I'm sitting here with splitting headache again, 4pm on a Saturday, because I'm an idiot. I had to do it one more time to see if my psychiatrist was right. Yeah, she was.
I've been taking desfenlafaxine for around 3 years. I'm on 200mg a day. 2 tablets after breakfast. And except for a couple of occasions outside of my control I did what my gp said - 'make sure you take them at the same time every day'.
I've been really struggling with increased depression lately. Especially on weekends. And I mentioned this to my psychiatrist when we were doing my adhd medication review on Monday. My gp had always managed the antidepressants side of things so this was the first time we really discussed it. She asked me detailed questions about what happens on weekend.
See, I always overextend myself. I burn the candle at both ends and in the middle. Now that I understand my adhd I also know to look for meltdowns and burnouts. And I know that sometimes (ie a lot of times) during the week I've pushed so hard that by my first day off, often a Saturday, I'm so utterly exhausted that I sleep in. Late.
And I also have irregular hours in my day jobs. In the last few years, probably a few months after starting on pristiq, I left the mon-sat regular work week and have been working part-time for others and growing my own business the rest of it. So some days could start at 7am, others could start at 1pm etc. I'm sure you know where I'm going with this...
I thought I was taking my pristiq at the same time every day. That time was breakfast. It took my psychiatrist to point out that my breakfast is never actually at the same time of day. So if I sleep in til 3pm on a crash day like today my body started going into withdrawal when the last dose that I took at 8am yesterday ran out 24 hours later at 8am this morning. So I'm waking up 6 hours into withdrawal symptoms. Splitting headache, exhaustion, dizzy, tired eyes, everything seems to loud and harsh, everything is too hard.
Coupled with my adhd, on mornings like this, my trouble with task initiation and paralysis from executive dysfunction will keep me in bed even longer. I'll browse reddit until I have the 'energy' to get up. Still not taking my tablets because my routine is to take them with breakfast.
I thought that maybe I get so many headaches because I don't drink enough water or haven't had a coffee or let myself get to hungry. My solution for three years has been to stay in bed longer, have some water and food, take a painkiller and wait for it to pass. On days like this, like today, I find that by about 7pm I feel more human and also more depressed because I've wasted a day. Then I'll end up awake until 4am and repeat the cycle on Sunday. Except Sunday is a little better so I might be up by 12 and then Monday morning I'm really really exhausted as I drag myself into work at 9.
I've even said in the past that I have a better weekend on the Saturdays where I drag myself out of bed early in the morning because I had something on or someone was relying on me. Even though I'm exhausted and it's a struggle to get up, once I get going I'm good.... because as I now realise, those days I had been taking my pristiq at the earlier 'breakfast time', closer to my dose the day before.
Like I truly feel like an idiot. I have been putting my body through withdrawal symptoms over and over again without even realising it. My misunderstanding about what 'same time every day' means has been making things so unnecessarily worse for me. And even this morning when my alarm went off at 8am, because I now had this information about dosage times, my exhausted ass still went 'surely it doesn't matter that much', hit snooze and went back to sleep. Waking up with a splitting headache at 3pm, feeling so shit that I just wanted to stay in bed and go back to sleep. So I guess I had to do this to myself one more time to get the message?
Now I know the problem what strategies can I use from here? I can't trust morning me to get up and take the meds. Do I move them to later in the day and set multiple alarms?
I probably don't even really need advice, I just wanted to venture about my idiocy and maybe if someone in the future is searching this sub for advice on withdrawal symptoms and missed doses, I can be the cautionary tale that reminds them that you need to take them exactly the same time of day - an actual unmovable time number on the clock - not something like 'breakfast'
Tl;dr- Same time of day is not 'breakfast time'. I've been giving myself withdrawal symptoms for three years. Don't be me. Take your meds at the same time on the clock every day.

Before anything, this vent mentions Degradation, Anxiety, minor cases of Violence, and maybe other things I'm forgetting, this parts being added after thirty minutes of typing, editing, and revising, sorry for typos or formatting mistakes as well.
So, as said in the title, I'm unsure what to do about my family at this point. for context, I'm 17, and I primarily live with my dad(40), Stepmom(49), younger sister(16), and uncle(40's I think), and my stepmom has been in my life since I was 9 and my uncle has lived with us since we were born as to help my parents and such.
And I hate it. Maybe I'm spoiled, maybe I'm just a teenager, but over the years I feel like my family's opinions and temperaments have changed negatively toward me, or at least toward my behavior. But I think I just want some advice on what to do, or maybe just to be able to vent about the things that happen in my household. So, bear with me, as its 2am, and there are bound to be mistakes
First off, honestly, I haven't been to a doctor in 2 years, a dentist in maybe 4 as I grew out of the kids' dentists and my dad never bothered to get me a new one, and doctor wise I'm pretty sure they just don't bother booking appointments or anything. Though, a while ago we were supposed to get bloodwork done after a check up, but I never got it cause my dad had lost my insurance card, and couldn't afford to pay upfront for the work. But after, I started getting chest and arm pains, and after a serious one where I couldn't move my arm without severe pain for several minutes, my parents dismissed it as heartburn despite me trying to tell them that I thought it was more. Honestly, I don't think they wanted to be bothered with it, maybe they thought I was exaggerating but since then I haven't told them about the occasional tightness in my chest or leg pains.
And my sister is another story. They have ruined her. She is 16 but acts like a toddler sometimes, she throws tantrums and berates me, at times she has even thrown things at me for her own amusement or left me the heavier chore load because she can't be bothered. Recently, she had even berated me for over ten minutes for eating half of the night befores leftovers, calling me a fat pig and a disgusting person. She even pulled in other examples of my “gluttony” like me eating the last bit of potato chips or eating the last cookies. I recorded it and she had the gull to cry and whine when my parents scolded her and told her not to act that way. Honestly, if she was my daughter I would've grounded her and yelled at her for saying the things she did to me but my stepmom let her off with an oops.
Things like this happen a lot, with my stepmom practically enabling her behavior, a few months ago, when we had younger cousins over, a girl around twelve and a boy around the age of 8, the one morning my sister and the boy woke me up but shaking and hitting me with my blankets and pillows, my sister encouraging the boy to jump and do the same as they laughed and asked me to play Uno. I was distraught after they had left. The boy had jumped on me one time and landed on my head and the morning itself sent my anxiety into overdrive. I cried for seven minutes as I had a panic attack from the abrupt wake up, only after calming down did I go down and tell my stepmom about it. Only for her to tell me she was watching the entire thing as I got teary eyed again. She just told me I was overreacting as I broke down again and that they meant no harm by it, despite me telling them no several times. I just stormed upstairs rambling about how they messed up a nearby art project and that I was sorry I didn't like being jumped on. I remember the pity the boy's sister gave me, that twelve year old showed me more sympathy than my entire family. To make it worse they treated me like some little kid later when the pancakes were done, and saying things like they hope that puts a smile on my face, and my sister had the gaul to say when i started tearing up again as i stormed off that i was crying from embarrassment, albeit, embarrassment was part of it, but i felt like they ignored my feelings completely.
In other examples, my stepmom told me she'd been observing separation anxiety in me for YEARS. I had no idea i had it, and until she said it I didn't even realize it, but when she brought up I needed to “Get my a** out the house” for college(after I previously discussed online classes, and she reassured me when I was younger I'd be welcomed at home anytime). Honestly, it was a bombshell for me, even now due to the fact I never learned to control my emotions properly or how to address an emotional issue for me like this. I just start crying if my anxiety is brought up, and it leaves me upset until I'm no longer thinking about it. My stepmom just told me I needed to work on it, and that I needed to get out into the world. Now, when I was younger, I always wanted to be more free, go out with friends and move out at 18, but my parents kept me leashed, rarely let me trick or treat with friends or hangout with them, and my parents told me they wouldn't rush me to move out.
Without all this, my only safe place is really school, even then my sister is there and happy to make my life a living hell, and my Grandfathers, where I'm limited, as I'm not allowed to spend all summer here, no matter how much I want to. Some may be wondering why I haven't mentioned my Dad much, that's because despite being home from 1pm to 4am daily, he sleeps from the time my stepmom goes to work till seven, when my sister usually will make me wake him up to make dinner, before going back to bed. This is a daily thing, and honestly there has always been a kind of disconnect between me, him, and my sister despite the fact that I inherited a great amount of his interests, like art, gaming, and music, even similar tastes in games, music, and horror movies. But my Dad is essentially a manchild, who complains and acts like he has no help raising me and my sister despite having had my stepmom to help him the entire time, and he acts like everyone is against him. He even called the gift I picked out for my sister cheap looking, and bought something additional to make up for it(Albeit he felt like a jerk after i told him i picked it from her personal amazon list, but he only told my stepmom who relayed it to me).
On top of all this is the body shaming. I am overweight, and I don't care honestly. I have been like this most of my life and sure, it's not healthy but I'm not going to be ashamed of my body. But my family have all made comments. My sister calling me a pig and petty insults despite her eating more than me and being even more lazy, to my uncle berating me for running out of breath or wheezing on long walks, or being unfit in general and telling me id die before the age of twenty(i was probably around 11 or 12 at the time). But one time when me and my sister got back from a doctor's appointment, the last one we went too, it was shortly after my stepmom had made some no bake cookies that we loved. As we walked inside, she was standing there holding the red container, and as me and my sister approached confused she took off the lid of the container and the trash before dumping the two dozen cookies in the trash. She told us we wouldn't be eating as many sweets anymore and we'd be losing weight, and she never even followed through on these threats and demands as she never encouraged us positively, only negatively. My dad has even told us if we(me and my sister) were not as big as “whales” there would be space in the kitchen for everyone. We have a closet of a kitchen, maybe 3ft of space between the two sides of counter space, and honestly the kitchen is barely big enough for two, let alone four and our nosy dog.
It's all exhausting. From my sister who takes every opportunity to put me down or nit-pick with me, my uncle(who I will not mention here as that can be an entire vent on its own) who is an entitled prick that had berated me about my appearance and weight from a young age, to my parents who do nothing about it and at times aid in this treatment.
I need advice, I need something. I vent to my friends but he has mellow parents and is an only child and the other has all younger brothers but they at least respect them, and all my friends know my sister all too well and have only heard some of this stuff from me.
I want some unbiased advice, I need some direction as I am grasping at straws, it's too hard to deal with alone and none of my friends can do much. I am dreading returning home from my grandfathers knowing my sister and stepmom are there to passive aggressively call me a slob and lazy and I get anxious thinking about it. I dont know whats wrong with me honestly but im about to ask my parents to stay longer than I intended to avoid them.

Hi all, im sure there's tons of posts like this but tbh I have been a devout Catholic my whole life and I've never met someone who feels the same way I do. I love God and my religion but I have never found a church or a community I belong, and not for lack of trying. Other Catholics deter me from the faith more than anything else, and at this point in my life, I have genuinely begun to lose my interest in being Catholic due to feeling zero connection with virtually every Catholic I meet. Honestly feeling unsure about even writing this...reaching out to a massive database of Catholics after admitting I dont like them? But here goes:
Some context, I am 24, born and raised Catholic. My dad is a protestant convert and my mom rejoined the faith after her parents left (she was initiated in the faith but didn't really practice until adulthood), and so I come from an immediate family that is devout but no extended family. I have two older siblings, including myself, who were all raised religious and practiced up until adulthood. Me, especially so. I became so devout because of my parents' love of theology, and they led RCIA at our parish, so our home was a treasure trove of resources. By the time I was in high school, I knew the Catholic faith like the back of my hand. I was really into theology and philosophy, in my teens I understood the faith far better than most lay Catholic might ever learn in their lives, and not just verbatim rules, but the spirit of why we believe the things we believe. I went to Catholic school and my teachers always said they were blown away by my deep interest and understanding of the faith. As a teen, I found a group of church friends and became heartbroken as through the years, they all left, but I stayed friends with most of them and I discovered I actually had a really good skill for talking about Catholicism to people who do not like it. To this day, most secular people will say "Wow, I've never liked Christianity, but you've somehow explained it in a way that not only makes sense, but makes me want to hear more" and I can get lost for hours talking about it (if you want to know my secret, I avoid legalistic jargon and focus on my own experiences, and try and be open minded and have compassion about differen topics). So. If I'm such a great Apologist and the golden child of cradle Catholicism, with a Catholic family and plenty of religious childhood friends, how is it that I'm here, writing this post?
In some ways I know, in others I'm completely unsure. This is not my first time publicly expressing my thoughts to other Catholics, and I've heard it all. I've been urged to attend churches with more youth, join bible studies, join a student outreach like Focus or SPO, pray for it and bring my thoughts to God. Trust me when I say, I've done it all. I thought first, since I am from Kansas, that it was maybe the culture, but yeah, after living in Houston, Detroit, and Mexico and joining every single darn bible study in North America, I can safely say its not for me. I have joined two student outreaches, I went to three Catholic summer camps, I put in over 300 hours among different Catholic volunteer groups, I went to daily mass and Sunday mass offered in every church within a 15 mile radius of me in every city I lived in, I did spiritual discernment for several years, I went to a dangerous amount of Purity-based youth groups that left me with nothing but shame for myself (my only regret). I joined a convent (I will disclaim I did find the sisters to be extremely likable, but I wasn't particularly drawn to the communal lifestyle, so I went to college and started dating instead, and I liked that a lot more), I have done every thing that anyone has every suggested, backed with relentless, desperate praying that eventually I would find my people, and after 24 years of driving myself insane with it, I can finally confess: Other Catholics turn me off completely. After living the majority of my life in Midwest America, it does seem to me that a lot of Catholics are overly political and I have met far too many that lack empathy towards other people's ways of living, are disdainful of non-Catholics in a way that doesn't seem to make sense considering the fact that God did make 8 billion other people with lives, thought processes, and experiences so different to ours we can hardly fathom it, and He loves them all the same. But honestly, if that were all it was, I would have eventually come to the conclusion (and I did) that this is not a flaw unique to Catholics. This is a flaw of humankind, and because I grew up surrounded by Catholics, my experience gave me a correlation. So, it is not that Catholics are infuriating, its that human beings are infuriating. The vast majority of us have some sort of vice, and its our job to work through that and value the good that we all have as well.
When I realized this, I slowly came to the conclusion that while I have spent my whole life attaching to the Catholic Faith, that it's not just others pushing me away. Its myself, too. I love academia, and I love theology and philosophy but in terms of spiritualism, I am watering a dying plant. I'm exhausted. I'm tired of saying I get nothing out of 'Sitting with God' and being told it gets easier with time. 24 years of going to mass and it is still a battle to go, a fight that more often nowadays I am losing. 24 years of telling myself prayer is good for me and then lamenting at how slow the clock ticks. My older siblings have had the same experiences, and both of them have left the Church, and I feel not far behind. I used to tell myself that the best way to show God I loved Him was to use my free will to do good things in His name, to cultivate myself into a person of love and virtue, to love others adamantly. I have never doubted that God is Love and that He listens to me, but I lack purpose and desire to love Him back, the very statement doesn't even make sense to me. I feel nothing, as though He doesn't exist at all. I have heard of things like the dark night of the soul, and that other saints such as Mother Theresa experienced very little felt connection to Christ, but it doesn't provide much solace, as the issue remains that without any Catholics in my life (besides my parents who live 700 miles away), there is nothing keeping me accountable to go to Church or cultivate some sort of spiritual relationship with Christ other than fear of Hell, and after living a significant portion of my youth under fear of Hell, I refuse to let that be my sole motivator.
Right now, as I'm typing this, I can say that the closest of all my friends are all non-religious. My siblings are fallen away, my secular boyfriend of one year is wholeheartedly the most amazing person I have ever met and, to be frank, I have never felt more accepted and loved in my life than I do now. The more I tried to ingratiate with Catholic communities, the more I became depressed and anxious, and now that I have let go quite a bit, it feels like I am becoming myself again, that I have more interest in life, that I have more hope in my future. I feel like I never wanted to lose my faith, but at this point in my life I there is nothing drawing me back to the pew, where I have sat alone these last 4 years. Weirdly, I don't feel like I am lost from God. I know that He is always there, there is nothing that can keep Him from me, or keep Him from loving me. I trust Him, that all things will go accordingly to plan, and it makes me feel safe. My continuing belief in Apostolicity and His presence in the Eucharist reminds me that Protestantism isn't for me, and I don't have any plans to shift over. And yet, here I am, wondering where my place is in this 1 billion person religion that has yet to feel like home, where the very name -- Catholic, meaning universal -- ensures that I do indeed belong.
(If you've made it this far, thanks for giving me the time to explore some of these rambling thoughts. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I appreciate the space to speak about it, if nothing else.)

The /universityofhouston mods had a discussion and decided the subreddit will participate in the June 12th Reddit Blackout in protest of the API changes. This will render the subreddit inaccessible for the time being. We understand that this might cause some issues with admissions or advising questions. The /uhadmissions page will still be up and questions can be answered there.
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What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inacessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of accessing and customizing Reddit, such as the Reddit Enhancement Suite, our subreddit CSS (horns down lol) or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface.
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside of the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently until the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to do what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.
What can you do?
Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join us at our sister sub at /ModCoord - but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail.
Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible. This includes not harassing moderators of subreddits who have chosen not to take part: no one likes a missionary, a used-car salesman, or a flame warrior.
Alternative areas for getting your UH questions answered:
For anything UH sports related, check and make an account on CoogFans! This is mainly an alumni site, but has students on there as well. This is also a decent networking opportunity since some will post that they're looking to hire, mainly in tech and finance.
/uhadmissions for any admissions and advising questions. It does get active when someone asks a few questions.
Post blackout, there will be a state of the sub post for the summer and fall in order to get community suggestions on how to improve this place, as it is rapidly approaching 30k Coogs!

Currently, I'm in a situation with a family member who I've expressed to multiple times that I feel like they only love parts of me due to their beliefs that "I love you, but I don't agree with your lifestyle choices. (me being not christian, having dysphoria and not being straight)" I've tried to explain to them how this is hurtful and that I can't change the later two, and they say that people can change by just praying to God. I told them that people like me experience bullying and other forms of discrimination, so it would make no sense to choose to be something that makes you an outcast. They think that "Love the sinner and hate the sin" means that they do truly love me, but the thing is, on my end, it says "I love certain parts of you, but I just can't accept these pieces, so I'll label them as choices so that I can reconcile my beliefs with this person who doesn't fit into my beliefs." They're trying to point out how being a woman is okay and that I shouldn't "act on a feeling because your feelings change. you said it yourself, some days you feel like a girl and some days you don't" ( which is true. also, I have no plans to try surgical transitioning) and how "all these people are destransitioning after 5-10 years were these things weren't regulated" and it just....overshadows everything. I try to enjoy time with this person, but I always have it present in the back of my head that they'd rather put their beliefs over a real person's identity. Additionally, I am forced by this person to go to church every week, even if I express desire not to go, and the people there, both the people my age and the people leading the lessons say lowkey homophobic things, and any time I ask questions about how anyone's being hurt by gay marriage, I'm told "God made man and woman to be together, so men being with other men and women being with other women is wrong." Is there any to get across to this person that what they think and say are hurtful to me? I feel trapped because I want this person to fully love me, but I can't change these parts of myself, no matter how hard I try, and that they'll never understand because who they are and how they think is not seen as sinful by the church. Sorry if this reads badly or disorganized.

I feel like a complete failure. Everyone around me sees me that way too. I've messed up so many times, and it feels like I can't do anything right. I constantly make mistakes and disappoint those who care about me. It's a never-ending cycle of misery. I don't deserve to be happy because I don't deserve anything good in my life. I'm filled with sadness, and it's hard to find any glimmer of hope. I'm trapped in this dark cloud of self-doubt, and it feels like it will never go away.

Hi all,
A few weeks ago I bought a CA-compliant S&W Shield. It's a neat little gun, fits comfortably in my hands, and conceals well. I like it, with the exception of the awful trigger: the segmented trigger feels odd to my hand, the trigger pull weight is quite heavy, and mine felt a bit gritty (I attribute this partly to the segmented trigger safety not always fully disengaging depending on my finger position so it drags a bit, and partly to the sear).
The heavy, gritty trigger pull resulted in the gun pulling noticeably toward the direction of the hand that was shooting it (I'm left handed, and it pulled to the left when fired. When I fired right handed, it pulled to the right.). This happened even with slow, careful, and deliberate trigger squeezes and was especially noticeable when firing one-handed (a firm two-handed grip reduces but does not eliminate the pulling). It doesn't happen on any of my other pistols, only the Shield.
After some reading here and elsewhere, I decided to get an Apex trigger and Duty/Carry kit, specifically this model, and install it. Total installation took about an hour.
Holy cow, it makes an incredible difference. Why didn't S&W include this type of trigger and sear from the factory?
Some tips to be aware of (that is, learn from my mistakes):

1. The instructional videos state that you need roll pin punches, flat-faced pin punches, a hammer, and a smooth-jaw vise. They are not lying. Be sure you have those tools. I couldn't find my punches (my tool cabinet was disorganized) and tried numerous other objects in an attempt to drive out the pins in the Shield, to no avail. Finally I was able to find them and the pins came out much more easily. The vise is virtually required to get the trigger connected to the trigger bar since the pin really does not want to budge even when vigorously hammered.
2. The videos also recommend that one use the little piece of cardboard that came with the kit as a spacer when assembling the trigger. Do this. It's a bit of a tight fit with the cardboard, but it's useful at preventing the trigger from binding by being crushed in the vise.
3. Take pictures of how things are assembled from the factory, as well as at each step of disassembly. It'll save a lot of frustration putting it back together.
4. For whatever reason, the videos on the combined trigger & duty/carry kit page are for just the trigger itself, but don't have the videos for the duty/carry kit (i.e., the sear and sear spring) installation. You can find the first part of the sear kit video here (direct YouTube link). Part 2 of the video is available at this direct YouTube link.
5. I found this video from Apex to be even better, and it goes through the entire process from start to finish in great detail and less-blurry video. I'd say this is the definitive guide for this entire kit.
6. Of particular note, the "slave pin" (in my case, a little green plastic pin that came with the kit) was immensely useful at holding the trigger spring into the trigger during reassembly -- you can reassemble the trigger without the pin holding the spring in the trigger assembly but it's a lot harder. Ask me how I know.
7. When you have the sear block assembly out of the gun's frame, be sure to put a drop of oil on some of the parts there: some oil on the sides and bottom of the sear helps it function smoothly, and some oil where the safety switch engages with the thumb safety retainer plunger (it's on the left side and is silver in color, it's hard to miss) helps the safety feel a lot smoother.
8. Installing the replacement striker block/drop safety requires drifting the rear sight to the left, removing the old striker block, and installing the new one. I didn't want to deal with that right now, so I kept the original one in. It still feels great.

That said, the installation was straightforward. I just followed the directions in the video step by step, swore at the pins for being hard to get out, and in the end the gun's functioning is much improved.
The trigger pull is much improved with no grittiness and a clean, crisp break. The sideways pulling mentioned above no longer occurs. The reset seems much less distinct (it's a quieter click than with my Glocks) but can still be felt. The Glock-style split-trigger safety on the Apex trigger is much easier and more comfortable than the S&W segmented factory trigger -- the central safety nub disengages much more completely when the trigger is pulled and does not drag on the frame. The Apex trigger spring reduces the pull weight of the trigger to about 5.5 pounds, which is much improved over the standard Shield and is still very safe (it's comparable to standard Glock trigger pull weights).
In short, the Apex kit turns the Shield from a solid gun with a "meh" trigger into a solid gun with a really good trigger. I'm not going to lie and say the gun with the kit is some ultra awesome match gun that will win you fame and glory or turn you into John Wick, because it's not and it won't, but it's a significant improvement on the factory trigger and is well worth the money.
Disclosure: I am not affiliated with S&W or Apex in any way beyond being a paying customer. I purchased the gun and kit with my own money at retail prices, was not given any sort of consideration or perks for writing this, neither company asked me to or even knew that I was going to write this, and I do not benefit in any way from them or anyone else for writing this.

This subreddit will be joining in on the June 12th-14th protest of Reddit's API changes that will essentially kill all 3rd party Reddit apps.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do as a user?

• Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit : submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
• Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join the coordinated mod effort at /ModCoord.
• Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
• Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible.

What can you do as a moderator?

• Join the coordinated effort over at /ModCoord
• Make a sticky post showing your support, A template has been created here you can use or modify to your liking, and be sure to crosspost it to /ModCoord.

Thank you for your patience in the matter,
-Mod Team

As am depressed. Heavy Weight on me, what can be. The weight of trying to make a world for the children where they do not resent me. Classical music, waking up to listen to it today. Dreams lots of small dreams I am not remembering. That I was in a bigger apartment, that I had people living with me. And so it went on, the people using a word best avoided. It is war, did people learn what they need to be ready for it? Or is it all a lost cause, to reunite Europe under the bible it believes in so much. Turn it again into a fortress, with only synagogue and churches. And other tolerant faiths. But for the people, they say God bless. To recognize each other, give one another a moment of peace. As things move and don't move, forces at play the future can be changed, God can change his mind. Except for eternal promises. And who am I making an eternal promise with him. I am not that Saintly.
I just overcame the trail of the lion, because I am a lion like them in the prison. Not much hunger these days. Smoking too much tobacco as well. Not at peace, for how can a man who wants to change the root of the problems he sees.
On the ocean the ships sail, these days without sails. So is the world today, doing without its tools any more. Via youtube I am listening to a concert. But am I in a concert? Is a Ship without Sails moving through the ocean really a ship sailing?

It been 7 months since I was diagnosed with cancer and 2 months since I had the surgery to remove the cancer will as the surgery was happening the Dr. found another type of cancer as will so not only did my surgery take 5 hours longer than soppost to the recovery journey has been the hardest one me and my family , starting with the week after I was home from the hospital I got an infection in my incision ( meaning where they had cut me open ) that sent me back in to the hospital for another week. So all in all i had to stay 3 weeks in the hospital and around 4 weeks in bed. And I'm not one to just lay around all day , I have to be doing something or I'll go's stir crazy .....just a little in site ..... So let me start of by saying hello and its nice to meet everyone, and I hope your having a blessed day. I'm on redit because I feel my life story may help someone some day, so I will be posting on here maybe once a week may be more and giving life up dates as will. So I'm a wife and mother of three ( boys at that ) so my life is kinda hectic but I wouldn't have it any other way I love my 3 kid with every thing i am and would give my life for them and will my husband i love me to the moon and would followhim to the ends of the earth , ive never meet any one that will go out of there way to help some one and it doesnt matter if the person is poor and living on ther streets or if they are rich and living in a mansion , my husband will go out of his way to help you any way he can ( and im not laying it on hard about what a good man my husband is because we grow up together literally he was born 2 months before i was and are family's lived next to each other so when I say my husband will help anyone with any thing , i meant he has been like that are whole life ). . ..... my family is my everything!!!!! So I'm about to brake the one rule/ vow I made to my self many ,many years ago because of the love i have for my family. So today I'm asking for help from anyone and everyone even if it just giving advice, help is help. And boy does my family and I need all the help we can get. And this is every hard for me to ask anyone for help, but at this point I don't see any other ways or options.... so I'm on here to day asking for help with paying some of our bills of I'm not ask for much just around $10,000 dollars would fines paying of are vehicle, and credit card, but most of all it would help get us caught back up on are house payment so my our 3 kids have a roof over there heads. So here is my paypal link ===> https://paypal.me/ShantelleGibson644?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US <=== So now go back to the top 7 months because of been diagnosed with cancer my husband quite his job of been on the road for 2 weeks and home for 2 weeks , So he could be there for me and to help more around the house. But he still need a job to so he went back to work doing what he hates, but it's a job and it will pay are bills but slowly we started to have to dip in to our savings account and when that was all gone my husband got another job so his working 2 jobs and taking care of our 3 kids and taking care of me and all my Dr. Appointment. It was stressful as hell on him and it made me feel bad that i was always sick but he would all was reminded me that we was a team , we work together and will make it through anything and that was a blessing in its self..... Going twice a week to chemo turn in to a nightmare there wasn't a day that went by that I want sick. And I'm so grateful for all the love and support that was shown to me and my family. I don't know how we would have made it throught the past 7 and half months with out it . And I'm sorry for asking any one for money especially $10,000 dollars , because every one is struggling to make ends meet this days because of when covid=19 hit. So like I've all ready said any and all help will be greatly appreciated even it is just advice. Here is my paypal link again https://paypal.me/ShantelleGibson644?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US
Thank you God bless
And I'll be posting on here and keeping everyone up to date ...... but a for warning so of the thing I'll be sharing are not kids friendly but I feel that if I Wright it on here that maybe someone that is going throught the same thing and there to afraid speak up or tell any one that they aren't alone and im hoping it will give them the strength they need to fight back ..... or if you know someone that is going through the same thing you can tell them there not alone that ther are people out there that underst what ( who ever it may be ) is going through and there not alone and it's OK to fight back , or feel the way they do ...... I hear to the the world know about my past and I hope that it will help many of people know that there not alone
( AND I ASK FOR NO PITTY OR IM SO SORRY ...... I JUST WANT TO HELP OTHERS )

So i saw crystal skull when it first came out, and then probably the last time i eatched it was in 2010
Ever since then ive avoided watching it again
When i saw it in 08 i wanted my money back, and have always said i still want my money back
Now i sat back and watched it for the first time in 13 years to give it a chance, as part of the lead up to number 5 i watched all the films back to back
And.....ya my opinion hasnt changed
Ive always said there are things i like in this movie. Lots of things even. But you put all these things together and you still end up with a movie i dont like
And now?
Well i struggle to find that many things that i do like to be honest.....
For positives:

1. The opening. Its great up until the nuking of the fridge. Which even that....sigh ill suspend my disbelief for it.
   
2. Cate blanchet as the villain. I do remember liking her More when i first saw it but shes not fantastic here. Shes fine. Just fine. Having just come off all the other indy films i found myself really enjoying each of the villains in those so much, then we get here and....well in those movies i always felt like the villain was having a blast. They seemed to be having a good time. Cate blanchet doesnt feel like shes having a good time. So she feels less interesting
   
3. The design of the skull. Its creepy and weird and i kinda like it. It also fits in with some meso american depictions of their gods well enough that it does feel both unique yet possible in a weird way?
   
4. Mac. I know a lot of people have reservations about "jonesy's" duplicitous friend but where cate blanchett doesnt feel like shes having fun, mac is clearly having a good time. My only criticisms are that stupid thing he wears around his neck, and the fact that in his final scene hes not getting sucked in by the vortex when indy throws him the whip. He just....fell down. And wasnt getting up. Come on spielberg coulda done better with that
   
5. The action was pretty good. Not as good as previous films save the early scenes
   

Now what i dont like

1. Mutt williams. This whole character just feels so out of place and so miscast. Shia feels out of place. The greaser thing is leaned into way to heavily. Every time he pulls out that stupid comb in serious scenes it just frustrates me.
   
2. The river sequence. Once marion guns that car boat off the cliff its all downhill from there. Theres 0 way she knew to hit that tree she just got lucky. There was some great advice i saw for writing- luck should never be a reason something happens in your script unless its Bad Luck. Everything should be "because or therefore" not "and then". The whole river sequence feels like and Then on repeat. And oddly enough i can suspend my disbelief this time on the bomb sequence. But not on them surviving those 3 waterfalls and somehow 1. Not getting injured or 2. Not losing the skull? Seriously?? No!
   
3. The aliens. Why george. Why. The whole aliens thing shouldnt have been anywhere near this. And yes i know spielberg directed it, but these were all georges ideas. But anyway the aliens didnt belong here. Ell dorado? Yes. Crystal skulls? Sure. But aliens? Or should i say "interdimensional beings"? No. Just...no. at the very least had they stayed as just the crystal skeletons i could go for it. But the fact that they are little grey men? That crosses a line. The crystal skeletons looked cool and weird and creepy, KEEP THEM THAT WAY
   
4. The flying saucer. I get it george, you wanted this to be a tribute to 50s bad sci fi. I got it in 08, and i got it now. But the flying saucer is, again, a step to far. Im not even sure what id use to replace the saucer with since clearly akhator needs to be destroyed but the fact that the temple breaks apart to show a futuristic flying saucer....thats jumping the shark. The movie just lost my good will
   
5. The cgi animals. Its not even about the cgi quality, its just that they are THERE. They add nothing to any scene they are in, if anything they highly detract from it. Except the gophers watching the rocket car, which made me chuckle. But the monkeys attacking the villain? Mutt tarzaning through the forest? No. Even the ants got to much. The fact we see them carry the heavy into the anthill was to much. The fact we see cate blanchetf squash one between her knees and splatter the camera was to much. They can use the ants and still have them be deadly, but these couple moments ruined it for me
   
6. The fact that theres 2 separate indiginous groups protecting the skull and the city that are completely unrelated to each other. This one is definately minor compared to the previous 2 but still. Its just....really odd and both groups amount to nothing. For how this could have been handled, look no further than the last crusade. We have the brotherhood of the cruciform sword. They show up, attack indy, and then later reappear to attack the bad guys. In this one we have random graveyard guard people, then we have the people of akhator. Who were the first group, why are they there? No answers. Apparently they are just locals who like to kill graverobbers. Its just....so odd and feels like either something was cut, or that the graveyard fight scene was added for the sake of adding an action scene for the sake of adding an action scene, like the droid factory in episode 2 of star wars was penciled into the script by george lucas for that reason.
   
7. "Get that greaser!" I liked the idea of the fight scene in the sock hop. The problem is the fact that everyone looks straight out of grease makes it feel a tad to cliche and on the nose. Its not terrible but its a perfect example of how a scene can take you out of a movie in 1 split second. And that second was when mutt landed on the other guys and they all turn around and all happen to be greasers
   

Anyway i think thats long enough for this post at least

I've got no irl friends, I hate my job, my coworkers hate me, I hate myself, my online friend attempted suicide yesterday and another one succeeded last month. I think I'm next. I tried before this time I'll just have to do it better. Drugs were helping for a while but now I have to stay sober for work and I'm so tired. I'm just tired. I don't like venting it makes me feel selfish and I can't stand eating anymore it makes me feel horrible. Nobody will see this anyway and even if they do honestly who gives a fuck my problems are exactly that, my problems. The only irl person I hang out with is my least favorite person on this God forsaken earth and I only hang out with him for the drugs. We have an entire cabinet full of pills with faulty lock. I also got some cash from my work I was reading into nitrogen inhalation as a form of suicide. I cut myself again and I'm in so much pain. Nobody cares. Nobody should. Fuck this I'm gonna go watch YouTube and ruin my sleep schedule again a day before my next shift

I know my parents, but I didn't really know my parents' siblings growing up. I got to know my dad's a bit, but my mom stayed away from her family, and now I understand why.
One of my mom's brothers came to visit. He was one of the few that we did sorta know, but hadn't seen in many years. Life just kept going in separate directions for us. He visited, and with time he wanted to go back to his home state. Turns out that he knew he was dying when he came to visit, and he wanted to go back to his home state to die around as many of his siblings and their families as possible. He kept telling us that we should know our family members, and that they would love us, and we would love them, and it would be this grand, loving reunion.
If it had been this big ball of familial love that it was supposed to be, I obviously wouldn't be here complaining, but here I am. My mom was one of 15 kids, and not all of them live in this state, but a nice little collection of some of them do, and their adult kids, and some adult grandkids. Little by little, we met and hung out with family members, and we were emotional and grateful for this opportunity to know our own kin. Growing up without the extended family connection was difficult for myself and my adult son, and we thought we had a balm for the soul in connecting with these people.
Soon after meeting everyone, we started to notice the lies, the theft, the inappropriate comments and suggestions. They turned out to be thieves, liars, schemers, perverts, abusers, and cultists. We didn't find out all at once. We would find out about one or two members at a time, thinking they were outliers, and the others can't be that bad, right? Wrong. So wrong.
Now I understand why my mom didn't have much to do with her sibs for years and years. She thought they had changed, too. I'm not a Christian, but my mom is, and she genuinely believed that some of these people had found Jesus and changed their lives around. They had only changed their superficial appearances. Underneath, gods, just so much ugly underneath.
Now, we've been through 3 years of abuse by these people. We have had to cut off this one or that one, and we were down to the last couple of cousins we thought were decent. No. Lol. Just no. Not decent at all, just better at hiding their skeletons. We've been stolen from, lied about, stolen from again, and again, and again. We've been extorted, exposed to the craziness of two different cults, discovered secret drug addictions and secret alcoholism, and had our labor exploited.
I'm so tired of this. I wish we had never come here. Just know, if you have met your family and it has nearly destroyed you or your nuclear family to do so, you're not alone, and I'm so sorry it happened to you, too. We could have been an amazing family. Instead, I literally sometimes wish I could just make up my own family name and use that, because even though I don't have my mom's family's name on my documents, I would love to erase all connection to them. I already knew that my dad's family was toxic, so I wasn't crazy about the name I do have. Now, I don't want to be connected to the vast majority of anyone I'm related to outside of my mother and son.
Unfortunately, we're still living with the consequences of moving here and trusting these people. It has upended our stability and ability to survive. We had some issues before we moved out here, but nothing like this. We had a house that needed some work done that we just couldn't find the expertise and the money to pay for, but other than that it was pretty stable, and it didn't involve other people in a way that made us vulnerable. Now we can't completely get away and cut off the last pair of cousins, yet. Really hoping we find a way to, so I can put the memory of these people as far behind me as possible and move on with my life.

I've become very good at stopping and thinking before I act out, which took a lot of work. I'm struggling as of late though and it feels like I'm taking a step backwards. I think what triggered this regression is being "love-bombed" by someone I grew to trust without me realizing it for what it was. It went on for months and I fell for it. Then I got ghosted, and I only found out he got with his friend from a social media post hahaha.
Anyways, I was very careful during my time with him. I never was too clingy, didn't often double-text, made sure he didn't feel bad for being busy or going out with female friends (even if I was losing my mind on the inside). Communication was open and direct and I never did anything irritating or suffocating he just lost interest ig. The logical side of me knows that I didn't do anything wrong and it was just a decision he made. The emotional part of me is absolutely tearing me apart, telling me it's all my fault (how could you trust him like that, you ruined it, he treated you just like you needed and it's never gonna happen again, blah blah)
I didn't do anything about it, all I did was say "I understand" and remove all points of contact. But while I didn't lash out at him I'm struggling to contain all the rage and sadness in my body. I am most upset by the fact that the constant love-bombing and affection is what I need. I feel hopeless thinking about it because it will never last; they'll get bored and I'll still love them.
Since I'm moving out of state, I don't currently have a job so I have nothing to distract myself with. I'm just stuck in my own mind. My job was demanding and for two years it cut me off from the few friends I had. I'm all alone. I'm 19 and doing nothing a young person should and I hate myself for missing out. I am autistic and extremely socially anxious so I'm unsure on how to make new friends. I'm so scared of going out in public, too.
The isolation protects people from me but it also makes me worse. I can't stop myself from lashing out at my family members. I'm going back to what I used to be except this time I'm aware of it. I could really use some advice on how to regain control.
I'm also trying not to split on someone right now. She's been my friend since the 5th grade and one of my only girlfriends. She's very important to me but because of my job we never hung out. She is also a very dry texter which makes me feel like I'm bothering her. Last time we talked while playing Minecraft and it was like we were never apart. She's the sweetest girl and she said we had to have some kind of weekend together before I moved. Since then she hasn't reached out and hasn't replied to my messages. This has happened before and it's been fine but my brain is SCREAMING that she hates me and never even wanted to hang out.
I'm obsessing over everything that's happened in the past few months because my brain won't stop trying to find a mistake I made. I feel so cut off from people. I've come a long way but I still struggle socially. I still need help. My brain is split in half and is starting a war inside my own head. How do I break the cycle? I don't ever even feel awake- just feels like I'm a bystander watching me destroy everything. I don't want to be a bad person again.

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
A few of the above have already announced they will be shutting down (Apollo and RIF for instance) with the change
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do as a user?

• Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
  
• Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join the coordinated mod effort at /ModCoord.
  
• Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
  
• Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible.
  

Hi everyone,
Effective immediately, ios has shut off posting and entered 'Restricted' mode. This will mean no more posts will be coming through for the next couple days, until we review our stance on the 13th of June 2023. Our decision to bring forward the blackout is a result of the actions of the Reddit CEO as well as an abysmal AMA that did little to answer our questions or concerns.

The situation

As you may have noticed over the past week, there has been a lot of discussion surrounding Reddit's recent policy change to charge access to its API. These changes effectively kill third-party apps such as Apollo, Reddit is Fun and many others due to the exorbitant amount Reddit is asking from them to continue access to their API - with these changes threatening to cost apps such as Apollo an upwards of $20 million a year to keep running as is. These prices place an enormous financial burden on these third-party developers, making it unfeasible to continue operations. This has resulted in a number of apps announcing their plans to shut down, including Apollo.
With these apps shutting down, it also makes our jobs as Moderators that much harder. Many of us mods have had to rely on these third-party applications in order to effectively do our job, simply because the official Reddit app doesn't have the sufficient tools that these other apps offer. This will lead to many regular users having a subpar experience due to Moderators not having the tools to manage their communities well enough.
These changes also have drastic effects on those that need to use those third-party apps for accessibility reasons, due to the official app, nor new Reddit, providing proper levels of accessibility for those that need it. It's one step closer to making Reddit totally inaccessible to many users.

The Reddit CEO's recent antics

We also have concerns that Reddit's very own CEO is comfortable and willing enough to lie, twist facts and gaslight the userbase into being on 'their' side in way of accusing Apollo's developer, Christian, of blackmail and threatening Reddit. And, when proven to be lying through audio recordings, deciding to double down on villainizing said developer in his most recent 'AMA'.
As moderators and users, this kind of behaviour erodes our trust in the company's leadership and undermines our confidence in any statements or actions they take. The AMA today was also abysmal enough to the point we wanted to bring our blackout forward from June 12th. It failed to answer any of our questions or concerns.
If you want further context on this particular issue, please read Christian's (Apollo Dev) post here: https://www.reddit.com/apolloapp/comments/144f6xm/apollo_will_close_down_on_june_30th_reddits/

So, how long is this blackout going to last?

It's tough to say. It's something that we've gone back and forth on internally because we need to weigh up various factors when making a decision like locking down a subreddit with 3.8 million subscribers and thousands of daily active users. It isn't as simple as some have suggested it to be.
We also cannot privatise the subreddit indefinitely. We just can't. At the end of the day Admins have made it clear on numerous occasions that attempting to do so will result in intervention. In what way? We aren't entirely sure, and this is why we will be reviewing our stance on a daily basis. Reddit, at the end of the day, is a business first and foremost. It is defined by the existence of our communities. Without a clear path to end the protest, Reddit must find a solution to end it themselves. The longer the blackout drags on, and and the harder we push them, the more likely it is that they'll consider playing hard ball and going with the "Nuclear" option of removing Mod Teams and replacing them with those that they know will be compliant. While this option runs the risk of destroying communities due to replacements who don't actually understand the community they're running, it's likely to be a better option for Reddit compared to having half their website shut down.
We will try our best to keep everyone updated on our decision making. As of now, we will be re-evaluating our blackout on the 13th, where we will decide on extending it or not.
For those curious, here were some numbers on those participating in the blackout (numbers may be outdated, data was from yesterday):
​

Unique Subreddits	Unique Moderators	Combined Subscribers
3,314	15,676	1,502,606,382

You can find the full list of subreddits participating here.

What can you do to help?

Make noise, contact the Admins and voice your displeasure. Make memes, post about it, comment about it.
We do ask that you don't pressure other communities to join in, though, through modmailing them or messaging Moderators directly. This is incredibly spammy and, at the end of the day, there are subreddits (such as support ones) who should be staying open due to their importance to many people.

Conclusion

Thank you for your understanding, support, and patience during this time. Together, we will continue striving for an outcome that ensures the longevity and well-being of our communities. This is an unfortunate situation to be in, but it's also one that many feel strongly about.
If you wish to keep discussing iPhone's, iOS or anything tech-related, please feel free to join our Discord. It will be remaining open during the blackout period: https://discord.gg/iphone. We may also post updates over on our Twitter account if there's any issues: https://twitter.com/iphoneioshub
Thank you,
ios Mod Team.
​
(We may continue updating this throughout the next couple days)

Hi, I'm really struggling with Matthew 22:30, " For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven." Genesis tells the story of Eve being created for Adam because it was not good for man to be alone. Could we still have unique, and perhaps even romantic, relationships with our partners in the Christian afterlife? Even if sex and earthly marriage vows are not involved, could I still love my partner as my partner, (not only as a fellow child of God)? Surely, romantic relationships can exist without sex.
I'm just not sure if that passage means that we won't have partners anymore, or just that the earthly laws, labels, and procreation that govern marriage will no longer be necessary. Thoughts?
I want to be Christian but it makes me anxious to think about my partner just being a fellow child of God one day, no longer my true partner, and no longer able to do the loving things with me like cuddling or something. I don't want our unique relationship to disappear. Please help.

This subreddit will be joining in on the June 12th-14th protest of Reddit's API changes that will essentially kill all 3rd party Reddit apps.

To answer some questions before the copy/paste: Our discord will still be open, and we will be available there to answer any questions. We will hopefully be returning following the boycott, assuming it works. If not, we at the mod team are looking at the possibility of other platforms, including Wikidot, as methods of distancing ourselves from Reddit.
I am available both through Reddit Mail or on discord as “radguel”- I will be accepting DMs from the discord or friend requests if people have any questions.
We have one more excellent post from u/ToErrDivine coming through this weekend, as a plus side!

What's going on?

A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface .
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.

What's the plan?

On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community and buzz we've built between then and now as a tool for further action.

What can you do as a user?

• Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
  
• Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy. Bitch about it to your cat. Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join the coordinated mod effort at /ModCoord.
  
• Boycott and spread the word...to Reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th- instead, take to your favorite non-Reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
  
• Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable and law-abiding as possible.
  

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So I (37f) have been divorced from my ex ( 34m) for over 5 years now. We were together for 10 years the first 2 were great, then I started to notice some strange behaviour. He was erratic, had really bad mood swings. He could go from wanting to do 1million things one minute to not wanting to leave the bed the next.He would snap at me for no reason at all. I talked to MIL (48F) And explained the situation. She said that he had been diagnosed with bipolar syndrome years ago but quote " those doctors didn't know anything, and just wanted to take her money". Yes, if you're good with math you'll realise she had him at 14. She got pregnant by her 17 year old boyfriend at 13. It's not the point of the story, but maybe she wasn't mature enough to understand the seriousness of the problem. I got pregnant one year into our relationship and even if it wasn't planned, we were all very happy about it. It was a baby girl and both sides of the family were so excited. Things started ro get worse after my daughter was born. He almost left us when she was about a month. Then begged me to forgive him. Said he was sorry. That he'd look for help and he did and was better for a while. I always wanted to have kids that were close in age and so we started looking for another baby when my daughter was a year old. I got pregnant right away with my second child a baby boy. After the first six months or so, he stopped taking his medication. The mood changes were worse. He started being abusive with me and the kids. He would leave us locked in the house with no money, no keys and no phones. No way to get out or call for help if there was an emergency. I didn’t want to tell my mom back then first because she never liked him and was afraid she'd tell me I told you so. But also because she was having some health problems back then and I didn't want to stress her out. It was the worst years of my life. He lost job after job and didn't let me work. I'm a English teacher. Whenever we had some money saved, he would spend it on a piece of crap used car or fishing gear. Never on me or the kids. He was psychologically abusive, I would be the best mom, lover, cook, you name it one day and the next, I was a whore that had trapped him with kids he didn't want. My self-esteem was at an all time low. He cheated on me repeatedly. And then on a night were I didn’t want to have sex, he forced himself on me and that ended up with me being pregnant with my last daughter. I don't regret or resent it, because my little one is worth the pain and suffering of that horrible night.
Anyway, I finally had enough after my son one day found me crying in my bedroom and told me that he hated his dad, that I was never happy when he was home. And neither were them. I had tried to shield them from the worst, but it wasn't enough. So I decided to leave and take the kids to my mom's. He was furious first, then he said he was sorry, begged me to forgive him. But I didn’t. My MIL called me, and told me I was being an AH for breaking up a family. She's become a Christian by this point and kept telling me how I was going to go to he'll for going against God's plan dor my family. I told her almost the things her son had done to me and the kids and she didn't believe me. She had never witness any of this because she lives in another city, and we talked to her maybe once a month on the phone. That's it. When she saw I wasn't going to change my mind she stopped contact. No care for her grandchildren at all. My ex has disappeared from our lives, and I prefer it that way. He moved to another city with a girlfriend maybe a month after we left. I don't get any child support from him and I don't want it. My kids are happier, I have a great job now and I'm doing better financially, and emotionally than when I was with him. MIL reached out recently and told me she wants to see the kids. I told her the truth, the kids don't want to see her or have nothing to do with his dad or his family anymore. My kids are 14, 12 and 8 now and they understand everything and make their choices She asked me to at least send her some photos so she can see how much they've grown, when I asked my kids if they wanted me to send them they said No. My daughter thinks those photos might be sent to her dad, and she doesn't want that. Her brother and little sister agree. So I told MIL no about the photos. She cried and said it'snot fair. I'm punishing her fir her son's mistakes. But where was she this past 5 years, and when I told her her son needed help? So AITA?

Cyoa Link
Drawbacks: Incompatible, Mild R.O.S, Watchlist
8,000 + (3,000 x 3)= 17,000 cells
Kagune: Bikaku for stability
Perk:
Special Kagune: Self-ingestion (My stats are boosted when I digest my body, while I can use this to make myself stronger at the cost of getting hungrier, I choose to consume my excess RC cells)
Organization (Whole family are members): Anteiku -4,000 = 13,000
Social Class: Filthy Rich -3,000 = 10,000
Location: 20th Ward -4000 = 6000
Gene Mods: All - 4,000 = 2,000 left
Family business: Labor Company made of ghouls (construction, engineering, delivery, security and more)-2,000 cells = 0 cells left (I know it's not in the choices but if this will be similar irl this will be their choice.)
My family are well known to the public as rich ghouls; optimists who believe in peace between humans and ghouls. We give jobs to ghouls so they can afford to buy corpses instead of murder. We've had assassination attempts before, from both humans and ghouls, yet we've always fended them off as we are slightly better at everything due to the gene mods, as well as the use of Q bullets (we're rich we can afford it).
Whole family is targeted by both the clowns and Aogiri Tree due to conflicting ideals + 6,000 cells
Spy, Mask Maker and Hunter - 0 pts left
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Story Snippet:
Reporter: "Breaking News! Roland Wonjick, brother of the head of the Wonjick Corporation; Adam Wonjick was killed. We have a video to be shown now, viewer discretion is advised as the killing was quite graphic”
A video in bird's eye view (likely from a phone of a resident in a building) showed a man surrounded by 10 ghouls. The man whipped out 2 desserts eagles and well as his tail and started dual-wielding, fighting like a character in an action movie. He shot 3 ghouls in the head; 3 Ukakus before the rest started charging at him.
He had 9 bullets left (7 bullets per gun), that was when he ran up to a building, he was wall running for a scant few seconds before he leapt to another building and did the same thing, once he got to the rooftop, he crouched down and took position with one of his guns, hitting 2 koukakus in the throat and heart respectively. Those shot did not get up, meaning the bullets were q bullets, though he got caught when a bikaku like him came from behind his back and injured his shoulder (turns out there were 11), Roland Wonjick killed the would-be assassin by spearing his tail through the man.
The distraction was enough for the remaining 5, 3 koukaku, 1 bikaku, and 1 rinkaku to jump and finish the job, Roland Wonjick killed 3 ghouls before his head burst like a watermelon from being punched by a koukaku. 2 Koukakus survived yet was killed by the CCG when they tried to escape the crime scene, the ghouls were too injured and too slow to block or dodge the overwhelming rain of bullets.
Video end
Reporter: “It seems that the 3 ghouls were affiliated with the Clowns with the rest part of the Aogiri Tree. We-”
The T.V. was clicked off by an 18-year-old boy, face pale white, hands trembling and a face showing rage, he looked at the remaining members of the Wonjick family; his 2 parents, 2 brothers, 3 sisters, his uncle’s wife, and her 4 children (3 boys and a girl).
“So what do we do now?” Alex the reincarnate asked
“They want a fight, we’ll give them a slaughter” Replied his brother
“We have one shot at this, fuck this up and the other organizations will know our capabilities,” Said his uncle’s wife
“Good thing we brought all that war gear, eh?” said his cousin
1 hour later
4 armored trucks were cruising to the suspected headquarters of the Aogiri Tree, inside were the 9 members of the Wonjick family (2 adults remained to protect the 2 kids). All wore riot armor with their tails holding custom-made shields 1 meter wide, 1.5m long, 8 inches thick, and fully transparent. Some held, SRM ARMS MODEL 1216 shotguns, and Heckler & Koch MP7 submachine guns, all were dual-wielded, except for my father, and his sister-in-law, who held honest-to-god heavy machineguns (the type to be mounted on armored cars) and me who had a Barret M82 Sniper Rifle, as well as my mom who was an ukaku with a kakuja; she held a grenade launcher and blast (demolition), fragmentation, antiarmor (armor-piercing), and incendiary (fire) bombs. The bullets were not q bullets (oh how our targets wished they were, we just finished them off with our tails), they were war crime bullets, dum-dums, glass slugs, explosive, poisonous, and more, every mag had one of each. All expensive and hard to get but oh so very worth it.
Due to the bikaku giving their users supernatural stability, and our family’s genetic modifications, we all had bullshit levels of accuracy and defense similar to koukakus (we were skilled in using our tails holding the shields to parry attacks like dark souls experts, enhanced stability means we don't get pushed back much when blocking, and if we can't block we are fast enough to dodge roll).
We came at them like medieval knights against archers and peasant soldiers of old, tanky, and unstoppable. In 1 week we waged a family war against both the Clowns and the Aogiri Tree (most of our ghoul employees joined on the 3rd night), with the CCG backing us up (the enemy of my enemy is my friend) we culled 40% of the members of the Aogiri tree and 60% on the clowns.
We had a few casualties; 2 employees, 2 Anteiku, 10 CCG, and 1 volunteer V member (we gave generous compensation money to their family members), though my little brother and 40 other people were badly injured, they all healed up and we paid them (except for 25 of those 40, those were CCG members). Most of our battle gear broke but we’re rich and we had plenty of backups, it was nothing.
Humans felt safer here as most ghouls not affiliated with V or Anteiku stayed away from the 20th ward. Though a lot were scared of us due to seeing videos of ghouls getting shot once, then said ghouls screeching and crying and begging for us to kill them just to ease their pain (war crime bullets).
Despite the mini-war the family waged, the Wonjick Corporation still kept making money, by making songs (ghouls have better hearing making those of us vocally gifted easily becoming experts), construction, engineering, mining, and salvaging wrecked ships (enhanced strength) even making video games (enhanced stamina, useful for crunches). Ironically, despite being ghouls who eat humanoids (only human or ghoul corpses) both my cousins were world-renowned doctors.
Reporter: "We are live in the Wonjick Estate with James and Sarah Wonjick, world-renowned doctors, tell me how did you become experts in just a year, an extremely short amount of time?
James: “The bikaku gives their users supernatural stability, and ghouls have natural enhanced senses, we can hear a humanoid’s (both ghouls and humans) heartbeat and blood flow, see without the need for instruments, we can literally smell what’s wrong with our patients, we also require less maintenance (get tired or hungry slower) compared to humans, we can do a 72-hour surgery by ourselves without problems.”
Reporter: “Wow, that is amazing! Tell me what made you become doctors?”
Sarah: “We-”
I crashed through the wall like the Kool-Aid Man and screamed
Alex: “THEY HAVE A GOD-COMPLEX! THEY LIKE TO FEEL THE LIVES OF PEOPLE IN THEIR HA-mpphh”
Sarah quickly covered my mouth with her tail, slowly choking me in hopes that I pass out
Sarah: “Sorry about him, he’s the weird one in the family.”
Reporter: “Uhmm, okay?”
James quickly ushers the reporters out of the house
James: “Thank you so much for the interview but it’s getting late and you should go.”
Reporter: “Wait, this is live and you haven’t answered the rest of the ques-”
*Bang!* Door slams shut
End
Sorry, I took liberties with the cyoa