As a new element owner, coming from an 08 forester, im getting more used to the blind spots on my beloved cube, but wonder if anyone has used any sort of aftermarket solutions ?

My partner (35M) and I (34F) have been together almost three years. We’re not married, but we’re much more than just boyfriend/girlfriend so I am posting here. We have been living together since September. We’ve known for a while that we want to be together, settle down, and have a family. We’re somewhere in between working and middle class. We both have good jobs but are by no means affluent. He’s always been a little emotionally immature and somewhat emotionally unavailable. His family is SUPER toxic. He has a ton of childhood trauma he needs to work through. I’ve been in therapy a long time and am highly self aware We broke up for about a month last year because he was dragging his feet on moving in together. He didn’t want to move forward because he said he was scared, and I believed him. I missed him and was miserable without him. He was too. A condition of getting back together was that he see a therapist and start working on himself and putting up boundaries with his super toxic family. After going to my sister’s wedding in November, we’ve been talking a lot about our future. What kind of house we want to buy, what we would name our kids, who we would invite to our wedding. I even picked out a ring! The last few weeks I had noticed that he’d been really dodging any conversations about getting engaged or married. He’s been saying for a while he doesn’t want to get married until we can buy a house and be settled, not renting an apartment, but he couldn’t (wouldn’t) discuss his feelings any deeper than that. I asked if he could try and discuss it with the therapist, and when he was ready, we could talk about it. He came home on Friday and told me he didn’t want to get legally married because he’s seen so many men lose everything in a divorce. He said it was a fear he’d always had and it didn’t really have anything to do with me. I was absolutely blindsided by this information, and we fought for a solid 24 hours. I was getting ready for bed on Saturday night and I realized he wanted to buy a house before we were married because he believed it would protect his assets/he’d keep it if we ever divorced. I asked him about it and he confirmed that it was a contributing factor. I am absolutely stunned. So hurt and offended. How could he have had this belief/fear for three years and never mention it? How could he possibly believe I would do this? I am by no means perfect. But I genuinely do not think I am the problem here. My mom and my therapist both agree, and that he’s so stunted he will never be able to grow out of his trauma and be the partner I need. He will never meet my emotional needs. Here’s the thing though, I am still blinded by love. It’s hard. He’s my best friend. I am devastated but also still holding out hope he will change. We’re stuck in a lease together until September, and I can’t afford to live on my own. I don’t want to move back in with my mom, and I am apprehensive to move in with a strange roommate. I love him, and I want this to work but I am just not sure we can recover from this. We’re doing a couples session with his therapist later this week. What do I do? Do I try and work on it, or do I figure out how to preserve my sanity for the next few months while I plan an exit strategy? TLDR: My boyfriend of three years just told me he doesn’t want to get legally married because he’s afraid he’d lose all his money in a divorce because I don’t make as much as he does or have as much in the bank. If we did get legally married, a condition would be that he’d buy us a house first…so that it was his and I couldn’t take it in a divorce. I am devastated. We’re in a lease together until September. WHAT DO I DO? And not to brag, but I am totally awesome and ridiculously beautiful. I am a real catch, so I know there’s other fish in the sea. But I love HIM. ETA: Just to mention, I have bipolar disorder and am on disability which is something totally valid for him to have concerns about. I take medication, go to therapy, group therapy, do not drink alcohol frequently, eat a healthy diet, and have a really solid support system. Before becoming disabled, I had a successfully career and made A LOT of money so my disability + the little I am allowed to work is about 38,000 USD after taxes annually. I have no loans, no debt, and own my car. My financial situation isn’t ideal, but it isn’t terrible.

First off, I'm completely regarded and I eat crayons so this should by no means be considered financial advice.
Anyway, I hold a few other stonks... I know, I know but stay with me because this is or at least could be GME related.
One of the other stonks I hold is Business Casual Clothing stonk (AKA E×pre$$) and they're currently in danger of being delisted. Their board is contemplating a 20:1 reverse split and will likely do so (if approved by shareholders) in the near future. I figured I would get ahead of the curve by setting a limit order for 20x the price, get my money out, wait for the hedgefucks to short it down further, and buy back in at a better price point. Now the vast majority of my shares (96% to be exact) are DRS'd with ComputerShare but unlike GME, E×PR doesn't have a DSPP, hence no "plan" shares are even possible.
So I went to set the limit order but I discovered that the drop down menu was grayed out and all I could do was Market Order.
I tried with GME and I found that I could set a limit order. My GameStop shares are all booked but I still show a zero balance in Plan Shares. I also tried with my lone share of Uncle Carl's company (IEP), which is booked with no plan share account showing, DRIP turned off, etc and it let me set a limit order on that one too.
I will be trying to get a definitive answer from CS tomorrow but my working hypothesis is that companies that don't offer DSPP or DRIP on ComputerShare will only allow market orders because they don't hold any shares with the DTCC for "operational efficiency."
My question is for the GME holders who hold pure Book shares and have consolidated their accounts to remove the "zero balance" plan holdings. Are you guys still able to set a limit order for GME shares?
****Disclaimer: I am not advocating for the selling of GME or any other shares. I simply stumbled onto something that may or may not affect certain GME holders in CS.

I’m(25m) dating this girl(26f my first girlfriend ever) from about 10 months(we’ve been friends from 4 years) and recently she’s been pressured by her parents for marriage. Naturally, she’s looking for a partner to spend her life with. And of course, I’ll be the first person she’ll think about. It’s about to be one year for our relationship and she’s saying let’s go on a trip, a weekend getaway kind of thing for celebrating the anniversary and she said you’ll be paying for everything during that trip. My first thought was like oh nice we’ll go have fun and split the expenses since I’m not very strong financially, but she’s like that’s not how things she wants in this relationship. She said she wants to be pampered and gifted expensive things frequently if this relationship has to last, and if I cannot do that for her… I don’t love her or I don’t think she’s worth those expenses. She knows how much I earn, and she’s like you earn so much and you cannot spend once on me? I have gifted her things in the past, things not very expensive, but meaningful gifts.. and on pointing it out that I’ve given her gifts in the past, she goes , “It’s not enough for me, I like materialistic things and it matters to me that my partner pampers me and gifts me all the time”.
What I wanna know is, Is this normal expectation for girls? Am I wrong here? Should I work on pampering her and gifting her more, even if I’m doing the what I can but it’s not enough according to her? She’s a really sweet girl and I don’t know if I love her or not, but I don’t want her to go away, but I don’t like how her thought process works. Am I lacking here? Considering the social norm that a man should be the PROVIDER in the society and should always be there for the woman and financially support her.( I do not follow social norms blindly and I think we should be equal in the relationship, I feel like I could be wrong). What do you guys think? Any advice you’d wanna give me?

I (m23) have been friends with this girl (f19) for about 8 months now and I decided to ask her out 2 weeks ago with some pushing from a friend. We have been spending a lot of time together and I've gotten to know her a lot better.
Thing is I just don't feel us meshing together well. She a fun person to spend time with and is very smart and lighthearted, but I just don't have strong feelings for her. She has been having some serious mental health issues over the past couple months and I worry when I tell her I'm no longer interested in a relationship she may not do so well.
I know I need to do this but I don't know how. All my past relationships ended in balls of fire that were easy to get out of, so I have no experience with this. I'm worried it'll completely blind side her.
Any advise would be great

Lololol I love her. But to say you “must be secure.” Gtfo. Many secure people get blind sighted by someone they trust. And in their 30s. It doesn’t matter about you - and I think this should be absolutely clear. You can be the best person on the planet, Nobel peace winning, Irina Shayk looking, there will still be assholes. I think it’s woman blaming and mansplaining.

I’m playing on the xbox series x, and every since the new update my menu has been really lagging. When looking at characters in lobby etc. during the game my frames are fine, it’s just during lobby it staying between 30 - 45 frames and the menus feel bad. Anyone else having this issue?

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Character Name & House: Daena Waters (House Velaryon)
Age: 24
Appearance: Daena is the one on the left.
Gift: Autodidactic
Skill(s): Alchemy (e), Burglar (e), Medic (e)
Talent(s): Etiquette, Herbal Knowledge, Magic Tricks, Slight of Hand
Starting Titles: Corlys’s bastard
Starting Location: Starting Feast
Alternate Characters: Briony Brax
Family Tree: https://www.familyecho.com/?p=START&c=pw4g3vryp6&f=289019500873617691#view:START

BIOGRAPHY

Daena Waters is the elder twin sister born to Corlys Velaryon and Alys (a smallfolk sailor’s daughter) in 183 AC. Alys passed upon giving birth to Daena and her twin sister Aelinor. The twins were lucky that Corlys brought them to Driftmark to be raised.
From a young age, Daena felt ashamed of being a bastard. Above all in life, she has strived to be worthy of the Velaryon name and hopes to one day be legitimized. The fact that her cousin is named Daena Velaryon serves as a constant reminder of what Daena Waters is not: trueborn, nor legitimized.
Daena decided early on that she would work hard to prove that she was worth the investment. She turned her mind to all sorts of learning, beginning with her studies as a medic where she was taken under the tutelage of Mira, a herbalist in Driftmark (medic (e)). At first, Daena sought comfort in the healing arts as a way of doing good in the world. But she was to learn a lot during her apprenticeship. Some women came begging Mira for a solution to their problems in a darker way: a husband to be rid of, a father, a rival, a child. Daena realized that life was not so simple as good and bad, and began studying balms and potions known to have ill effects (alchemy (e)). One day, she hopes to even come up with a cure for her trueborn half-brother Corwyn’s blindness.
Daena is constantly offering her services to Addam Velaryon and the rest of the trueborn Velaryons. Her need to be useful is vicious and deep-seeded. Insecure of her place in life, Daena finds solace through kleptomania. Stealing things gives her a sense of control in her life that she otherwise does not have. Her twin, Aelinor, has taken the blame more than once for something that has gone missing so that Daena may continue to be viewed as the ‘better’ twin.

Auxillary Character

Character Name & House: Aelinor Waters (House Velaryon)
Age: 24
Appearance: Aelinor is the one on the right.
Gift: Admiral
Skill(s): Sailing (e), Beastmaster
Talent(s): Drinking, Lying, Cursing
Starting Titles: Corlys’s other bastard
Starting Location: Starting Feast
Born in 183 AC as the younger twin sister to Corlys Velaryon and Alys (a smallfolk sailor’s daughter). Alys passed upon giving birth to the twins, who were lucky that Corlys brought them to Driftmark to be raised.
For a set of twins, Aelinor and Daena could not be more opposite in personality. Aelinor has proudly carried the mantle as a black sheep, bucking tradition and generally running wild. A compulsive liar and a free spirit, Aelinor is secretly Corlys’s favorite child. She takes after his love of sailing, and were it not for the sake of her sister Daena, Aelinor would have long ago left Westeros to seek her fortune and future in Essos (sailing (e)).
Whereas Daena attempted to appease and longs for legitimacy, Aelinor feels life is too short for apologies. From a young age, she found a kindred spirit in her cousin Laena Velaryon, much to Addam Velaryon’s chagrin.
As a young girl, Aelinor discovered that she had a knack for lying. It became a pastime of hers, to seed a lie and amuse herself with the results, though she has never lied to either Daena Waters, nor Laena Velaryon.
Growing up as a bastard, Aelinor had little responsibilities. While Daena poured herself into reading and apprenticeship, Aelinor was often out exploring or tagging along with Corlys. Or, when there was no one to look after her, Aelinor found herself spending a lot of time with the Driftmark maesters in the rookery, learning how to care for and train ravens and other types of birds (beastmaster).
Starting in 203, Aelinor decided to travel Westeros. She felt guilty about leaving Daena at Driftmark, but resolved that it would only be for short periods of time after all. During her travels, she would make various friends and lovers. For as many moons as she would be away, Aelinor made sure to return to Driftmark to spend as much time with Daena as possible before jetting off onto her next adventure as a hired sail-hand.

Archetyped NPCs

Duncan - Swords - A hedge knight who Aelinor met upon her travels. He often tags along with either of the Waters twins, scrapping up the odd coin or two with protection jobs.
Maester Rocke - Scholar - One of the maesters at Driftmark who both of the Waters twins are quite close to.

In 2019 I went to Japan and there were numerous stamps (ink stamps) located around tourists attractions and train stations. I’m currently back in Japan but I could only find one so far at the airport. What happened to them? Or is it the same and I’m just blind af? 😭😭 Thanks!

This is long, but I need help from objective internet strangers.
My partner (35M) and I (34F) have been together almost three years. We’re not married, but we’re much more than just boyfriend/girlfriend so I am posting here.
We have been living together since September. We’ve known for a while that we want to be together, settle down, and have a family.
We’re somewhere in between working and middle class. We both have good jobs but are by no means affluent.
He’s always been a little emotionally immature and somewhat emotionally unavailable. His family is SUPER toxic. He has a ton of childhood trauma he needs to work through. I’ve been in therapy a long time and am highly self aware
We broke up for about a month last year because he was dragging his feet on moving in together. He didn’t want to move forward because he said he was scared, and I believed him. I missed him and was miserable without him. He was too. A condition of getting back together was that he see a therapist and start working on himself and putting up boundaries with his super toxic family.
After going to my sister’s wedding in November, we’ve been talking a lot about our future. What kind of house we want to buy, what we would name our kids, who we would invite to our wedding. I even picked out a ring!
The last few weeks I had noticed that he’d been really dodging any conversations about getting engaged or married. He’s been saying for a while he doesn’t want to get married until we can buy a house and be settled, not renting an apartment, but he couldn’t (wouldn’t) discuss his feelings any deeper than that.
I asked if he could try and discuss it with the therapist, and when he was ready, we could talk about it.
He came home on Friday and told me he didn’t want to get legally married because he’s seen so many men lose everything in a divorce. He said it was a fear he’d always had and it didn’t really have anything to do with me.
I was absolutely blindsided by this information, and we fought for a solid 24 hours.
I was getting ready for bed on Saturday night and I realized he wanted to buy a house before we were married because he believed it would protect his assets/he’d keep it if we ever divorced. I asked him about it and he confirmed that it was a contributing factor.
I am absolutely stunned. So hurt and offended. How could he have had this belief/fear for three years and never mention it? How could he possibly believe I would do this?
I am by no means perfect. But I genuinely do not think I am the problem here. My mom and my therapist both agree, and that he’s so stunted he will never be able to grow out of his trauma and be the partner I need. He will never meet my emotional needs.
Here’s the thing though, I am still blinded by love. It’s hard. He’s my best friend. I am devastated but also still holding out hope he will change.
We’re stuck in a lease together until September, and I can’t afford to live on my own. I don’t want to move back in with my mom, and I am apprehensive to move in with a strange roommate.
I love him, and I want this to work but I am just not sure we can recover from this. We’re doing a couples session with his therapist later this week.
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TLDR: My boyfriend of three years just told me he doesn’t want to get legally married because he’s afraid he’d lose all his money in a divorce...he has maybe 30k for a down payment. He works hard, but he's not protecting a family fortune. If we did get legally married, a condition would be that he’d buy "us" a house first…so that it was his and I couldn’t take it in a divorce. I am devastated. We’re in a lease together until September. WHAT DO I DO?
What do I do? Do I try and work on it, or do I figure out how to preserve my sanity for the next few months while I plan an exit strategy?
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ETA: Just to mention, I have bipolar disorder and am on disability which is something totally valid for him to have concerns about. I take medication, go to therapy, group therapy, do not drink alcohol frequently, eat a healthy diet, and have a really solid support system. Before becoming disabled, I had a successfully career and made A LOT of money so my disability + the little I am allowed to work is about 38,000 USD after taxes annually. I have no loans, no debt, and own my car. My financial situation isn’t ideal, but it isn’t terrible.
And not to brag, but I am totally awesome and ridiculously beautiful. I am a real catch, so I know there’s other fish in the sea. But I love HIM.

After. About 45 seconds of a song being played it just stops, and when I reopen the app it takes me to the main menu.. any ideas how to fix? I installed the latest update and still broke

What is the difference between special issuance and soda? Is it just the Air surgeon's decision? The disqualifying conditions for both issuance are the same right? Like Monocular vision, cannot be met 20/20 with glasses.
And I know that if the pilot is color blind, he/she will get the limitation on their medical certificate. In that situation, there is nothing related to special issuance or soda. Am I correct in assuming that? I have never seen the soda certificate, what does it look like?
For the last question, the special issuance and soda is only for the third class? Or can it be second or first as well?

My skin has a weird reaction to dairy. If I consume the slightest bit of dairy, I will break out. But my breakouts aren’t as typical as they used to be. Now, I get a lot of blind pimples or under the skin cysts. They stay for a while until they turn into scabs. The scab stays for a long time, and it gets hard to cover them with makeup since they have so much so texture. I can never figure out if drying them out with tea tree oil or keeping them moisturized with vaseline helps better. Most of the time, when they turn into scabs, it will turn into a scab/pimple with puss. I don’t really understand my skin.

I’ve been dealing with anorexia since I was 16. I’m now 27. I also have been in and out of being “bad” and “good” due to substance abuse either putting me back under or making me gain weight. Right now I’m sober and I’m to the point where I’m very unhealthy and “sick looking” but I don’t see the sick look or the unhealthy look that people tell me, but my blood work and other results state that I am unhealthy and have done a great amount of damage to my body. It makes me feel like people are lying to me to make me gain more and more weight. I’m seeing a dietician, 2 therapist and doing group 3 times a week. I started this 3 months ago. And I have made almost no progress. I will try really hard. I freak out and cry when I eat. I freak out and cry after blind weights begging and manipulating for them to tell me how much, or at least if I’m doing better or worse. But “better” to me is bad because that means I’m gaining weight, “worse” is more ok to me because it means I’m not gaining weight or I’m losing weight. I’m exhausted and tired of feeling full, people asking me if I’m going to eat more, sending pictures of what I eat, getting asked if I’m purging, panicking, crying, etc. it literally consumes my whole day and my whole life and I just want out. I really have no one to talk to about any of this besides professionals but no one really on a relatable level. I feel really alone. So if anyone has any advice on their experience or what has helped them I would be very appreciative.

Hey everyone! Since the sub's been growing, I figured it's about time for an official sub FAQ. I'll be adding to this as time goes on, ofc, so keep an eye out for any changes!
If you have any suggestions for questions I should add, feel free to comment down below!
Q: Where can I buy Smiskis?
A: You can buy Smiskis online! Here's a directory straight from Dream with websites you can purchase Smiskis from depending on your region. If you're looking for places to purchase Smiskis in person, the Sonny Angel app has a location based directory as well.
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Q: Is there a list of every Smiski ever made?
A: There's no official list, however there are a couple of fan made ones. Here's a link to a list created by u/yunggho It's perfect for keeping track of which Smiskis yo have in your collection. In case you're looking for a list of every Secret Smiski, this one created by u/kamisamakai is available for you to use.
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Q: How can I find the Smiskis that I want?/Avoid getting dupes?
A: Since Smiskis are blind box items, getting a specific one can be a bit of a challenge. The good news is that if you pull a Smiski you don't want, you can find someone who might be willing to trade or buy the Smiski from you! However, if you want to avoid that process altogether, my suggestion would to buy opened Smiskis from someone or using the weighing method.
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Q: What's the weighing method?
A: The weighing method is used by some Smiski collectors who purchase their Smiskis in person. They bring a scale with them and weigh the Smiski boxes in order to give them a better estimate of which Smiski is in which box. The Smiski collection list also has a version created by u/yunggho, u/ss_sue, and u/kamisamakai that includes known weights of Smiskis. If you'd like to help add weights to the list, contact any of the previous three users to let them know.

Have everything running great FPS wise and visually, not encountering any crashes but every time i switch weapon, ability or exit a menu the game will freeze for a second. Any advice on fixing this?
Running a GTX 980 ti i7 4990k with 32 gb ram. Have all the general mods dynamic fps, visual fixes etc and have tried messing around with settings to no avail. Game runs great but the freeze gets in the way of combat. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.