Indiana high school football rankings

For reference I live by Tate Highschool but their track and property is gated off. Back home in New York we could run on high school tracks or college tracks. I’m kind of new to this area and need to get my cardio back on track. Anyone know any places? Thanks!

So this actually happened a while ago and I was thinking about it and it pissed me off again. I go to a public school in the south for reference. I came out as trans in my freshman year and was fully out as a trans dude at school and home by the start of sophomore year. I needed to use the bathroom and was planning to use the girls room but a teacher said I would make the girls uncomfortable. Confused, I asked what I was meant to do- should I go to the boys room then? Of course I was not allowed there either. I was basically turned down from using any bathroom and didn’t want to pick a fight that I thought would just get me in trouble. Finally, I got sick of not being able to pee and asked my school guidance counselor about it. She was wishy washy and it basically went alllll the way up in the ranks to the central office where they decided I would not be allowed in any student restroom or locker room. I am allowed to use the staff bathrooms now, but wait! If course I can’t pee with the teachers! And those rooms are still gendered SO there is a singular staff one room toilet that I’m “allowed” to use. I have to carry my PE uniform and equipment with me (including a mandatory change of shoes) in my bag and have to change halfway across the school since I’m not allowed to even have a locker, much less use the locker room. It makes me late to class sometimes (always for PE) and even though the staff room is nicer and gives me less anxiety, it’s bull shit. I never asked to use the mens room. I just wanted to pee. I’m now a senior so one more year of this shit

hi everyone,
I am a recent college grad and I am having doubts about my career choice. I received my degree and I am currently studying for my license in occupational therapy. However, I have always had in the back of my mind that I wanted to be a teacher. I never went for it mostly because of people always telling me not to because I wouldn’t make any money. Of course, I can’t say 100% that teaching is something I would love as much as I do thinking about it in my head (which also scares me to make the career switch), but I have always felt like I wanted to be a teacher.
I am feeling discouraged and regretful for jumping into my major so quickly. I jumped into a two-year program right after I graduated high school, so I didn’t really have the time or opportunity to switch my major and think about what I really wanted to do.
My mom tells me that it isn’t too late. I am only 20 years old and she says that I can still go back to school to obtain a teaching degree even though I have already gone through the schooling for my current degree / am about to take my certification exam.
Has anyone ever had this problem? How do I know what’s the right choice? Would it be a waste of my time and money to go back to school for something totally different?
(for any current teachers that may be reading this, what are your thoughts? is the career what you always hoped / expected?)
I feel so stuck on what to do and it really makes me upset :(

hi everyone,
I am a recent college grad and I am having doubts about my career choice. I received my degree and I am currently studying for my license in occupational therapy. However, I have always had in the back of my mind that I wanted to be a teacher. I never went for it mostly because of people always telling me not to because I wouldn’t make any money. Of course, I can’t say 100% that teaching is something I would love as much as I do thinking about it in my head (which also scares me to make the career switch), but I have always felt like I wanted to be a teacher.
I am feeling discouraged and regretful for jumping into my major so quickly. I jumped into a two-year program right after I graduated high school, so I didn’t really have the time or opportunity to switch my major and think about what I really wanted to do.
My mom tells me that it isn’t too late. I am only 20 years old and she says that I can still go back to school to obtain a teaching degree even though I have already gone through the schooling for my current degree / am about to take my certification exam.
Has anyone ever had this problem? Would it have been a waste of my time and money to go back to school for something totally different?
(for any current teachers that may be reading this, what are your thoughts? is the career what you always hoped / expected?)
I feel so stuck on what to do and it really makes me upset :(

So this actually happened a while ago and I was thinking about it and it pissed me off again. I go to a public school in the south for reference. I came out as trans in my freshman year and was fully out as a trans dude at school and home by the start of sophomore year. I needed to use the bathroom and was planning to use the girls room but a teacher said I would make the girls uncomfortable. Confused, I asked what I was meant to do- should I go to the boys room then? Of course I was not allowed there either. I was basically turned down from using any bathroom and didn’t want to pick a fight that I thought would just get me in trouble. Finally, I got sick of not being able to pee and asked my school guidance counselor about it. She was wishy washy and it basically went alllll the way up in the ranks to the central office where they decided I would not be allowed in any student restroom or locker room. I am allowed to use the staff bathrooms now, but wait! If course I can’t pee with the teachers! And those rooms are still gendered SO there is a singular staff one room toilet that I’m “allowed” to use. I have to carry my PE uniform and equipment with me (including a mandatory change of shoes) in my bag and have to change halfway across the school since I’m not allowed to even have a locker, much less use the locker room. It makes me late to class sometimes (always for PE) and even though the staff room is nicer and gives me less anxiety, it’s bull shit. I never asked to use the mens room. I just wanted to pee. I’m now a senior so one more year of this shit

And that all of them have rejected me?

I am a tutor at my school. Well, you can’t really say a „tutor“ in this sense. Schools in Germany do not have afternoon classes, their classes end at 1 pm. For the kids in the 5th and 6th grade ( my school is from 5th to 13th grade), there is an afternoon program where they do their homework and afterwards play together or with the tutors. This job can be fun, rewarding, entertaining, funny, cute and so much more and I love my part-time job. At least I would love it if there were no parents involved in any schools. I have 3 or 4 Karens in my school who take all the attention. The other parents I usually never see as I am not in any way the communicator of the tutoring organization , but just a student working there for some side money. Because I am the only one who doesn’t just do that job for money, but who has an actual passion about helping kids, I organize many things, some even in free will. I want the kids to have fun in the afternoon program, so for the last week of the program, where no one has homework, I decided to do a few fun things with the kids. I organized a soccer tournament for the kids, with trophies and all. After this tournament happened, of course, some kids were happy, some were sad. More precisely, the tournament started out with a group stage before getting into knockout stages. Of course, at the end, one boy won, not a big surprise who won the trophies. Everything seems fine, until a mom comes up to me after the tournament is over and the kids are supposed to be picked up. When I want to get on my bike and drive home, one mom is blocking my way looking at me madly. She started screaming: „ You discriminated against my boy! You drew the three best soccer players into his group so that he cannot win! To be fair, his group was actually not that easy, but I did the groups randomly. For more context, the three other kids in the group ended up: Getting out in the round of 16, Getting out in the quarter finals and wining the tournament. I explained to the mom that her child had fun, played quite well and just sadly did not make it. He was not even into football and had a better time enjoying the buffet and the other activities than he would have playing soccer. She told me I was discriminating against her kid, and I shrugged and just rode away. She tried to stop me, but I just drove away. I organized the tournament and the event, cared about funding and space, and that was how I was greeted? At least, all the other parents thanked me and enjoyed it and the kids all had a blast, and that is the most important thing to me. ( if you found any grammatical mistakes, you can tell me. I’m not a native so my English is sometimes not „ the yellow of the egg“ (That means perfect on German))

My best friend has a son who just enlisted, so he's going away party / graduation party from high school is on the 17th. I want to go and surprise them. I have flown back and forth from Tennessee to Chicago several times and it has never been this expensive. The cheapest direct flight I can find is more than $400. I got some points with United? But I don't know if there is a more cost effective way to do this.

I'm at the end of my capacity to manage being alive. I have no job and I doubt I will again. I'm so stressed that I'm having trouble remembering most things I'm trying to do. I'm a trans woman and I got to live as myself for one full year, and then I've spent the last six months effectively detransitioned because I couldn't continue the treatments I need because I lost the job I had. I managed to get another job, but they fired me in march and I've been trying to get unemployment but for some reason they're just not processing it and I can't do anything about it.
I live with my mother and all I ever hear from her is how I'm not doing enough to get a job or get unemployment, but I'm applying to 20-70 jobs a day and I can't control the government, so I don't know what she wants from me.
I tried to put down in writing everything exactly how what she's been doing to me has hurt me, and I realized halfway through that I was just writing a suicide note because I don't actually expect anything to change now.
It's over for me. I have nothing. I have no value. It doesn't matter what I know, or what I can do, because I don't have a degree and I'm trans and I can't speak. Doesn't matter. Nothing does. I just wish I had killed myself in high school. It never got better and it never will.

i have no friends
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I'm a sparky by trade, and made a career swap to teaching, currently on a Year 2 class. I've been approached (tentatively) by the local high school, they want to start a program next year where senior students can complete some sections of their first year of an electrical apprenticeship, or possibly the entire first year.
My own training was all through TAFE or a registered RTO, and while I've had apprentices under me before I've never been directly responsible for their training. I was never just a straight electrician, I was also a linesman, live linesman and cable joiner, so while my experience is extensive it's also pretty varied. Just wondering if anyone else had seen something like this, and what would be required of me. There's a pretty good ITD section at the school but I'm not sure if I'd be teaching just the electrical theory components, or the hands on practical stuff. Hard to get details from the school at the moment because it's all so new.
I'm very interested in this btw, and very much considering making the jump.

Thought I’d come here and get suggestions directly before just going head first into their new releases. I first heard their self titled when I was in high school and it was one of my favorite records! Since then I’ve only heard their songs that are on the radio, and while I do like them, they are very different. Looking forward to hearing your suggestions

OK so basically let me give you a rundown. Me and my boyfriend (male 18) (female 18) just recently broke up. We had been together for almost 2 years, so I’m not really sure what to do here. We just recently graduated high school and we are about to start our lives as in going to college, and starting our future. Last weekend was his graduation and let’s just say I really messed up. He had mentioned I smoked in front of his brother and I did not want anyone his family to know that I had smoke prior and I’d quit for the moral fact of pregnancy. Which he knew. I had flipped out because I was upset about it but I didn’t think about it. I think it was just my hormones going everywhere. We got into an argument which ended up in him crying and I felt bad so I try to comfort him and I thought everything was good until his graduation party. He invited a female who I had a decent problem with because she has had romantic feelings for my boyfriend. Well, I had stepped away to my car to take a call because I was getting an internship, which was very important to me. It was the kick off to my career. As I went to go take this call, I heard her bad mouthing me and my boyfriend didn’t even bother to stand up for me. I walk back up there with tears in my eyes trying to ask him why he didn’t even bother to back me up. He told me that I need to relax and that I was acting out. This female asked him to go to her party later that night, and as soon as I walked inside to get some fresh air because it’s really hot outside she said that I better not come and if I do come that I will pay some consequences. So I told him I did not feel comfortable with him going to that party then he dumped me. Knowing I’m 5 to 6 weeks pregnant. So I drove almost 2-3 hours home bawling my eyes out and went to go stay with my sister none of my family knows. I’m still staying with her trying to salvage my relationship, but he has done nothing but act like a child throughout this entire process. I’m not sure what to do. I really want him back, but he seems to want nothing to do with me and then threatens to take away the child. The reason he threatens to take the baby away from me because I’ve had history with addiction. I’m no longer on any sort of drugs. I’ve quit vaping quit smoking Weed quit popping pills all that stuff. I’m now just trying to make my life as happy as I can and I want him back because I know I can make him happier than I ever did before. I know I really messed up here and I shouldn’t of argued with him over something so silly but I feel like we can work this out. He’s my best friend, my partner, my everything but when I tried talking to him today, he just seems like he wanted nothing to do with me. No matter how much I’ve tried talking to him trying to make things right he has made it very clear that he wants no part in a relationship with me. He just wants to be friends. He turned off his location, and I think he’s been seeing that girl, which I also recently found out. He lied to me telling me he went to an event with his friends that were two guys what he actually just went on a date with this girl. I know it sounds crazy that I want to fix things with him but he’s my everything I’m not in denial I really just wanna be with him. How do I fix this? How do I show him that he’s the one for me? How do I show him that I want to be with him? How do I show him that in this life people make mistakes and we shouldn’t have to pay the death penalty for it. I’ve recently got into therapy and I’m wanting to make things better, but I’m not sure how I go about doing that. I really just want to show him that I love him and that he’s the one for me. I’m not really sure how I’m going to do this. I love him more than anyone in this world please someone give me some advice here I will keep you updated.

Applying to: Colorado State University (common data set shows only a 65% acceptance rate for male transfer students, rather than the freshman 91% acceptance rate)
Gender: Male
Race: Caucasian
Ethnicity: Hispanic
State: New York
Major: Computer Science
SAT/ACT: Did not take
HS GPA: 0.13
Home-schooling GPA: 3.9
College GPA: 3.593
College Credits: 29 (7 summer credits IP)
Letters of Recommendation: 3, two from English professors (one of them being a department chair), the last being from the department chair of the History department.
Extracurriculars:
Volunteered at a local food bank and animal shelter for 2018 and 2019.
Participated in neighborhood cleanup events for 2020
Worked full time to support my family during 2021
Academic Explanation (is about): I’ve had quite a unique journey with my education, not really the traditional path you’d expect. I faced my first major hurdle in 6th grade with a dislocated knee, which happened again in 8th grade. This disrupted my schooling significantly. Things escalated in 9th grade when I had to have knee surgery, causing me to miss an entire academic year. Without help, I fell behind my classmates.
Just when I was catching up, my mom was diagnosed with cancer during my 10th grade. Being part of a single-income family, I had to step up to take care of her. This meant I had to leave traditional school and shift to homeschooling, a challenging transition given that my parents didn’t complete high school.
Personal statement (is about): From my childhood, I've seen education as a way to break free from the struggles my parents faced due to their incomplete high school education. My path hasn't been traditional, though. A knee surgery in high school and my mom's cancer diagnosis forced me to leave regular school and turn to homeschooling. It was tough, but it made me resilient. I even managed to maintain a high GPA. Amid these challenges, my long-distance relationship with my girlfriend, who is at Colorado State University (CSU), provided me strength and motivation. So, getting admission there means more than just academic progress. Despite everything, my resolve for higher education is stronger than ever. I'm ready for the opportunities and challenges that lie ahead at CSU.

As a Mongolian born in China, the pattern of the Turkish opposition reminds me of the so-called Tiananmen Square leaders. After the massacre in Tiananmen Square in 1989, these people were seen by the Western world as the most hopeful opposition in China. Over the past thirty years, these people have received substantial funding from the West, but they have used this funding to satisfy their own luxurious lifestyles. They hold annual candlelight memorial events, attend inaugurations of various monuments and memorial halls to gain attention, sympathy, and more funding, and then that's it. They have not taken any substantial actions against the rule of the Chinese Communist Party; they simply repeat their own tragic experiences to gain attention and more support. They would rather spend money on continuing to build meaningless monuments than use it to lobby American politicians and economists.
Why do I think the Turkish opposition is similar to these wastes? In fact, if you just observe the various leaders of the Turkish opposition, you will see how small the world is, with one group of wastes resembling another in astonishing ways.
First, the leader of the Turkish opposition, Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu, is a terrible leader. What's even worse is that he is considered the most suitable candidate the opposition can come up with. He is a fascist politician in any country's political spectrum, yet he appears very moderate within the entire opposition group. Moreover, he exercises various forms of centralization within the party. In fact, he is a poor replica of Erdoğan within the CHP. Despite leading his team to lose almost all significant elections for twelve consecutive years, he has not been dismissed or assassinated, which makes one wonder if the entire CHP is composed of social scum with less ability than Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu, to the extent that no one wants to hire an unemployed dockworker from Istanbul with lira that is practically indistinguishable from waste paper to replace him.
Fortunately, the average intelligence of the Turkish people is not so bad, but unfortunately, Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu's support rate among intellectually normal voters in Turkey is pitiful, and he has no chance of winning against Erdoğan in a one-on-one election. So, he formed an opposition alliance that includes well-known fascist figure Meral Akşener, a Gray Wolf who massacred thousands of Kurds and suffers from severe hyperthyroidism, Ekrem İmamoğlu, an overeducated intellectual, and Mansur Yavaş, a former member of the terrorist organization MHP who constantly aims to take over Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu himself. He may need to appoint 6 to 8 vice presidents after winning the election.
The opposition alliance was formed, although almost everyone in it has a record of killing and abusing civilians, and they are basically racists and fascists. Yet, they are praised by the Western media as the embodiment of freedom and democracy. By the way, most of the student leaders in the Tiananmen Square in China, who were hailed by the West as democratic fighters, have a father who is a general in the People's Liberation Army or a high-ranking official in the Chinese Communist Party.
However, even so, their approval ratings were still insufficient to secure an electoral victory. As a result, they reached out to the main Kurdish party, the CHP. But as mentioned earlier, almost everyone in this so-called opposition alliance is a racist and fascist. You can guess what happened. Without the Kurdish votes, they were bound to lose. However, from the first day of the elections, this group of misfits began mentally abusing Kurdish voters, commanding them to vote for them or else Kurdish rights would be further restricted under Erdogan's re-election. They refused to adopt any policies that would benefit the Kurdish people after the elections, refused to release Kurdish politicians imprisoned, refused to stop oppressing the Kurds, and even forced Kurdish politicians to admit that the Kurdish people in prison were all deservedly labeled as terrorists.
The political agenda of the opposition alliance has nothing to do with freedom, democracy, or human rights. Anyone with a shred of common sense can see that their ultimate goal is to replace Erdogan's extreme nationalist and racist government with another extreme nationalist and racist government that is pro-Western. The only difference between them and Erdogan is that one is pro-West and the other is anti-West.
Similarly, China's so-called opposition leaders also harbor hostility towards ethnic minorities in East Turkestan and Tibet. They have long refused to engage with Tibetan and Uighur organizations, and some even call for the violent occupation of Taiwan and deny the existence of concentration camps in East Turkestan, labeling the Dalai Lama as a terrorist.
Naturally, Western countries activated their propaganda machinery. Even Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu's Twitter videos, which are as boring as my grandmother's bedtime stories, managed to garner millions of views. Keep in mind that Turkey has a population of only 85 million. Pre-election polls funded by the West consistently showed that the opposition would win by a significant margin. But these opposition leaders, after seeing such obvious false propaganda, managed to deceive themselves. It is truly shocking that these carefully planned intentions to undermine Erdogan and his supporters had no effect on their target audience. Erdogan's supporters continued to rally enthusiastically, while the opposition fell for the deception themselves.
Since March, there has been an abnormal optimism within the opposition. All my Turkish friends believed that the opposition would surely win, and as a result, the opposition alliance fell into severe internal strife. Meral Akşener, along with Mansur Yavaş, attempted to overthrow Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu, and other candidates resorted to violence to secure positions in the new government. Kurdish leaders were told that they would have no place in the new government while being labeled as terrorists, yet they were still asked to vote for the opposition.
This reminds me of the period before the 1964 massacre, when those heroes in the squares believed they could seize power and started appointing provincial governors and ministers. By the way, during this time, these people remained highly vigilant against the demands of Tibetan and Uighur people, who were informed that they would have no place in the new government but were still asked to support the opposition's cause.
This dark humor frenzy continued until May 14, and we all know the result—the opposition lost in the first round of elections. The opposition was shocked by the outcome and spent a whole week without taking any substantive action. Then, these useless individuals decided to abandon the Kurds and embarked on a campaign of extreme nationalism and racism to appease nationalist voters. The result? They suffered an even more disastrous defeat in the second round of elections.
Then what happened was that the opposition accused election fraud, but eventually accepted the results without any demonstrations or street movements. The opposition alliance, which had been aggressive before the elections, disappeared like a deflated balloon. After losing the support of the Western media machinery, Kemal Kılıçdaroğlu's video views returned to normal.
So, what are these opposition parties doing now? They are busy blaming each other, seeing it as the fault of the West, the Kurds, the Azerbaijani dictator Aliyev, the Kurds again, and the Armenians. Basically, it's anyone's fault except their own.
By the way, the opposition in China has been doing the same thing for decades, portraying themselves as perfect victims and blaming the whole world.
I understand that the political ecosystems in China, Turkey, Armenia, and Mongolia have many differences, but there are also commonalities in political logic.
China's opposition has been fragmented for over thirty years, while Tibetan and Uighur people have established their own unified authoritative institutions and held several democratic elections. Yet, the Chinese opposition still attacks each other like a group of mafia gangs.
The situation of the Turkish opposition today is similar. Each opposition leader within their own parties acts like a mini-Erdoğan, while the PKK-YPG organization, which has always been seen by the mainstream Turkish public as terrorists, becomes increasingly disciplined and organized.
It seems to me that both the Turkish and Chinese opposition, just like the ruling class in their respective countries, are actually part of the imperial ambitions. They don't oppose Erdoğan and Xi Jinping's imperial ambitions; they only believe that they can achieve those ambitions better if the state machinery is in their hands. Therefore, their opposition to Erdoğan and Xi Jinping is not against these toxic ambitions but rather a desire to replace them.
Thus, they participate in politics with a ruler's mindset, believing themselves to be the chosen ones. They are more inclined towards winner-takes-all, while Tibetan, Kurdish, and Uighur people, who are relatively disadvantaged ethnic groups, tend to cooperate and compromise, which makes them perform better in political operations.
What's even worse is that, like the Chinese opposition, most supporters of the Turkish opposition are urban students and middle-class individuals from coastal areas. Moreover, these regions historically lack a culture of martial arts, have alarmingly low military enrollment rates, and lack any armed forces, either foreign or domestic, similar to India's Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP), to protect themselves. This leads to the situation where this group can only attack Erdoğan in the realm of public opinion.
I know that public opinion can play a significant role in many cases, but to be honest, throughout history, public opinion has been like pepper on a steak, adding flavor but having no practical effect. Hitler was defeated by the Allied forces, not by newspaper articles exposing the atrocities in concentration camps. Saddam was captured by the US military, not by online criticism.
If the opposition considers the elections unfair, they should find ways to use force or initiate street uprisings to overthrow the unjust results, just like the Ukrainians did in 2014. Instead, they engage in ineffective and superficial actions through public opinion.
Unfortunately, this is the current behavior of the Turkish opposition. They simultaneously shout that the PKK is a terrorist organization, that the Republic of Turkey doesn't need a second official language, that Greece oppresses the Muslim minority in Western Thrace, that the Greek president is weak in the face of Erdoğan, that they support Azerbaijan's invasion of Armenia, that the Armenian president attended Erdoğan's inauguration ceremony, that they cheer for the ethnic cleansing of Kurds in Afrin, and that they blame Syrian Kurds for not liking them. These people want others to fight and sacrifice for them against Erdoğan so that they can enjoy privileges on the land stolen from the great massacre in the Republic of Turkey, while they hide behind and reap the benefits.
Now, I actually wish that Erdoğan would drive tanks into Istanbul and give these opposition parties a heroic death so that everyone would forget these pathetic clowns. At least, many years later, their children would shed tears in front of their tombstones instead of laughing at the ridiculous words and actions of their parents before their death.
I can already foresee the ultimate outcome of these so-called opposition groups. The West has wasted thirty years of time and money on the Chinese opposition, and now they have wasted five precious years on the Turkish opposition. I hope that those who harbor illusions about the Turkish opposition, especially the Armenians, understand that these people are nothing but a laughable bunch of waste. It would be better to channel their energy and resources into engaging with Greece, Cyprus, France, and the United States. Even negotiating with Erdoğan in exchange for time and money to rearm would be more productive than hoping for any internal change within Turkey through the so-called opposition.
I apologize for my limited English proficiency. These are some thoughts I have shared with some political science friends regarding the recent election results in Turkey. If there are any inaccuracies, I welcome corrections.

Now that I'm in college, I look back at some of my underclassmen friends and see how much pain and suffering they've endured in the name of achieving something that doesn't really matter in the end. I'm talking about "oh my God, I have a 4.3 gpa and I'm ranked #3 in my class instead of #1!!!! Oh no what will I do!!"
Yes, I understand that a lot of this is begging for sympathy/subtle humble bragging, but I feel bad for the kids that really form their whole lives around being the best in what they perceive to be a race against all the other kids across America who are in the same position. Even on this sub, people worry way too much about GPA, class rankings and freshman grades when in reality they are doing much more than your average kid in America and will do just fine when application season rolls around. Not to mention that all of these things mean far less to colleges and in your overall quality of life after high school, and you can do lasting damage to yourself in what are supposed to be your most formative adolescent years.
I guess the point of this long-winded rant is to convince y'all that the shit you're worrying about really isn't as big a deal as you make it, and it's not your fault that you're making it such a big deal. I realized at the end of high school that I had wasted so much time and energy into classes and clubs that I didn't need or didn't care about just so I could make my apps look better that it had actively interfered with time that I could have used doing something infinitely more beneficial, such as sleeping or socializing or eating actual good food. Class rankings and marginal drops in your gpa don't mean shit to (most) colleges and shouldn't mean shit to you, just do your best and have fun

Hi y’all, I have a bit of a unique situation coming up in a couple of months and I am looking for some advice and opinions of other experienced parents of teens in preparation.
My husband’s brother, R, is 13 and about to start high school this coming school year. He is going to move in with us for the school year so we are trying to prepare for becoming parents of a teenager without the build up of parenting up to that point (we’ve got a 1yo ourselves so we are lightyears away from that point lol). He lived with me part-time for a few months when he was 10, but obviously a lot has changed regarding his social and emotional needs now that he’s through the tween years. I’ve worked in childcare and education since I was a teenager but teenagers themselves are just not my forte 😅
I think my biggest concern is social media. He’s had a smartphone since he was in elementary school with unrestricted access to the internet and I know he’s on TikTok and Instagram and I’d guess he probably has Snapchat. Once he’s under our roof, I would like to set some boundaries around social media because of how awful it is for brain development and mental health. Ideally, I’d like to just delete TikTok off his phone (and Snapchat if he has it) and also just do an initial sweep through his phone to make sure there’s nothing concerning on there (I’d have my husband do this since I’m sure he’d be more comfortable with his brother rather than me doing it). But I also am of the school of thought that kids deserve privacy and I remember feeling very violated when my parents (who were very authoritarian) went through my text conversations at that age, especially because I was a well-behaved child and there was no reason for the suspicion. I basically want a baseline to start at so we can talk about and set expectations for his social media usage and also have conversations about internet safety (which is something he has had issues with in the past when he was younger).
One of my worries is how he’s going to react to having rules, boundaries, and structure after getting to live without them up to this point. I mean, he’s eager to come live with us because this poor kid is desperate for structure in his life and we have a better living situation than his current one with my MIL, but I don’t think he quite realizes how different it’s gonna be. Is there a way to present these things to him and talk with him about them in a way where he a) won’t feel like his privacy in regards to his phone is being completely violated and b) we’re conveying that we’re putting these rules and expectations in place for the sake of his well-being, not as any sort of punishment?
He also is going to get a bit of a rude awakening when it comes to doing his part around the house. Up to this point, he’s never really had to do any sort of chores in his life but if he’s living in our house, he’s going to take part in it’s upkeep. I am NOT doing a teenage boys laundry so the first thing I’m going to teach him is how to do that 😂
So my main questions are: what sort of boundaries and expectations do you have for your teenage child’s smartphone and social media use? And what expectations do you have of your teens when it comes to household chores? I also would love to receive any sort of general advice about raising a teenage boy and how to be the best parent possible to him.

I don’t even know why I’m posting but I have been going through a lot of feelings in the last less than 24 hours.
I am 32, but when I was 18 someone I thought was a friend raped me. I was living out of my car at the time by choice, couch surfing, and basically avoiding reality after getting out of a horrifically abusive relationship that started when I was still in high school. I was in the lowest point of my life, and for years I didn’t even realize I was raped twice because I thought it was what I deserved for putting myself in that company/situations to begin with. After alot of time (obviously) and therapy, cultivating a healthy relationship the past 8 years, I know now. I was raped by a monster of a human who took advantage of me when I was at the weakest I’ve ever been.
Anyways, my rapist is still in my area. I have never kept tabs on him or anything, I actually forgot he existed until a few months ago I saw in the regional news paper that he opened a ‘sushi restaurant’ in a gas station lol.
I told my husband when I saw it and I was like ugh, I just hate that horrible people like him just get to go on & exist and experience success when they are literally rapists. My husband was like yeah, I should pay him a visit. I said no there’s no point.
Last night, by total chance, my husband ended up at the gas station where his restaurant is. We live 20 mins away, but we were having dinner at his sisters. My husbands sister asked him to go pick up beer. When he came back, he was white as a sheet.
He told us what transpired. As soon as he walked in to the gas station, he saw the tiny sushi counter and put 2 & 2 together. He walked over and asked the guy working what his name was. He gave his first name, and then my husband said his last name. My rapist turned around and looked at my husband and said how do you know that?
My husband said do you know ___ ____? (Using my maiden name) Apparently he froze immediately, and then said ….yeah…
My husband said yeah you know the woman you raped?
And the rapist said hey, why don’t we go outside and talk about this.
My husband said no, we can talk about this here. You raped her.
He goes, that was 15 years ago. Let’s go outside and talk.
My husband said rape doesn’t go away after 15 years. I’m just letting you know you’re still relevant buddy. She’s still in therapy and you’re still a rapist.
Thank god he walked away and left it at that. But man was I floored when he got back to his sisters house and told me what went down.
I have been going through a lot of emotions. I’m glad I married someone that stands up for me and was able to call him out without compromising his integrity. But now my sister in law knows my rapist works at her neighborhood gas station and wants to make it a point to go in there and get him fired along with the help of other friends + family.
Just seeking thoughts because on one hand I want this fucker to burn to the ground but on the other hand I want to just forget he existed again.

Hey all. As the title says, I’m considering law school once I graduate. I just finished up junior year of my Bachelors, if that matters. I was hoping to ask y’all some questions about what law school was like and glean some advice from current and former law students.
First, a bit about me for background and context. As I said, I’m in my junior year. I’ll graduate with a BA Government with a Concentration in American Politics in spring or summer next year. I’m currently an online student. I graduated high school and community college at the same time in 21’ with an Associates in Arts. In community college, I maintained a 4.0gpa every semester and joined the Phi Theta Kappa honor society. At my current university, I’ve got a 3.87gpa (took my first B in a class during the fall semester). I currently have an entry level full time job at a political think tank in DC. I’m considering law school because based on everything I know about law school, it sounds epic (with the exception of the crushing student debt and extreme amounts of reading). I’m confident that if I were to decide to attend law school I would attend UNC Chapel Hill in pursuit of a J.D. in Government. I’m a North Carolina boy, and if I’m honest, my heart is back home with my family, so UNCCH is the clear choice to me, especially considering its proximity to NC’s state capital: Raleigh. It’s a prestigious school in the state, it’s cheaper than most law schools, and it’s close to home. Okay, nuff said ‘bout me. I’ve got some questions.

1. How would you rate your experience in law school so far? Would you recommend it?
   
2. I recall a statistic in one of my textbooks that said 80% or so of law students don’t think their degree was worth the cost. Would you agree?
   
3. Is it worth giving up my current job to pursue law school?
   
4. Is my GPA good enough, or would I need to pad my academic resume with more work experience and extracurriculars than I currently have?
   
5. If you’ve already graduated law school, how easy was it to find a job afterwards?
   
6. One thing I’ve always heard was that if practicing law isn’t your dream, don’t go to law school. I would enjoy practicing law, but I freely admit that I have senseless (downright stupid, even) level of ambition, and would view law school and practicing law as a stepping to something bigger. Is it still worth going to law school?
   
7. Is there any general advice you would offer? Wisdom is found in the counsel of many, so anything you’d offer I’d love to hear.
   

Sorry for the long post, but for those that read and respond, thank you. It means a lot. Hope y’all have a great day.