school, dressing burgers and grilling lettuce for the 4:30 crowd, not yet paying full attention but still thinking everything was going great. First seating finally got its push, and I got a few flatirons and bison flanks on and off the grill, cooked properly, under the watchful eye of my shadow trainer, and even managed to hit my stride getting a couple naans up and out at the same time for firsts. Things were going well.
Then, tragedy struck. My trainer had to go offline to take off the rotisserie chickens, and I was on my own.
The first pickups for mains were fish. 1 salmon, 1 halibut. Oui. I knew enough, I thought, to be able to tell when fucking halibut was done without having cooked a dense fish like hali before. No, chef.
When one passes two items for the same table, they both have to be perfect, at the same time. It mattered not that the salmon was right, the halibut to go with it was only just rare in the middle, when he wanted it a touch past med rare, where the juices start to glisten and the fish changes from pale grey to warm pearl inside. His glare alone made me catch my breath, and I realized that I had been overconfident in my abilities, overzealous and way too fucking ambitious to cook fish on my own.
Remake. Heard. Fired. Sent. Next bill.
Striploins, one med rare, one medium. I had cooked steaks before, but, you know, the fucking a restaurant name that ends in s ones that are all the exact same shape and density, their fat caps never even seen or heard of, never mind the varying marbling that comes from grass-fed beef from small-town Alberta ranchers. I pulled them from the cooler, seasoned and oiled them up, moved the coals over so they'd give a good sear, and got ready to fire. It was fine until the first turn of the steak. I'd looked at the bottom and the colour was looking good. I turned both, onto spots of similar heat, and turned around to build a set for some burgers that were close.
Now, I didn't mention yet that this was not only an open kitchen, but that rotiss station has barstools all around it, which on busy nights has 12 to 15 guests at all times. I looked up from my happy burger place to see the faces of my closest guests illuminate, as their eyes stretched to the ceiling. Fuck. Fire, I turned around and moved the strips off the hot spot, smelling their pungent, acrid odour and seeing dark, sour smoke marks along the fat caps which had rendered, in turn causing the coals to get even hotter and ignite the grill and the meat.
Embarrassed, I collected myself and told him, "refiring 22, chef" and I thought he was going to hit me. The whites of his eyes were all I could see in that moment, because if I met his gaze I felt I could melt. It felt safer returning to my grill and standing next to 1100 degrees of ignited coal than bearing the shame.
"Well, get it on, then."
"Yes chef, heard chef, firing now."
"You mean refiring now?"
The question, that awkward sense of seeming completely rhetorical, but also being somehow more, made my ears ring as though he had hit me. He was staring through me as though expecting an answer, but at the same time daring me to speak
"Yes chef." Was all I knew how to say. Steaks fired. Trainer still MIA, turned out he was firing more chickens for the rotiss, and I also now needed to build up the fire with birch so the birds could get a crispy skin, before reducing the temp with cherry wood. All while cooking this refire. Orders were now piling in, first seating was in full swing, and firsts from the early stages of second seating were starting to be taken, meaning I'd soon need more steaks on the grill so they could rest. I had to fight my senses now, leaving my strips just a little longer on the first turn, watching for flare-ups on the second. and by the time I had my med rare almost ready, I had the medium one off and resting. I pulled the med rare as well and chef came over, showed me how to rub them down both sides with cold butter to arrest the rushed cook. No compliment, no acknowledgement save a nod that I could go on next.
I got two more strips a bill or two after that, cooking them accurately but missing the rendering of the fat cap during the cook, where leaving them on their side to render properly would make overcooking inevitable, and I'll never forget this moment. He brought my trainer back on line to cover me, and called me back behind the rotiss.
"Do you have a fucking learning disability or something?"
"Yes chef, well, no, chef, but I might be a slow learner when it comes to this, chef."
"Get the fucking striploins into your seasoning pan immediately, so they warm up to room temp. Don't over-oil them, look at the side, what is that made of?"
"Fat, chef"
"Yes, fat. Do you know what each of these strips costs me? About what you make in an hour. Do you have four hours to pay me back?"
"No, chef."
"Then don't fucking burn any more."
"Yes, chef."
I got back out there, miserable and defeated. We finished service a touch over 450 covers, in a meat-heavy restaurant, my first service in the books. We flipped, stocked, and smoked, as is tradition. As I was wrapping my knife roll up and getting ready to wrap the station for the night, my trainer came over with a big piece of foccacia. He split it horizontally, dunked the pieces in the resting tray, and threw them down on the hot part of the grill to blacken and burn. He took them off and offered me one, and we munched, both staring into the black abyss of the rotisserie.
"I've been working for chef for years and I've never seen him cut someone up like that on his first day. He must really like you."
He gave me a knowing smile, because he already somehow fucking knew I'd be back.
"Good job tonight."
"Thanks, Mike."
And I would. Chef called me the next morning and asked if I would be interested in coming in to work dinner.
"Yes chef."
"Well, everybody around here usually comes in at least an hour early (unpaid, but that's another story), so I'll see you at 1:30."
"Yes chef, see you then."
It's been 25 years since I started cooking professionally. I worked my last day in a kitchen a couple months ago. I hated every fucking minute, but I have never found any other work that made me as satisfied and angry at the same time. Good riddance and best wishes, chef. And Mike? Thanks for showing me the real heart of the industry, you big fucking freight train of a man.
Bye, chef. See you tomorrow.
--Honestly, I'm turning this into a post on main because no one will ever see it here I'm vain and want someone to see my work, but thank you for inspiring me to write about my experience itsnotyourfault- I owe you a debt of gratitude.
TLDR: Don't be a dick, render those fat caps, and be kind to your brothers, chef.

16 years in and 16 year marriage. Wife and I are done and here are some things I’ve learned.
The history: First big warning sign was emailing/sexting a guy while I was away at AIT. Should have done it right then and been done. Nope… kept with her.
Second was the deployment after we had one kid. She messed around with two guys but blamed it on me mental illness. Being religious then, I forgave and wanted to make it work for our daughter since my childhood was awful due to my parents divorce.
After our third kid and eight years later (2020) she starts chatting with one of the guys from the deployment. Full on separated, started proceedings and all I had to do was file. She said she had changed again and I was lonely, caretaking, and still not strong enough.
Started going to therapy in 2022, using military one source, being better about taking care of myself. Start working on my past issues and then just one month ago, you guessed it, more shit pops up.
Well I finally did it. I knew I could stand up for and take care of myself. Talked with the lawyer and paperwork is being drafted and will be ready next week.
After being separated for one month, and continuing to work on myself, here’s what I’ve learned:
Listen to your gut. I wasn’t personally strong enough to stand up for myself against toxic leaders or in my toxic relationship with my ex. Looking back now to when we were dating there we’re so many red flags I ignored or rationalized.
Always take care of your of yourself. No one else will. This includes taking leave, staying fit, eating right. Not only is it better for you but you will start to feel better.
Get help! If family advocacy/BH gives you a shitty therapist, get a different one, get a referral for someone outside the clinic, or pay out of pocket (if you can). Invest in yourself. There is always someone that can help you. I was afraid to ask for help, from family or from other Soldiers. As soon as I started asking it became so much easier to ask and receive help. You don’t have to do it alone. Just stick it out for one more day if you have to. It gets easier, it gets better.
I’ll have a spicy deluxe chicken sandwich in a meal with a lemonade.
TL/DR: getting divorced- get help, take care of yourself, follow your gut, and it will get easier.

Only alt without a big red candle. SEC's raining hellfire on the industry and we dont give a fook, do we lads?

NOTE: English is not my first language; please be patient and merciful with me. And this is my first time posting. So if it's long- I am sorry. You can send me to the shadow realm after reading this-.
This is a story of how I got kicked out of a dnd campaign that I am still unsure how to feel about since it is still fresh (about a few months ago), so I am writing it down to clear my head and tell you the story while I still have it in mind. And I am still confused if I could have avoided ending up this way or if it was me being an asshat that had it coming. But a friend tried to make me think otherwise and encouraged me to write this post. I still have mixed feelings on the subject, and I need more than just people in my circle to gain more insight if I was the only problem since there were small experiences that only confused me more.
Cast: OP: Me the problem player Bard/DM: The one who invited me and made the final decision. Cleric/GM: The second DM who ran our combat sessions more often than DM. Rogue: The Gm's girlfriend. Warlock: a friend of Rogue, GM, DM, and another party member and the only one I managed to get along with more than the rest. The rest of the party were a Druid, A massive Leonian Artificer, and a Milf tempest cleric, which were super fun to play with.
How it began:
DM and I met through a mutual friend through Discord, and we hit it off right from the start (At least, I think we did). We had a lot in common and talked a lot when quarantine was losing its grip around the world; eventually, one day, we started talking about dnd and how he was running a campaign where he DMED for the first time.
He talked about it, and I tried to give him the best ideas I could come up with, so it was a load off his back, at least. Eventually, I told him about another campaign I was in that ended horribly. Short story short, it was a toxic mess of childish degrees and just humiliation.
I was invited into the campaign by DM and asked what the party was playing, and eventually, with the DM, I made my first Barbarian which I still love. I made him a Feral Tiefling even though I do not like them because of hilarity. I made it so that he doesn't come from the world but from the nine hells. I was new to this group of people, so why not make the character alien to the world?
After a time when the Campaign was being prepared, the DM told me how he would be a player and a dm. After those words, my head went into the enormous room in my mind palace only to find crabs snipping, mice screaming, and a dragon snarling because of how much I have listened to their stories about DMPCS going super wrong.
After Den of the Drake lessons, the red flags started firing like an M1911 on rapid fire. But it increased a little more when he told me the GM would mostly run the combat sessions and do the same thing. I was afraid since I had never met the GM before, but the DM told me he was an okay guy, and they both had a lot in common, so I decided to give it a chance. So one session, it was Dm, and the next was GM.
I was fearful, thinking it would just be two DMNPCS who would not suffer the treatment as the players would during the entire campaign, but it did not go that way. Well, sort of. There was a time when I was being attacked a lot. I don't remember if it was goblins or some other creature, but I do remember me saying something as a joke:
OP: "What me again?! Hit the Bard! I wanna heaaaalllll!" GM: "You know I would! But he made the world, so he has the protagonist status, and you are the tank, so you'll be fine!"
When I tell you, I felt the flags rising. I mean "rising up"
I was very uncomfortable because it reminded me of when I could not damage someone else's character in an rp. (They were an admin, so they abused their privileges by ganging up against my character. ) But I placed that nightmare aside and only told the DM how it made me very uncomfortable with that small comment, and he acknowledged it.
I initially thought Dm was insecure about running it alone, so he asked for help, but the more I think about it… maybe it was that he was insecure about running it on his own. I was a bit worried, but I never voiced my point of view and gave it a chance. GM had more experience than the DM, and he was a pretty chill guy.
But there was something that bothered me.
After we started, I always had this tension within the group, it was mostly because we're strangers and I am getting to know them, but what's even weirder is that it simply just stuck; every time we were in a session, there was this tension in the air that it was sometimes hard to even breath, it wasn't anxiety. Still, it felt like judgment more than anything. I worked around it by thinking it was me being insecure.
There was a point where the problems began to surface. I did receive some warnings throughout the campaign as I am very honest with myself and about other subjects that I enjoy, especially if it's something I have liked for a long time and some greedy company fucking it up with either some woke bs or politics. I also struggled to express myself correctly when I was little, so I am extremely direct and speak things as they are without any filter. Which is an issue I am still working on.
After small ups and downs and attempts to be friendly with them, I only settled more comfortably with "Maybe knowing them as the people I play dnd with is better than just trying to be friends."
October was a horrible month for everyone at the party. When this campaign started, I had a pretty bad back injury for almost a year, and it began to tank my mental health pretty severely. I couldn't even walk normally without feeling pain, sitting down was an issue too. Before that month, I helped someone by carrying them because they were about to fall and break their skull open, but that fucked my back even worse despite working on it for a year, then something relating to my DID that caused me to have a pretty dire existential crisis, even to the point of almost attempting suicide and my cousin getting shot and killed. And then… The DM's girlfriend died, and the Rogue and GM's friend did so along with his fiance or wife (I do not remember; I am very sorry) and their kid in a car accident. It was a horrible month for everyone, and while the others took time to mourn, I did not stop and take a break for myself. I spiraled into a long frenzy of overworking, trying to keep my mind busy with work instead of letting it settle down. Still, the emotional turmoil got so bad that I had sleepless nights that eventually got me fired in December. I almost ended up in a mental hospital because of how concerned my GF, friends, and mother were. A broken body and a wrong sleeping schedule can do that to you.
But that's not what you are here for now. You are here to know the whys and hows and a big reason I got kicked out. So a little about me:
I tend to be considered energetic, blunt, direct, brutally honest and confident, kind, and caring, but a very self-destructive asshole. I also have a bit of an issue with D.I.D (Dissociative identity disorder), which at times has caused me a lot of suffering because I have memory gaps of things that I did or said.
I love breathing life into new characters, and I get excited to play them, which resulted in a minor problem and my first strike here as a problem player.
The DM is a fair man, and he is straight with me when something has to be said. He told me that I was taking the spotlight; I remember this being a complete fault of mine because there were moments of this silence that made it feel awkward to me, so I tried to place something so everyone could join in. I am an ambivert, so I didn't think of it that way. Plus, I liked playing my character a lot and interacting with Dm's world; I was so excited that I took the spotlight without me knowing. There was also the part where I talked about certain subjects that made other players uncomfortable, which was my fault 100%.
However, this second one is still the most unfair out of all of them. The first half is something that happened with star wars. I was livid because of Disney's stupidity in trying to ruin a character. I did say something very offensive when I saw red, pissing off the GM, and I can take responsibility for that… It was mine, 100%. In the second half, after a back and forth, I am still not even sure how the fuck this even happened or how I was in the wrong, so let's talk about Rogue.
She is the GM's girlfriend, and how do I say this? She is pretty tricky. There was one time I asked who was joining the campaign, and since nobody other than maybe Warlock, druid, DM, or GM would answer so, I asked the GM if she was joining that session; keep in mind I do not know rouge at all, and how she is or acts during this period, I only knew her as the rouge of the dnd party.
I shit you not. She instantly replies with the most aggressive and sassiest message that goes:
"If you're going to ask if I am coming to this session, do not ask my bf or DM about it. You ask me directly, and no, maybe I won't be coming to this session."
Uh yeah, I remember this situation, and honestly, I still feel like I was being mistreated and disrespected for such a stupid reason as to ask for someone who never even spoke that often. They only just came into the vc, and who comes, comes. And after that, she refused to even come to the session over that, and because of other personal stuff, she had to attend. I asked the DM to see what I should do. And he explained that Rouge was kind but very aggressive when she felt wronged. I still do not know how I even made her fly off just by questioning whether she was coming. We never talked, so I only asked the people I could feel more comfortable with to talk to so they could check on her. I was understandably more pissed off but gave it a bit of patience. Dm advised me to apologize to her, even if I did not want to. I still tried, but I wouldn't be treated that way again. I can understand if there was a reason. But I asked a question, and I got such a backlash. Yeah, fuck no; how was I supposed to apologize for something as basic as asking if someone was attending?
I wrote an apology despite clearly showing that I was still baffled about the unprovoked outburst. I told her that it was okay if she had a bad day. However, I told her I wouldn't take unprovoked hate, pettiness, or just a grudge from anyone; I came to have fun and not have someone lash out at me cause they had a bad day or just because I asked for their well-being. It happened in my last one, and Druid was with me, so I wouldn't let it happen to me again. She said it was fine, that she was sorry for being rude, and that she didn't mean it. And she was dealing with a lot and wasn't in a good headspace. I understood, and I thought that was the end of it.
But ever since that outburst, I was afraid to talk to DM's friends, ESPECIALLY GM. I came from dealing with a toxic server that was out to get me, so feeling that around the dnd table was a landmine just for speaking was a fucking nightmare.
What's worse? Oh yeah, remember how she said she was sorry for the rudeness? DM, came to me and told me why she didn't come. I told her in my apology that I took dm's advice to apologize to her, but stated that I DO NOT KNOW HER AND HOW SHE ACTS AND DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO APOLOGIZE FOR. Dm said to me that she found my apology not to be genuine. That's true, but a context behind it. This was one of the reasons why she didn't want to come to the sessions for a while. Which now that I am out of the campaign? This was the most enormous fucking unfair strike. To the point, I wanted to avoid going to the sessions, but low and behold, I still arrived first than anyone. Like a moron…
I also remember being a vc where I remember DM and GM just sitting me down.
And Dm said one of the first things I began to lose respect for him after the Rogue situation… He told me after we talked it out to end the bullshit.
"I'll give you a bit so you absorb what we just said, and then we will start the session."
I never felt so much fuckin disrespect and pure bullshit in shaming me for something I do not fault for. Then get treated like a fucking child over it.
Before you ask, "Did she do anything else that made you feel even more uncomfortable and more unsettled by her?" The answer may surprise you: YES, MULTIPLE LITTLE INCIDENTS.
Little things pushed me further away from interacting with her or her character.
So apparently, GM and Rogue have been rping with their characters when Rogue wasn't there. (GM made a separate character to help me while the other was with Rogue) which they had a little adventure together. Which is fine, but when she comes back, her character is wanted around the city, and the GM's DMPC is a noble from a house that wants him dead. That was fine. But what's worse is when we plan out what to do next, this happened:
OP: in character "I know the skills of Warlock and the rest, but I do not know precisely what you can do." Rogue: "Why are you asking? You're not my type; I have been doing this since I was x amount of age. I am a rogue, so deal with it."
I do not know what to tell you. I was amazed and still believed she did not let that bullshit go. I remember cringing at this; that killed my mood.
There were also these times when she just left, and the GM and sometimes DM just called the session in a few minutes. Not to mention the one time she had a screaming match in vc with someone on the other side of her mic that I just wanted to leave the session that day. And then the red flag.
Hearing the GM stop the combat for a bit, only to see her muted and him going
"What? What is it!? I am sorry!" in the most degrading way possible.
I have helped friends out of relationships that had those exact words. I felt terrible and uncomfortable for him, and the more these little things happened, the more I just wanted to avoid Rogue.
And I remember when we were in a VC, and Rogue told me to be careful about Warlock cause they might place some bad rumors about her. But what's weird.. It is that she wasn't alone. GM and Milf Cleric were there, which to me, smells like she needed people to confirm an alibi. But against her friend? Yeah, her words did not sit right with me. I lost credibility for her to a maximum.
But against Warlock? Her friend? Well, let me tell you, the only person other than the DM I got along with there…
Warlock was the other friend I made, then maybe Druid and Artificer.
They were very kind despite nearly killing us twice with fireballs. They were having fun. We made our characters friends even to the point he trusted him enough to protect his sister if my barbarian ever found her or if he died. The more I talked with Warlock, the more I felt at ease with the group, like at least I knew there was a mutual friend there. Or so I think.
Eventually, Warlock opened up to me about something that had them on edge, how they wanted to kill a character they liked.
Warlock told me that the problem was that their character was a female Dragonborn that was a harmless flirt, and her dead husband was a Goliath. There was teasing between their character and DM's, which was a Goliath. But apparently, the teasing got so bad that they wanted it to stop despite telling Rogue about it. Warlock also stated that Rogue sometimes holds grudges, even things that died out. That encouraged me to talk to Warlock about how I felt about Rogue, how I thought that she hasn't let it go, how I didn't want to get close to her character, and the antagonism was not something I wanted within the rp between our characters nor outside of it. I was not too fond of that idea, and Warlock reassured me that it wouldn't bleed into the game. In return, I told the warlock to say to the DM if the teasing happens to help them settle it down, Warlock doesn't truly express their feelings entirely just to not kill the mood, and I felt bad about it.
I was looking at myself before getting humiliated for making a character, so I didn't want them to feel alone and suffer that fear of just making something they liked. I hated seeing that similarity, and it opened a door. And it was like a whisper to me:
Suppose Warlock had so much bottled up and feeling this way. Is my feeling that there is judgment when I play my character or being myself? Is it their judgment and dislike towards me? After that, I started thinking that they were friends on different servers, so I began to assume the worst that they talked about the worst of me, and it was that they were waiting for something.
Then the OGL happened. Everything was going to shit, and my motivation was already on the floor. How much shit has happened to me the past few months and how uneasy I felt about the campaign was more like sinking into hell.
And then strike three happened… when I toned out so badly that I said something in a conversation that I do not remember, but after careful thinking, I remember now.
The DM and GM changed a few things that I thought were OGL bs. I remember talking to a friend before I realized my mistake when they mentioned it was their decision. But where I toned out was when I spoke to this with Warlock and Milf Cleric; I remember, at least in my perception, how there were better names for certain things, how I loved a specific and disliked some. As an artist and world builder, I am no stranger to criticism, but my mistake was not telling them or asking them directly. I admit here… It was my mistake. It was my third strike.
Dnd night, the most humiliating thing happened. Everyone was there and then slowly left as dm explained how upset he was. I pissed him off and explained how I talked shit behind his back, and I admit I should have asked beforehand… he was angry and had the right to be. I was a terrible friend for doing such a thing.
But there were some things in there. I still wonder if I do not remember or even if Dm mentioned it to me about it, but he told me he wanted to publish it how he wanted to, but I did not know. And I don't remember that conversation.
He was angry and then said to me:
DM: "I know you speak your mind; I am not asking you to change who you are. I ask you to THINK a little before you talk."
Those words hurt me because I had been told those words by someone else I knew. And that was when I didn't want to sit at that table anymore, not because he was angry but because those words opened an old wound. He then said that he would leave before he said something he could not take back when he already did say something that he could not take back.
I fucked up. The session was canceled, and I was left alone in the vc while I just stood in silence before feeling the same as the other times I was just humiliated by the servers that made me scared to rp. And that feeling of "You fucked it all up, might as well leave."
And the next day, someone joined, and I thought it was a new guy, but I knew he was going to take my place because I was going to get kicked out.
And my last conversation with the DM went like this:
DM: "So… You know I've been fair with you-" OP: "Look, if I am out, I am out; just saying don't sugar coat me anything." Dm: "Look, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. There are just a lot of votes against you. And not a lot with you." OP: "Okay." DM: "There will be campaigns but you won't be in this one… You can still stay in the server. I am sorry that has come to this?." OP: "Why? Your friends do not want me there. It's better to leave than watch you all have fun. I rather stay out where I am not wanted. And make my character disappear into the night with his stuff. No letter, no nothing. That's all I ask." Dm: "Okay… Well uh… See you later, OP." OP: "Yeah, see you someday."
And that was it. I left the server that day and asked Dm if I had his consent to post this down…and he said yes. (A few months late. But hey better late than never)
I know I did a lot of things wrong. I know that I made mistakes. But I am not sure how to feel if there was just me being a moron or there was something more.
DM, if you happen to read this by random chance, I am sorry for not being a better friend. I do not hate you, nor do I have a grudge. I only wrote what needed to be written down. And I hope that is good enough.
There you have it, Reddit. My RPG horror story and I was the problem all along. Take it as you will, be dragon, mouse, crab, or crow. Even if you believe you're a problem player yourself. I thank you for reading this post, and I am sorry if my grammar is not the best.
My advice for those who are in the same situation. Speak when needed. Keep your distance, and if you feel like you are not wanted there, talk it out first. You could be wrong. But if you're right? Walking away is easy, dnd is long, and life is short.
I hope that it was clear enough!
Take care, respect your body, keep your mind healthy, and sail to another day.

Ok. So I had a dream today. Though I'm not sure if the dream played out a scene I read in a book or was it something my brain cooked up.
Here's how it went: The FMC was coming out of her apartment to for a walk with her dogs (doberman) when she runs into a women in the hallway. She tries to pet her dogs only for them to growl and bark at her. The FMC tells her they're assistance dogs and can't touch them. The women gets all hauty and tries again when the a dog almost bites her hand off. She starts screaming and bitching when a man with wavy dark curls swoops in and tries to calm her down. He looks like a golden retriever with big grey laughing eyes and a cute accent. He explains to her about assistance dogs but the women continues to be a, well, bitch. FMC starts to lose her temper when the women fun of the man's bright orange shirt on his lanky frame and colour- stained pants. But then a big muscled man comes rushing and tries to move her away. The man apologises to the FMC and the wavy-haired without meeting their eyes and moves the women down the hallway. The FMC and the other man are left somwhat stunned. The man says something funny that irritates the FMC and she moves away with her dogs.
Fastforward the way dreams sometimes do.
The FMC is coming back from an evening stroll with her dogs when the wavy-highlighted-haired man runs into her, a violin case in hand. They strike a conversation that soon turns into banter as he begins to irritate the FMC. When they near their apartment building, they hear the same women screaming and hitting at the muscled man as he stands their taking it all in. The FMC tries to intervene but her companion stops her, a worried expression on his face. When the big man tries to placate her and tell her to be quiet as they're outside, the women slaps him and spits on him before stomping away. The FMC and the other man runs towards the big guy and ask him if he's alright. He doesn't meet their eyes but nods. When the violin-guy asks him if that was his girlfriend, he says ex-girlfriend as of now. He tells them in a dazed inflectionless voice that she cheated on him in their new apartment they bought before their marriage 2 weeks from now and then got mad at him for being a workaholic and that he's to blame for her cheating and looking for comfort elsewhere. The FMC and the other guy are stunned. They forms a sort-of front in an instant an takes the man's arms, pulling him away, saying to fuck that red-flag of woman.
The last scene I remember from the dream is when the trio is sitting in a bar somewhat drunk. The violin-guy is trying to flirt with the bartender who's his friend into giving them another shot, the big guy twirling a rose with a surly expression, another rose behind his ear put their by a groups of loud, bachelorette party girls while the FMC looks on at the guys with a resigned, adoring expression.
So. Can anyone think if such a book exists?
If there's any similar book out there, please rec me. I'd love to read it. Or suggest me books with a healthy polyamorous relationship (preferably something similar to this)